How can I explain to my family why I won't invite my Aunt and Uncle?

yogapants · May 2015

@MandyMost "family" doesn't give you a free pass to be an asshole. I have a couple of aunts and uncles who I'd be happy never to see or speak to again because they're shitty people. They don't get an invite just because we share an ancestor.

OP, stick to your guns. Even if your parents contributed, I do think you're allowed to say no to this pair of winners. I agree with PPs that many of your relatives will be quietly relieved at your decision. One of the aunts I mentioned was invited to my cousin's wedding last summer and I know that my parents, my grandpa, and the parents of the groom would rather not have had her there.

petersenthorne · May 2015

I'm in the same situation right now. My mom is engaged the same time I am, and she's insisting I invite her future-in-laws to my wedding. Yes, I've known them my entire life, but that doesn't mean they deserve to go to my wedding. (There's an extremely long history that I shouldn't even get into.)

So what I did, I sat down and had a heart-to-heart with my mom. I explained to her that I'm paying for my wedding, so I get the final say. I'm already having issues with my guest list, and she trying to guilt me into inviting them, saying that they will be hurt if they don't get an invite.

At the end of the day, it's your wedding, the biggest day of your life. Why would you want to add to the stress during that special day? If you're still having issues, maybe instead of talking to your mom, talk to your grandmother.

becomingmcclain · May 2015

My aunt and her two boys are not invited. They live abroad and might not come, but I cannot risk them deciding they'd like to be there. They ruined a family reunion and my uncle's funeral. I will not stand for their behavior at my wedding. My aunt was incredibly nasty to my mother after my uncle's passing. My mom likes to keep the peace among her large family so she never stood up for herself and forgave too quickly, IMO. I, on the other hand, have not forgiven what she said and did to my mom. I'm pretty protective of my mom and told her I would not be inviting my aunt or her sons. I still have nine months to go but so far no one has said they are upset about it.

I do feel a tad guilty as she let me stay at her place when I was traveling 6 years ago. And she never did anything directly to me. I just don't want her there.

Viczaesar · May 2015

Zombie thread, guys!

How can I explain to my family why I won't invite my Aunt and Uncle?

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