Cards from both?

beachyone15 · May 2015

DH and I had a misunderstanding about sending out our Mother's Day cards. He signed all the cards for his mom/grandma from him only, and expected me to sign the one for my mom from me only. I told him I felt that since we are a "unit" now, cards to both moms should be signed by both of us. He told me he hadn't really thought of it, but that made sense so that's how we'd do things going forward.

I know this is really a minor issue, but I was just curious. Do you send out cards; and if so, do you sign all cards from the both of you? Are there specific occasions where you only sign from one person?

sunset30 · May 2015

Yes, we sign all cards from both of us.

The only personal (i.e., non professional) communication I would sign just my name would be a thank you card if someone gave just me a gift or did something nice for me. But even for our wedding and baby shower gifts (which I know you're not asking here) I signed all our thank you notes from both of us since they benefitted both of us.

littlemushroom · May 2015

Yes, all cards are signed from both of us.

hellosweetie1015 · May 2015

This is the first card holiday we've had, so I'm not sure what we'll be doing. I mean, we aren't married yet, but I'm debating sending FMIL a card from just me if FI doesn't want me to get one from us. She's awesome, and I want her to know how lucky I am to have her (especially after reading some of the MIL/FMIL stories on here), but I don't want it to be weird since FI doesn't really "do cards" (his words).

dolewhipper · May 2015

Both, and thats been the way for awhile (before we were married).

sarahufl · May 2015

I sent a mother's day card to my mom, just from me. IDK, I feel oddly territorial about my parents and I don't feel like MIL is a mother figure to me.

Other cards are always signed jointly.

kvruns · May 2015

Mothers day/fathers day just from me, the others are both of us. kind of like @sarahufl maybe I feel territorial about my parents, but I feel like the sentiment is from me so it is signed that way. He wouldn't have a problem signing it and I don't think my mom would care one way or the other. For all I know he put my name on his step-mom's card, I dont really know.

sarahufl · May 2015

Yeah, my MIL called me once bc H was going out of town 2 days after we moved into our house. She kept saying "you can call me or dad if you need anything" and I wanted to scream- "YOU ARE NOT MY PARENTS".

And I don't want to sound bratty, because I generally do get along with them, but they are H's parents, not mine.

It also may be the idea that they think a woman can't be in a house by herself for a week that bothered me, but that is another story for another day.

sarawifenow · May 2015

We sign all of our cards from both of us. Usually we will just write in the name of the other person instead of them actually signing their name.

ashley8918 · May 2015

We have always signed all cards from both of us, since well before we were married. It would seem really weird not to, to me.

charcoalandblush · May 2015

We've signed all of our cards jointly for a long time. Probably since we had been together about a year or so. Mother's day, wedding gifts, Christmas, whenever.

Although my bridal shower thank you notes I only signed from me.

loveislouder · May 2015

We sign all our cards from both of us. Cards for our parents also get signed with 2 little paw prints because of our cats lol

littlepep · May 2015

We always sign birthday cards and stuff jointly, but we do mother's day and father's day separately. I never really thought about doing those jointly.

climbingsingle · May 2015

Yup, we sign the cards with both of our names.

Cookie Pusher · May 2015

I've been doing all the cards/gifts pretty much since DH and I graduated college over a decade ago. I just sign both of our names because it's easier. If it was up to him, no one would be getting cards or gifts because he'd just forget.

falsara · May 2015

We both sign the cards and have for any major holidays since we got engaged. For gifts that are just to me or just to him, then only one of us signs it.

daria24 · May 2015

littlepep said:
We always sign birthday cards and stuff jointly, but we do mother's day and father's day separately. I never really thought about doing those jointly.

This is us. I just mailed my mother's card this morning and didn't really think to put H's name on it. But when I send them birthday cards or holiday cards I always have both of us sign it.

LadyMillil · May 2015

We've signed all cards from both of us since our second year together.

NowIamMrsKlein · May 2015

We sign both names, but whose ever parent the card is for, that's who writes in it.

FI will write in the card for his mother and sign both our names, and vice versa. I find that way it's more personal to the person it is intended too, coming from their actual relative, but notes that the other is thinking about them too.

FI always wants me to fill out his cards because my writing is nicer than his, but I always argue that the card is for his mom, and therefore he should be the one writing the main message. I may add my own personal note at the bottom if I have something specific I want to say.

JennyColada · May 2015

All thank you cards, holiday cards, birthday cards, etc. are signed from both of us.

The only exception would be if someone gave me individually a gift (like birthday or Christmas gifts), clearly DH would not be thanking my BFF for the bracelet that she got me.

ElcaB · May 2015

All cards are signed from both of us.

luckya23 · May 2015

Is it bad that I don't really want another family to be responsible for?

I'm pretty sure FI has never sent a card in his life, so I'd really rather not "take over" a task he never bothered with...

It never occurred to me to put his name on my mother's day card since it's a daughter specific card which is typically what I have always bought!

twojunebrides · May 2015

We sign from both... this year while we were shopping for mothers day I asked if I could sign FI's mother's card... If FI said no, I was going to buy future mother in law a card from just me... I wanted her to know I was thinking about her too.

APDSS22 · May 2015

We sign cards from both of us and anyone who has met our dogs gets 2 paw prints as well (even though they were obviously drawn by someone with opposable thumbs). Usually I'm the one who actually does the signing since DH has pretty awful handwriting.

lovemesomemonster · May 2015

We sign everything together, and by "we" I mean I put his name on the cards, it if was up to him nobody would ever get anything. The only exception is mothers and fathers day, I send a card to his mom just from me, and he always gets together with his siblings to do a gift for them. I send out close to 50 Christmas cards every year and have since I moved out at 18, poor guy was stuck on them from year one so for the last 6 years my family has received them from both of us (not sure he even knows that to this day).

levieenrose · May 2015

We both sign. Actually, we both write a message because DH is never content to just sign his name. I think he's always trying to one-up me. :-P

While MIL is obviously not my mom, I hope one day I get to the point where she feels a lot like it. It'd be nice to actually call her "Mom" someday. (That's a pretty common thing on both sides of my family to call your MIL or FIL by "Mom" or "Dad." It's an endearment--no one thinks you are confused.)

ETA: His messages are actually usually a lot nicer than mine are, but I have the advantage of legible handwriting.

lyndausvi · May 2015

Cards are for the most part for the both of us. I just sent MD flowers last night to our moms. My mom's was signed "Lyndausvi and DH", MIL's was "DH and Lyndausvi".

I do not feel like MIL is my mom, but I recognize she is DH's mom, seems odd to ignore that if you will.

Until we moved to the mountain time zone DH was always the first one to call my mom to wish her a Happy Mother's Day. He did this on his own at work (which he was normally at pretty early due to MD brunches). I would call my mom and she is all like "DH called me a few hours ago to wish a happy MD. He is so sweet". I'm thinking, what a brown-noser, beating me
(and the rest of the family) by a few hours.

I call MIL and wish her Happy MD on my own, while DH is at work. But it's after DH has called, because as I said above, he beats us all at calling moms.

afox007 · May 2015

I sign all cards from both of us and occasionally FSS. Last Mother's Day I did put a disclaimer that the message printed on the front of the card were my sentiments only.

This year I'm being a brat. I made it very clearly I will not be buying a Mother's Day card for FMIL and if FI sends one my name will not be in it.

FiancB · May 2015

We sign from both. Though in the case of mother's day, I'm pretty sure I'll be sending my mom a card and he'll send his one.

knottie9c5ed33df4bbd226 · May 2015

We sign all cards from both of us, unless I am buying a girl friend a birthday gift or something. I also only sign my name on shower gifts.

huskypuppy14 · May 2015

hicoco said:
We sign all cards from both of us, unless I am buying a girl friend a birthday gift or something. I also only sign my name on shower gifts.

Ditto.

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