A little background, my parents have been divorced for 19 years, my mother is cordial to both my father and my step mother, but my father is the kind of man who has actually left restaurants before because my mother happened to be eating at the same place. He also severed all ties with my oldest brother, who is my mothers biological son from a previous relationship.
We're having a VERY small wedding and the awkwardness is already killing me. My other siblings didn't even have weddings, just elopements, so this will be a whole new arena. I'd really like to have a photo of me and my new husband with my WHOLE family, I'd rather not split the family up for the sake of one person who can't be comfortable with an ex of almost 20 years. Do I let dad know my plans ahead of time and allow him to either acclimate to the idea or bow out, or do I attempt to accommodate the family drama