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gifts for those in the wedding/bridal party

hopefullizhopefulliz member
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So, our wedding is in 2 weeks! We are pressed for time and money, so we decided to forgo favors, but just get gifts for those in the bridal party and wedding ceremony in some other way (readers, soloists). I'm looking at my ceremony, and it turns out, that's alot of people, and we have very little money to spend. I have my maid of honor and 3 bridesmaids, best man and 3 groomsmen (fiance is taking care of these gifts) sis in law and her baby who she is escorting as the flower girl, other sis in law is doing a reading, my friend is doing a reading, my friend and her mom are playing harp and piano, my cousins are doing the guest book and program, and another dear friend is doing a solo. AH! Do you think I need to get gifts for all these people, or would just the bridesmaids suffice? I can't afford to spend hundreds more dollars on this! Do you have any suggestions of gifts that might be inexpensive, but also enjoyed? 
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Lizzie
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    esstee33esstee33 member
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    edited July 2015
    hopefulliz said:

    So, our wedding is in 2 weeks! We are pressed for time and money, so we decided to forgo favors, but just get gifts for those in the bridal party and wedding ceremony in some other way (readers, soloists). I'm looking at my ceremony, and it turns out, that's alot of people, and we have very little money to spend. I have my maid of honor and 3 bridesmaids, best man and 3 groomsmen (fiance is taking care of these gifts) sis in law and her baby who she is escorting as the flower girl, other sis in law is doing a reading, my friend is doing a reading, my friend and her mom are playing harp and piano, my cousins are doing the guest book and program, and another dear friend is doing a solo. AH! Do you think I need to get gifts for all these people, or would just the bridesmaids suffice? I can't afford to spend hundreds more dollars on this! Do you have any suggestions of gifts that might be inexpensive, but also enjoyed? 

    Thanks,
    Lizzie
    I don't know if it's the "correct" answer per etiquette, but I'd definitely get each of those people something. Don't overthink it, though -- it doesn't have to be expensive or huge. 

    As for ideas, shop for them like it's their birthday. What do each of them like? What would you get them for any other gift-giving event? Do that. 
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    BrinkyDink16BrinkyDink16 member
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    I'm doing monogrammed travel mugs for my side.  They all love coffee and they're each under $15. 

    For my readers I'm getting / making bookmarks with whatever they're reading at the wedding on them.

    FH is getting his men engraved scalpels ... not sure what they're supposed to do with those but it's his choice and it does fit with our horror movie theme.

    Don't know if that'll help you at all but it's what we're doing!
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    hopefullizhopefulliz member
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    thanks so much! I was thinking for my bridesmaids, cute necklaces :)
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    esstee33esstee33 member
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    hopefulliz said:

    thanks so much! I was thinking for my bridesmaids, cute necklaces :)

    If it's something you intend for them to wear during the wedding, then I'd recommend something else. That's not a gift to them. Make it NOT about your wedding. 
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    esstee33 said:

    hopefulliz said:

    thanks so much! I was thinking for my bridesmaids, cute necklaces :)

    If it's something you intend for them to wear during the wedding, then I'd recommend something else. That's not a gift to them. Make it NOT about your wedding. 



    ^^^This!  It's also the reason I'm not a fan of most monogrammed items such as flasks, glasses, beer glasses, coffee mug, etc. because they're still about your wedding, not the person.  I know you mentioned earlier you didn't have hundreds to spend, but with that many people, it's going to add up quickly even for a basic "cute" necklace. 

    The only way I'd probably get on board with the "small cute necklace" is as a pre-gift type thing and then do something as an actual thank-you after the wedding when your finance are back in order (say a month) send your MOH/BM/Readers each a dozen boxed roses or chocolate dipped strawberries via FTD (since it'd be cheaper than the florist/grocery using their free shipping/handling program) or something from your honeymoon of value as an add-on thank you gift later.   You don't HAVE to do it at the RD, you can do something scheduled after the event if you truly can't afford it before.

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