May I start a discussion on sex?

redoryx · May 2015

Year and a half.

I was actually in a long term relationship at the time. Go figure.

vikinganna87 · May 2015

I'd never heard of a Hitachi Wand before, so thank you PPs

@lacqueredlover Hang in there; I have no doubt you'll get what you're looking for soon.

Blergbot · May 2015

Three years. I was going through some PTSD stuff related to a sexual assult.

With H? Six weeks post partum. Worst part of pregnancy! Last night I was all excited, because I just got my four week post IUD insertion check up and was finally cleared to have sex sans condom. So what does H do? He picks a fucking fight with me. Not only did I not get any last night, but I was up half the night seething and or crying. We've since made up, but I'm still bitter about him ruining sexy time.

Otherwise I am very proud of us. Until I was hospitalized and on pelvic rest, we got it on every night (as per usual) while I was KU. And since we've had baby, we're back at it every night. Sure, we take a "night off" here and there, and, obviously if one of us is out of town...but otherwise, it's on.

Before H came along, though, I didn't have a lot of regular sex. Most of my relationships lasted between two and four months, so in between I'd have long dry spells. I did have one casual partner who was very good at the things!

huskypuppy14 · May 2015

4 years. Not really by choice. I just didn't find anyone and wasn't really into the hook up scene anymore. Then I met my now husband.

We do it about once a week. We've gone a month in between when he had surgery.

mrscomposer · May 2015

Three years, then another two. J and I go at least every other day, if not every day (if I'm not on my period).

lacqueredlover · May 2015

Man period sex is awesome! I miss that too haha

KatWAG · May 2015

Blergbot said:
Three years. I was going through some PTSD stuff related to a sexual assult.

With H? Six weeks post partum. Worst part of pregnancy! Last night I was all excited, because I just got my four week post IUD insertion check up and was finally cleared to have sex sans condom. So what does H do? He picks a fucking fight with me. Not only did I not get any last night, but I was up half the night seething and or crying. We've since made up, but I'm still bitter about him ruining sexy time.

Otherwise I am very proud of us. Until I was hospitalized and on pelvic rest, we got it on every night (as per usual) while I was KU. And since we've had baby, we're back at it every night. Sure, we take a "night off" here and there, and, obviously if one of us is out of town...but otherwise, it's on.

Before H came along, though, I didn't have a lot of regular sex. Most of my relationships lasted between two and four months, so in between I'd have long dry spells. I did have one casual partner who was very good at the things!

I only waited 3 weeks after having my LO. All those hormones were making me horny! Oops!

Kahlyla · May 2015

Blergbot said:
Three years. I was going through some PTSD stuff related to a sexual assult.

With H? Six weeks post partum. Worst part of pregnancy! Last night I was all excited, because I just got my four week post IUD insertion check up and was finally cleared to have sex sans condom. So what does H do? He picks a fucking fight with me. Not only did I not get any last night, but I was up half the night seething and or crying. We've since made up, but I'm still bitter about him ruining sexy time.

Otherwise I am very proud of us. Until I was hospitalized and on pelvic rest, we got it on every night (as per usual) while I was KU. And since we've had baby, we're back at it every night. Sure, we take a "night off" here and there, and, obviously if one of us is out of town...but otherwise, it's on.

Before H came along, though, I didn't have a lot of regular sex. Most of my relationships lasted between two and four months, so in between I'd have long dry spells. I did have one casual partner who was very good at the things!
I only waited 3 weeks after having my LO. All those hormones were making me horny! Oops!

I was the horniest I'd ever been in my entire life like three days after giving birth. Of course sex was out of the question but I very, very gently masturbated, clitoral stimulation only (it took like twelve seconds, lol).

I think we did wait the full six weeks plus a day or two, and that's the longest we've ever gone. That might be the longest I've ever gone since starting to have sex, I'd have to think about that...

ShesSoCold · May 2015

lacqueredlover said:
Man period sex is awesome! I miss that too haha

lacqueredlover said:

lacqueredlover said:
STUCK IN THE BOX

lacqueredlover said:

lacqueredlover said:
You're a better woman than I. The child in me just thinks it's icky.

mrscomposer · May 2015

lacqueredlover said:
Man period sex is awesome! I miss that too haha

I don't mind it, but J hasn't quite gotten used to the idea yet

redoryx · May 2015

lacqueredlover said:
Man period sex is awesome! I miss that too haha

I don't know if I'd describe it as awesome but it's not as bad as I thought it would be.

charcoalandblush · May 2015

redoryx said:

lacqueredlover said:
Man period sex is awesome! I miss that too haha
I don't know if I'd describe it as awesome but it's not as bad as I thought it would be.

Ughhh. I wish I could get DF on board. He's grossed out by it. Since I got Mirena, I don't have a real "period," but a couple of times a year I spot for like 3 weeks straight.

DF and I have both tapered off. We started off like multiple times a day, now we have fits and starts. It'll be every day for a week, then nothing for 3 weeks. In theory I'd like to have sex more, but in practice I don't think either of us feel like doing it more often than that.

The longest I've ever been has probably been 6-8 weeks. Not very long.

redoryx · May 2015

charcoalandblush said:

redoryx said:

lacqueredlover said:
Man period sex is awesome! I miss that too haha
I don't know if I'd describe it as awesome but it's not as bad as I thought it would be.

Ughhh. I wish I could get DF on board. He's grossed out by it. Since I got Mirena, I don't have a real "period," but a couple of times a year I spot for like 3 weeks straight.

DF and I have both tapered off. We started off like multiple times a day, now we have fits and starts. It'll be every day for a week, then nothing for 3 weeks. In theory I'd like to have sex more, but in practice I don't think either of us feel like doing it more often than that.

The longest I've ever been has probably been 6-8 weeks. Not very long.

It was actually my SO's idea the first time. Neither of us had done period sex before but he suggested it one month and I figured why not. I'm on the pill and have pretty light periods so it's minimal mess

VulgarGirl · May 2015

My only complaint with period sex is that when I orgasm on my period I always get a really bad cramp afterwards. Like super intense very painful.

But once that goes away all my cramps go away and I'm a happy girl.

sarahufl · May 2015

We did the period thing a few times on our honeymoon in an effort to have sex every single day (we achieved our goal). I had always been against it, but our hotel had a shower that seemed to be designed for the act.

sophhabobopha · May 2015

A year, in between boyfriends when I was 16ish. That was before I was into casual sex.

With Fi, a month when we were both sick. We right now do the sex about once a week. Thanks to my anti-depressants, my sex drive isn't super high, and we have a new puppy.

NavyBlue143 · May 2015

About six months. Never been into hookups myself, never been my interest. Since I've been married, 4 months after Hs spine surgery, even though he was cleared after 4 weeks. We only have sex once or twice a month, which is great fun since we're TTC. I've just given up and accepted that my vibrator and I are meant to be and we probably won't get pregnant.

jdluvr06 · May 2015

I had a lot of casual sex before I met soon-to-be ex h so I think the longest I've gone is about six or seven weeks.

I have a feeling I'm getting ready to go through a dry spell though.

lovesclimbing · May 2015

About two and a half weeks, I think? H and I have only ever had sex with each other and didn't start until after we got engaged. The two and a half weeks was because we have crazy work schedules where we don't get much time together during the week. And then over the weekend, I was on my period and I think the weekend after, we were out of town for a wedding and family visit so we were just busy all day and crashed every night.

doeydo · May 2015

Months? I'm not sure how many.

Holy cow, toys+sex=win. I highly recommend the Hitachi Magic Wand or just a high power plug-in vibrator.

Regarding period sex, ehh. I've had it with men in the shower and it was alright, I guess. My GF is okay with sex while on my period (she doesn't get hers regularly due to health stuff) but I'm kind of skeeved out about it and would be so embarrassed. Maybe if we were in the shower, but right now neither of us live alone so showering together is not a real option.

louxnoelle · May 2015

I've slept with three people: an on-again/off-again boyfriend of four years, a one-night-stand on vacation in the DR, and with FI. I feel like it was a great sampling of three different kinds of sexual experiences ("I trust you enough to lose my virginity to you" sex, hot-and-dirty with a near-stranger sex, and "Yay, you're my soulmate, let's learn each other's likes and dislikes and fantasies and kinks" sex.)

I'm-a be real - I love sex with FI so, so much. If we go more than a day, I get pouty.

WinstonsGirl · May 2015

DH was my first, but I'd say about 6-8 weeks, once when we got super busy and we were both sick on and off. But I have 0 drive, so we'll go usually a week at least. I hate it, but DH doesn't seem to mind, though I know he'd prefer it more often.

Usually after 2-ish week though, I don't want sex, but I feel like I'm losing a connection to him, so I kind of have to work my self up to being in the mood. We have no issues with period sex, but mine isn't overly heavy. Just no oral on me, obviously. That grosses us both out.

Jells2dot0 · May 2015

6-7 months right before, during, and right after my chemotherapy. I didn't really mind too much because I had ZERO sex drive, had no energy, and really didn't need a bacterial infection (I am prone to UTIs). Plus, I looked like death. It's hard to want sex when you don't feel sexy.

When I started to recover, I had raging menopause. Having sex during menopause is NOT fun (if you're having bad symptoms). Thankfully, I talked the doctor into letting me take hormones.

falsara · May 2015

Since I've been with FI he's always been down for period sex. I take it day by day since some days are better for it then others. We just throw a towel down and then hop in the shower afterwards.

We don't have a shower that's good for sex, and FI is always worried that I'll fall and kill us due to my clumsy nature. I wish I was coordinated enough for shower sex, it sounds fun.

ETA: spelling

beachyone15 · May 2015

For me the longest was probably a year or so between relationships. With H, the longest we ever waited was 3 weeks and I swear I had the most intense O I've ever had in my whole life after that. Pretty freaking amazing but still too long to go without, we agreed.

FiancB · May 2015

The longest I think was when my ex and I were long distance. We did visit halfway through an internship, so probably around 5 months. Shortly after we broke up I had awful sex with a guy I met online... and kept doing it! Ahhh! It was so bad. When people talk about someone being bad in bed, I never really believed them because it isn't rocket science.

Then I met H. Since then we were long distance for about 3 months.

Things were slowing down a bit but I recently went off the pill and the estrogen coming back in has made it all

Which is nice. I had a silly high drive when I was younger and the last couple years it's been like ummm I thought women were supposed to peak around 30?

Bubblegum5586 · May 2015

jenna8984 said:

cupcait927 said:
Around 6 months. I dated a guy that was in the Navy and was deployed to Japan at one. Since being with H, the longest has been maybe 2 weeks. I, like @jennycolada's husband, could go a good month or more without sex but H needs it much more often. We've settled into about once a week and it's still a big source of conflict in our relationship. We really need to look into talking with therapist about it - I used to be a lot more sexual and it bothers me that it just flipped off like a light switch.
@cupcait927 Same here. I'd be happy without it for months, just never really have that drive or craving for it. It does cause some tension with DH as he wants it like daily, so I try to compromise and give him handys or bj's on the reg.

Same here! H used to take in personally and I have had to explain over and over I just don't need it as much. For years it was the #1 thing we fought about... which doesn't turn me on at all making it longer between each time... making us fight more... it was a viscous cycle. I talked with a friend who went through something similar and read about how the physical connection is very important to men. So now I make a conscious effort to make sure we have sex 2-3 times a week with a few BJ's as well. It has improved our relationship tremendously! He feels more loved, shows me love in other ways and we are both so much happier!

As far as time in between I have been with H over 9 years and I would say 2 weeks... would be the longest. And I jumped into a relationship with him immediately after my last BF so I would still say 2 weeks is my longest....

stefuhknee · May 2015

The longest I've gone without sex is about 9, basically my entire pregnancy, I was so sick the first trimester, constantly vomiting and exhausted and then my libido was just non existent. It's been a bit tough since then since now we have a 2 year old and we work opposite schedules but we try our best to make it work, I'd like to start implementing more quickies during the week though ASAP.

smalfrie19 · May 2015

Its becoming a point of contention with H and I. I have a high drive and his is so so. I wish we did it more often during the week and we dont.

He thinks that if he loses some weight, his energy levels will go up and he will be more likely to want it. I hope he is right, but he doesn't seem to be very driven on the losing weight part, which unfortunately causes more contention.

Blergbot · May 2015

smalfrie19 said:
Its becoming a point of contention with H and I. I have a high drive and his is so so. I wish we did it more often during the week and we dont.

He thinks that if he loses some weight, his energy levels will go up and he will be more likely to want it. I hope he is right, but he doesn't seem to be very driven on the losing weight part, which unfortunately causes more contention.

H can keep up with me, but sometimes I think he'd be happier if I were a 2-3 times a week kinda gal. More often than not, when we take a night off, he's the one that asks for it (I think I've done that exactly twice). I know one day it will slow down. For us, so I'm just trying to get in as much sex as possible NOW!

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