My 3 bridesmaids are throwing me an amazing out of town bachelorette party. The next weekend my FI's aunt is throwing me a bridal shower. My bridesmaids all live 1.5-4 hours away and I feel bad asking them to spend 2 weekends in a row celebrating me. Also, because we have a small condo and my mom is staying with me, I cannot offer them a place to stay. My FI's aunt is inviting a bunch of my girlfriends to the shower, so it feels weird not to invite them, but I feel bad making them feel as if they need to spend more money to come, stay at a hotel, etc. Should I have FI's aunt invite them? Would it be weird to email them and just stress that they shouldn't feel like they need to come?