I was just chatting with a friend at work. She asked me how much money was an appropriate gift to give another coworker at her bridal shower this weekend. I explained that she should get her a gift off the registry. I was informed that there is no registry. . . in fact, the invitation came with a cute poem saying that they don't want gifts, they want money towards their wedding fund. Apparently, at the bottom it says that "No physical gifts will be accepted." I can't even deal! I was ragey for her, and I'm not even invited.
I gave her two great suggestions:
1. Politely decline, which she should have done when she got the invitation
2. Buy her a physical gift and watch her try to forbid it coming into the shower.
I am biting my tongue whenever I see this bride in the halls, I so badly want to tell her how poor this plan is etiquette-wise.
Note to lurkers, if you don't want gifts. . . don't have a shower where the entire purpose of the event is to shower you with gifts!!!!