A few weeks ago, my mother and I were talking and she said, "Have you talked to your godfather about coming yet?"
And the answer to that is yes. And no. He knows I'm getting married, but the issue of him coming hasn't been discussed yet. Here's why:
He and my father had a fight back when I was still an infant (the details are still unknown to me), and as a result, I was actually forbidden to see my godfather until I was in my twenties. Since then, he's been involved in my life to a moderate degree (I live ten hours away so we can't see each other often), and was excited when I introduced him to my fiancé.
At this point, I'm not sure how to approach the situation, both according to etiquette and in a way that won't send my father on a rampage. It took a decent amount of persuading to get him to agree to come with the knowledge that my mother will be there, too (they had a rough divorce and he doesn't get along with her, either).
Any suggestions? I would like my godfather to come if he can, but I don't want my father to freak out about just the idea that I would invite someone else he doesn't like. He's the kind of guy who would (and has) threatened not to come because Person X is on the guest list.
I would appreciate any insight.