Oh good, my 2 week before wedding drama is in! UPDATE*

lovegood90 · May 2015

novella1186 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:
Well she told me that the elevator is too old to fix, and that her repairman won't do it. Which means the elevator is not even an option.

Another sweet thing that happened is I have no idea where the contract is. My FI likes to reorganize my things and hasn't emailed me back where he put it. Might have gone right into the garbage. I could choke someone right now.

My FMIl and I both cited the ADA, and will get in touch with the local representative if she tries to fight it. Oh, believe me, you don't get run over by electric wheelchairs without knowing the rights that apply to them.

Can you ask your venue to email/fax you another copy of the contract under the guise that you just wanted to double check the final payment amount or something?

Then I'd take that contract to a lawyer and see what your options are.

Is there another entrance to the building, even a service entrance, that would somehow allow your disabled guests access to the hall w/o having to climb stairs? Is there a service elevator that can be used? If you have a DJ or caterers, they might also need elevator access for their equipment and food, so this issue could be bigger than just a few guests needing access. . . which that might further incentivize your venue to solve the issue. I don't mean to sound like I'm downplaying the needs of your guests.

Is the venue going after the DJ that broke the elevator for damages? Can you?

Or, when FMIL calls to deal with the venue, have her demand a copy of the contract? That way they don't know you don't have one.

I'm sure they're not supposed to give that out to someone whose name isn't on it, but when my mom got crazy about my wedding she went behind my back and called my vendors to get payment info and details, and not one vendor refused to give her info and show her/send her contracts, even though she wasn't on them. Her grand scheme was to try to pay for vendors since I wouldn't accept my parents' money for anything. But she got found out when she saw my number written on the florist's contract, thought it was the florist's number, and called ME saying "Hi this is Novella's mom and I need final payment info on her contract blah blah blah." Um nice try mom. When I told her it was me, she thought I was lying. AND I've had the same cell number for 13 years and she didn't recognize it. Anyway.

She should be able to get a copy for you.

HOLY SHIT. This is not real life!!

VulgarGirl · May 2015

lolo883 said:

hellosweetie1015 said:

^^^I LOL'd.

Larry:

It will all be fine. Your FMIL will work it out, or tear the venue a new one in the process. I am SO SORRY they turned into a shitstick, and it's entirely on them to get this mess straightened out. There has got to be a second elevator somewhere. Service elevator or something.

I will say that in the multiple replanning processes I've gone through, I've called a lot of places, and discovered that quite a few venues were not accessible in their rented space. Their main areas were ADA compliant, but their space for private parties was not. There must be loopholes or something in the ADA for them to get away with it. (Also, the building I work in is only accessible on the ground floor, where I work. The attorneys upstairs have to meet a few of their clients in our meeting spaces because of it.)
Nope, the DJ who broke it is still trapped up there.

Good news, free DJ.

Problem solved! Host the reception IN the elevator! It's very hipster.

levieenrose · May 2015

Wow, that is so, so terrible. I'm so glad your FMIL is helping you out and taking the reins on that.

I hope all works out as it should, and very soon!!!

thisismynickname2 · May 2015

I have nothing to add to the conversation, just want to give you a great big virtual hug.

<< squeeze >>

larrygaga · May 2015

I emailed my DJ, who has worked at the venue before, to see what she thinks. I was told that the DJ and cake person have always used the stairs, because the elevator was actually a freight elevator and something something yadda yadda. I will be voluntelling my strong cousins and brothers to be carrying shit and people up those stairs.

They awoke the bridezilla (GOT reference, lol)

The elevator broke this weekend. She's been 0% shady so far and really great to work with, so maybe she doesn't realize what a huge problem this presents for me. Now that is it explained to her, maybe she will kick ass again and fix the problem. I have really bad trust issues with people who want my money.

I picked up my marriage license thingy today. That cheered me up a lot.

chibiyui · May 2015

I got nothing but gifs for you.

larrygaga · May 2015

UPDATE: My FMIL bullied the venue owner into fixing it. The solution was to move the reception to the B&B where we are having the ceremony. I am happy with this solution, I suppose. There are pros and cons. The biggest con is the weather in Michigan is so hard to predict. If it rains I swear I'll cry. I guess we could get some cool photos.

The owner rented some tents. The ceremony chairs gets cleared out and then it's just this lovely little patio with lights hanging over it. The bar is right off the side. I asked her a million and one questions about how this all will play out, so I think it will work.

The backyard of that place is really beautiful. It's a garden with a lovely gazebo and bar, with a river even! It's really grown in and why I based my entire wedding on garden flowers and teacups.

I'm going to have to find a sunscreen dispenser that is really cute.

She throws weddings back there all the time, I was just worried I would have too many guests to fit. Well I planned for 200, got 130. I don't remember what her backyard cut off was, but I know she said she had a 120 person wedding back there.

My officiant can make an announcement at the end of the ceremony.

Thank god I have a good head on my shoulders and am a laid back bride, right? I am actually loving the idea of this happening.

Any suggestions for an outdoor reception? I'm looking into paper lamps!

lyndausvi · May 2015

Yay.

I had paper lanterns. I have 2/3 ivory. 1/3 brown. White's were 10 inch, Browns 12 inch. I loved the way they looked.

larrygaga · May 2015

Where did you get them? I need to get to a party store or something. The ones on amazon are expensive and weird colored.

chibiyui · May 2015

I'm.....drunk. so. disclaimer.

I had some paper lanterns in the tent, don't have any good pics of the paper lantersn, so I'll attach a couple. I also had rented a sofa, love seat and coffee table for outdoors that was full of people all night

chibiyui · May 2015

http://www.lunabazaar.com/paper-lanterns.aspx

http://www.orientaltrading.com/party-supplies/party-decorations/paper-lanterns-a1-551273-1.fltr

drunk discliamer, no fucking clue where mine came from, hired decorator.

lyndausvi · May 2015

larrygaga said:
Where did you get them? I need to get to a party store or something. The ones on amazon are expensive and weird colored.

We got them from the rental place. (we rented everything) Remember I was living in the islands and the wedding was OOT for everyone. So for convenience sake we paid more.

Honestly the lanterns didn't cost much. They hanging of them did. We were required by the tent company to have profession hang them.

larrygaga · May 2015

Oh! I meant ones you release into the sky!

I'm looking into seeing if my Inlaws will bring couches! They ahve a bunch of old ones in their pole barn

julieanne912 · May 2015

I think the new plan sounds lovely

lyndausvi · May 2015

larrygaga said:
Oh! I meant ones you release into the sky!

I'm looking into seeing if my Inlaws will bring couches! They ahve a bunch of old ones in their pole barn

I like the couch idea a lot. I've worked weddings with a lounge setup. Big hit.

I'm anti-lantern releases. Sure they look cool floating away, but once them come down they are nothing but trash littering landscape.

kvruns · May 2015

So wait does broken elevator lady also own the B&B space or did she just work out a deal with the B&B?

PrettyGirlLost · May 2015

I love the flying lanterns ><

larrygaga · May 2015

kvruns said:
So wait does broken elevator lady also own the B&B space or did she just work out a deal with the B&B?

She owns both and is in charge of the catering.

lyndausvi I was looking at biodegradable ones. Better?

lyndausvi · May 2015

larrygaga said:

kvruns said:
So wait does broken elevator lady also own the B&B space or did she just work out a deal with the B&B?
She owns both and is in charge of the catering.

lyndausvi I was looking at biodegradable ones. Better?

not really. It's not like they degrade upon landing. It's still trash until they do.

julieanne912 · May 2015

Outdoor weddings also call for a sparkler send off. My venue won't allow anything fire related so I don't get to do it, but if you can, do it!

larrygaga · May 2015

Oh maybe I won't do the lantern thing then. Or just do one for FI and I.

I'm thinking about sparklers too. How would I do that? I am staying at the B&B so I'll probably be the last one out helping to clean, and then I'll go upstairs to my room with my new husband!!

lyndausvi · May 2015

The wedding we went to over the weekend had heart shaped sparklers. We left long before the exit, but took a few with us to be used at a later date.

kvruns · May 2015

larrygaga said:
Oh maybe I won't do the lantern thing then. Or just do one for FI and I.

I'm thinking about sparklers too. How would I do that? I am staying at the B&B so I'll probably be the last one out helping to clean, and then I'll go upstairs to my room with my new husband!!

My FI wants sparklers too bc he loves fireworks but I can't really see it since ceremony and reception are in same place. All I can see is doing a fake send off when it is finally dark

larrygaga · May 2015

Or maybe we could just light them up as an activity while the photographer is still there?

novella1186 · May 2015

Larry, our wedding was indoors/outdoors (ceremony was outdoors, reception was mostly indoors but there was stuff to do outside) in Michigan on May 2. So the weather was a huge risk, but it turned out perfect!

Just cuz I like to be prepared for everything, some stuff we had:

Outdoor games
Lots and lots and lots of ice water, iced tea and lemonade set up before the ceremony even started
A giant wicker basket from TJ Max full of cheap walmart blankets with a sign that said "cuddle up" (ok ok I know this is really cheesey but I came across the idea on Etsy and I really liked it)
A bonfire (the venue sets this up for us so we didn't have to worry about it. The bonfire site was down this cute little path with benches around it, and a lot of people ended up hanging out out there. It became the official site of vodka-redbull shots lol)
Lanterns and string lights (looked so cool when the sun started going down!)
Rented vintage furniture and set up a "living room" (couches, chairs, coffee tables, etc). This area was a big hit.

That's all I can think of right now, but I hope it helped

larrygaga · May 2015

Thank you! I've been to three outdoor labor day weekend weddings and it rained every single time! They were also rude weddings so I like to try and pretend that it always rains on a rude bride!

theartistformerlyknownas · May 2015

I'm also anti-flying lanterns. Every time I've seen them sent off someone nearly caught on fire. Last time, it was the bride. In addition to highly flammable hairspray and synthetic fabrics, they can land on roofs or dry brush and start fires too.

larrygaga · May 2015

Okay, no lanterns I promise!!!

levieenrose · May 2015

So wonderful!!!! Crisis averted and even prettier garden spot. Love the sparkler idea for a late night send off.

novella1186 · May 2015

lolo883 said:
I'm also anti-flying lanterns. Every time I've seen them sent off someone nearly caught on fire. Last time, it was the bride. In addition to highly flammable hairspray and synthetic fabrics, they can land on roofs or dry brush and start fires too.

When those first became a big thing, we had them at my grandma's lake house for the 4th of July. We set off fireworks from the end of the pier so they go out over the water, and it's so cool to see all the fireworks going off from all around the entire lake. It's a big thing for us.

However, those lanterns? Bad.

The last time we sent one off, the air was totally still and it seemed perfect. But instead of drifting over the lake, it went backwards, and got caught in a tree. We were sure the tree was catching on fire. Somehow it freed itself and drifted off again, then rested on someone's roof for a minute. It was fucking terrifying. It left the roof, but my cousin-- who knew the area really well-- was sure that thing was headed straight for a farm field. We nixed the lantern thing after that.

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