Hi everyone
I have been reflecting lately on when I got married and lost a friend over it. She is very laid back and I am not. She did a lot for me but I also felt really let me down. For example:
She came to my wedding shower with a gift (left early because she said she had to work), gave me a very expensive monetary gift for my wedding, bought the dress I wanted without complaint and showed up.
That being said, she didn't participate or fundraise for my stag and hen (she said she couldn't get the weekend off work), she was late to the rehearsal (said she was stuck in traffic because she was driving 3 hours) and late to some of the bridal party photos (said she couldn't find the location...which granted yes it was a spot in the middle of the woods). She also claimed she was sick and didn't want to pass it to me so stayed alone in her own room the night before my wedding and did her own hair and makeup...didn't even stay with us or watch me get ready the morning of my wedding.
Following that she did her duties and spent a lot of the night on the dance floor having fun and mingling with people. But I was beyond furious with her. I called her names a couple of days later and dropped out of her wedding party that was a few months after mine.
I found out after her wedding she literally had no expectations from her bridesmaids. Literally buy a dress and show up. She didn't have a fundraiser, didn't have a shower and was apparently very easy going and laid back about her whole wedding.
It got me thinking...who was right and who was wrong in this scenario?
Was she being a bad friend or were my expectations way too high?
I thought bridesmaids were supposed to do a lot for the bride. Apparently she didn't think so or expect her bridesmaids to do much.
What do you all think??