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[Deleted User] · June 2015

I hate it when the person at the cash register makes comments on the items you buy. It's absolutely none of their business...especially if it's something like a pregnancy test.

I remember the test that I bought right before we found out we were pregnant was at a CVS. The lady at the counter was taking FOREVER and I was just thinking, "come on lady..." and when she scans my test, she was like, "Oh I remember these days, glad I don't have to worry about that anymore." I just stared at her and said nothing. So annoying. Just ring it up and give me my stuff.

Swazzle · June 2015

TwoDimes said:

Swazzle said:

Blue & White said:

Guys lets admit it, whether we want a baby or not: buying pregnancy tests still feels like a secret lol oh and for those of you in the huh I dunno yet boat like me...any questions about pregnancy are just awkward as hell. Yes I want kids. No I don't want them yet. No I don't know when or how many or how they will end up in our little family BUT it's also none of your random persons business! Also it should be noted that H and I have talked plenty about kids. Most notably, when we know I am pregnant, I get at least ten months counseling with a shrink so I don't have a straight up panic attack when I'm doing my glucose test or having the kid, etc. I also would like the keep the anxiety at bay cause apparently it's genetic but also affected by how anxious you are in pregnancy or some shiz? My future kid may also need counseling if it comes out of me.

H and I are undecided but leaning towards no kids. His family asks me every time we see them when we're going to have kids and no answer I give them is ever fucking good enough. It's tiresome and annoying. It's fully surpassed being awkward.

This sucks, @swazzle! Have you flat out told them you don't plan on having kids, or is it more evading the answer and telling them to mind their own business? I don't feel like you should HAVE to tell them one way or another, but I'd be tempted to shout "WE DON'T WANT KIDS" just to see if that would shut them up.

Yep, we've both told them that we don't want kids (even though, like I said, we're still officially undecided). SIL still asks EVERY time we see her when we're going to give our nephew a cousin.

buddysmom80 · June 2015

southernpeach89 said:

I hate it when the person at the cash register makes comments on the items you buy. It's absolutely none of their business...especially if it's something like a pregnancy test.

I remember the test that I bought right before we found out we were pregnant was at a CVS. The lady at the counter was taking FOREVER and I was just thinking, "come on lady..." and when she scans my test, she was like, "Oh I remember these days, glad I don't have to worry about that anymore." I just stared at her and said nothing. So annoying. Just ring it up and give me my stuff.

The one time I bought a pregnancy test at CVS, it was also with a box of tampons because I knew it was going to be negative (lolz, story of my life). The clerk was an 18 year old guy, he looked so confused. If someone ever made a comment to me I would slap them.

Swazzle · June 2015

I make H buy the pee sticks.

buddysmom80 · June 2015

TODAY IS THE LONGEST DAY EVER!!!! IS IT 3:30 YET?

labro · June 2015

@buddysmom80 Today will last FOREVER!!!

buddysmom80 · June 2015

LOLZ JUST REALIZED I LEAVE AT 3 TODAY!!!! 4 HOURS!

Swazzle · June 2015

@buddysmom80 -

[Deleted User] · June 2015

buddysmom80 said:

LOLZ JUST REALIZED I LEAVE AT 3 TODAY!!!! 4 HOURS!

Lucky duck!

Blue & White · June 2015

We are not trying (obviously) but I still buy pregnancy tests in like 5 packs so I don't have to get them as often lol. Sometimes you just have to pee on a stick to make sure!

buddysmom80 · June 2015

This is what is going on in my office (some days I miss my own office, other days, I love being with other people):

CW1: blah blah blah blah blah blah blah

CW2: You've been talking to me this whole time? Damn.

GoldenPenguin · June 2015

@keptinstitches - H & I are doing the BBB registry completion event this weekend too! Ours is Saturday morning. I'm excited - we got a bunch of gift cards, so we're going to use them up

@swazzle - Your co-worker is a total douchecanoe. That's all.

I'm finishing up the PR plan I have to submit for this job I'm interviewing for. I swear, if they DON'T hire me after all of this, my head might explode.

Tonight, H & I are going to hang out with friends at their house. We're going to order some food, have some wine/beer, and I'm going to snuggle their baby like crazy.

Tomorrow is the BBB completion event. H has a bachelor party to go to in the afternoon/evening, so I'll be home alone with the pup (which I'm okay with, because I haven't had any alone time since we got home from the honeymoon haha).

Sunday will be cleaning & yardwork. We really need to get a weed whacker, so there will probably be a trip to Home Depot involved, and I'd like to get some more flowers for the front of the house. It was really well-landscaped when we moved in, but it's all GREEN. Just some hedges and lots of hosta. I need some color!

labro · June 2015

@GoldenPenguin Everything is crossed and I am sending ALL the vibes for this PR job!!!!!

Your hosta will bloom in another month or two. Mine have purple and white flowers. They shoot up these tall stalks and little flowers bloom all up and down the stalk. But yeah, MOAR color!!! I'm doing to do some pots of impatiens and either sweet potato vine or vinca or creeping jenny. Guess it depends on what I see at the plant nursery.

buddysmom80 · June 2015

@goldenpenguin, I have been crossing EVERYTHING for your job interview!!!! We need a weed whacker too, so let me know if you like the one you end up buying.

lavenderfields13 · June 2015

Blue & White said:

@swazzle ugh yea i think I scared the ILs lol. They don't ask much. So far my mom was the biggest offender when she drunkenly told me I HAD to get pregnant at 30 aka this year so I could have my first kid at 31like her (my mom is normally sane, but my FBIL is my witness that this happened. Mom denies). And for some reason my FIL keeps joking about kids? But we've already given him the "you cannot be near our kids if you are still smoking" lecture and he has no plans on quitting sooo who knows. Apparently I feel very adamant about carcinogens around my future kiddos.

Yeah FMIL always implies she wants to take care of our kids (the grandkids she's dying to have but I'm not ready to give her) when she's retired so I can work. FFIL smokes in the house- their apartment, no one else let's him smoke in their home because gross. So IDK where she thinks she would even watch these potential children. Right now we live in a 3rd floor apt (they do too) but they have a ridiculously hard time getting up our stairs since they both have problems with their legs. And she doesn't drive so if he wasn't around she couldn't drive them to the doctor's or something. Honestly I wouldn't want them watching my kids all day. And it's probably going to awkward when we do have a kid and I refuse to bring the baby to their house because it reeks of cigarettes.

Future problems but still shit I think about.

And I don't understand why people think it's ok to comment on when, if, how other people are going to have kids. Why do you care, it's none of your business! Since I'm getting married soon people have been commenting about us having kids- 1 coworker told me I need to have a baby within a year and told my FMIL (yes I work with my FMIL) that she hopes FMIL hounds us for grandkids. Like, what. FMIL has already been talking about grandkids for years. It's so fucking annoying.

AlPacina · June 2015

Swazzle said:

I make H buy the pee sticks.

I could see dudes having to deal with annoying people at the counter too.

Cashier: Did you find everything alright?

Your H: Yep.

Cashier: *notices the pee sticks* Ah.... missed your period?

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I can tell BF and I will both be in bad moods tonight. Our realtor is being EXTREMELY unhelpful in regards to requests for repairs. She wants us to require all this tiny nit-picky stuff that we could totally do ourselves, and just wants us to completely ignore that the roof is fucked. We're just not getting a lot of assistance, and when we told her what we wanted she sent us back an example request that in no way represented our requirements.

In other completely unrelated news, I'm drinking tonight.

lavenderfields13 · June 2015

@goldenpenguin good luck, crossing my fingers for you!

@alpacina I've never dealt with a realtor but that sounds really annoying!

buddysmom80 · June 2015

If we ever had kids, there is NO way in hell my MIL would watch my kids. I'd rather be a SAHM and eat ramen every day than have her crazy ass watch my kids. Also she smokes like a chimney so that's not a good thing to do around a child. She's not all there mentally anyway so I would be a basketcase at work wondering if she's drowning my child.

@alpacina wtf is with your realtor? I would demand a repair on the roof or walk away from the deal. DIY/don't need to be completed right now are things you don't need to negotiate in escrow, but a new roof is definetly something worth fighting for.

Blue & White · June 2015

@alpacina I think tonight is a good night for drinking lol. Go for it

labro · June 2015

@AlPacina That is NOT cool about your realtor. Yes, she should be your advocate and advise you on best practices/good negotiations...but she shouldn't be flat out ignoring you! That's stupid too to ask for every little thing when the important thing to ask for is the big one (the roof). Ugh....

KeptInStitches · June 2015

@alpacina, yeah, the roof is a huge freaking deal. I would walk, too.

jenjen047 · June 2015

@swazzle thats so rude, im sorry that happened to you. i would never assume anyone is pregnant until they tell me so. i dont care if you look 9 months preg....im not congratulating anyone until they tell me they are expecting.

i missed yesterdays thread and had to quickly skim todays because work is busy. stupid work.

@southernpeach89 have fun at the beach!

no major plans this weekend. errands and hair cut tomorrow....watching 50 Shades with BF tomorrow night. Sunday i am going to watch BF play in his first gaelic football game of the season. oh also tomorrow i am baking white chocolate oatmeal cookies (omg drool) for BF to bring to his game. i will have to physically restrain myself from eating ALL THE DOUGH and ruining my diet. recipe here for anyone interested.

Swazzle · June 2015

@AlPacina - Stand your ground! Your realtor isn't the one that'll have to pay for a new roof on the house once it's officially yours. Where I live, the lawyer deals with that stuff. The first lawyer we had for the first house we attempted to buy (thank GOD the deal fell through), wanted us to request they fix the most ridiculous stuff. The house needed SO many important things done (roof issues, carbon dioxide leaking from boiler, more than half of the windows had issues, no oven and the stove didn't light, the chimney needed major repairs) there was no way in hell we were requesting something as minuscule as "repair door loose on hinges".

buddysmom80 · June 2015

@jenjen047 those cookies look SO GOOD!

lavenderfields13 · June 2015

TwoDimes said:

@alpacina, your realtor is being a shit. You guys have the right idea focusing on the big stuff (ie fucked roof), so don't let her bully you into anything different!

On the subject of having kids and people hounding you about it... my FMIL would not stop talking about "future grandkids" at my bridal shower. It was so bad that poor FGMIL got confused and asked if it was a baby shower! FMIL also made the comment to my sister (LOUDLY so that the whole shower heard), "When my son and Dimes have kids, I'm going to move here to be with them, so I will get to see you [my sister] all the time." To her credit, my sister just smiled and nodded, while I attempted to compose myself from this:

That is definitely my face when FMIL mentions moving IN with us too. She suggested we buy a 2 family home so they can live close to us and help with kids. HELL NO. I flat out said "Nope, that's too close for comfort".

AlPacina · June 2015

Thank you all for your support on the realtor issue!

I don't think we've ever considered walking. We can afford to replace the roof ourselves, if need be, but our savings will be pretty depleted after our down payment. Honestly, the roof was literally the only actual issue that came up in the inspection. But the thing is, it's one of the more expensive things to replace.

I talked to my mom (you know, an adult) and her advice was that we need to remember we're not buying a brand new house. If we want a house that won't require any work for a few years, we should probably get a new one. . . Thanks mom. But in a way I guess she's right. If everyone is telling us to just buy the house and replace it ourselves then maybe there is something wrong with our mindset.

KeptInStitches · June 2015

@alpacina, I disagree with your mom. Our house has issues and isn't new (parts are 70ish years old, parts are 40ish). The roof isn't one of them and wasn't at the time of purchase. While it's true that we'll need to repair the roof within the next 5-10 years and we're on borrowed time with the furnace, a/c, and water heater, we weren't going into this with major repairs. I'd at bare minimum - bare minimum - negotiate the price of the house down to account for the immediately needed roof repair.

Swazzle · June 2015

@AlPacina - We were fully prepared to replace the roof of the other house if that's what it came down to. My point was that you should at least request that they repair the roof OR cover the cost of a new roof at your closing. Basically, tell your realtor to STFU and do what you, her client, is asking of her. The worst the seller can say is no. If the roof is the only issue then I 100% wouldn't walk! I get it.

Dignity100 · June 2015

@AlPacina - One of the houses I wanted needed a new roof - complete rip off to the studs (there was seriously no plywood under the shingles). I put my bid in at asking price and said I would need the seller to replace the roof (the estimate I was given was $11,000 based on the pitch and work that needed to be done). The seller said 'no'; I said 'fine go halvsies with me'; the seller said 'no' - I said goodbye - the house sat on the market for 3 more months and finally sold for $18,000 UNDER his asking price.

Stick to your guns!! If you need to, call the realtor's boss and tell the manager that you don't feel your realtor is representing you correctly.

The current home owner might not be willing to pay for the roof, but he might be willing to give some kind of allowance or take care of some other expenses. You have to at least try - the worst he can say is 'no, I cannot afford to help with the roof, you're already getting a good deal'.

jenjen047 · June 2015

@alpacina - agree with other people here. the realtor is representing you so they should be following your lead in terms of what to negotiate for. dont give in if you arent comfortable.

this isnt the same situation at all (and not trying to scare you), but i just saw this article (warning....article is full of pics of snakes) on FB yesterday. sounds like this realtor knew about the issues but didnt disclose to the buyers. what a freakin' mess. realtors act like they are your best friend and on your side but at the end of the day you have to stand up for what you feel comfortable with.

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