I asked my very good friend of many years to be a bridesmaid in my wedding. She's been there for me when I went through a terrible divorce and now that I'm in a wonderful relationship with a man that's truly my soul mate I wanted her to be there by my side as one of my two bridesmaids. My fiance and I are choosing to keep our wedding small with only close friends and family. While I have at least 4 great friends that I could have asked to be in the wedding, they are all out of state and I didn't want to burden them to pay for travel expenses, bridesmaid dress, etc.
So fast forward, I ask my friend a few weeks ago to be my bridesmaid and tell her how much I appreciate her being there for me during some challenging times in my life. She immediately says yes that she'll be in the wedding. Two weeks later, she calls to tell me that she doesn't want to be in my wedding now because she feels that the next wedding she's in should be her own (she's currently single, not dating anyone). While I respect that she has the right to change her mind, I'm still very disappointed that she made this decision and I feel a little hurt by it.
Has anyone else had this happen to them? Just had to vent a bit!