NWR Mini Invite Snark

hellohkb · June 2015

In high school I took a Spanish class at a local college and met the instructor's daughter, who was about my age and also taking the class. We had some similar interests so we added each other on Myspace. She started acting a little weird, so I never hung out with her outside of the class and we never really talked in depth.

Fast forward roughly a year ago she invites me and several other people to her baby shower via Facebook. And just a week or so, she invited me and several hundred other people to her daughter's first birthday, also via Facebook. I haven't talked to this girl in like 10 years. Inviting me and hundreds seems really gift grabby, right? I dunno, just came across that way to me. Even if I were friends with her, I wouldn't be thrilled to be standing outside in a park in June for a couple hours.

Anyone got a mini snark they want to get off their chest?

emmaaa · June 2015

That's awkward! maybe she doesn't have many IRL friends?

I am going to a "gift card" couples shower this Saturday night. It'll be fun because there will be good food, friends, and some yard games, but the couple wants gift cards because they don't need any house stuff.

hellohkb · June 2015

emmaaa said:

That's awkward! maybe she doesn't have many IRL friends?

I am going to a "gift card" couples shower this Saturday night. It'll be fun because there will be good food, friends, and some yard games, but the couple wants gift cards because they don't need any house stuff.

She might not. I have no idea

Oh, dear. You know, someone brought up the question (I can't remember who it was, but it was a reg) who said "what exactly are they going to buy with the gift cards if they don't need anything?" I guess food, clothes, movies, etc., but it still just sounds funny when that's their reasoning.

But as long as there will be friends and food, I personally wouldn't side eye too hard.

southernbelle0915 · June 2015

I always just ignore those types of invites. At first I'm all, "oh this is weird, we haven't spoken in forever" and then I see there are 500 others who are still "maybes". Um, ok. Ignore.

I think some people are like "well, I have nothing to lose!" Sure they do. Respect. I always lose respect for people who do this.

Today I'm snarking on the woman in my office who came around with a fundraising form a few weeks ago. It's for her son to go to an amusement park with his physics class. Really? She makes more than I do and her son can pay for his own damn field trip.

hellohkb · June 2015

southernbelle0915 said:

I always just ignore those types of invites. At first I'm all, "oh this is weird, we haven't spoken in forever" and then I see there are 500 others who are still "maybes". Um, ok. Ignore.

I think some people are like "well, I have nothing to lose!" Sure they do. Respect. I always lose respect for people who do this.

Today I'm snarking on the woman in my office who came around with a fundraising form a few weeks ago. It's for her son to go to an amusement park with his physics class. Really? She makes more than I do and her son can pay for his own damn field trip.

Exactly!

Maybe the woman at your office should make a GFM?

Bubblegum5586 · June 2015

I got a FB invite to a jack and jill along with 500 other people.... Tickets are $20 or ONLY $35 couple! Oh yippee!!! Oh and it's the Saturday of Labor Day weekend!

I am not going.

novella1186 · June 2015

I posted the other day (yesterday?) about how we were invited to a wedding and then un-invited and were super bummed out.

Today H got a facebook message from the groom explaining what happened, because he's apparently feeling bad about it. The reason we were un-invited is cuz the groom's family decided to bring a bunch of randos along without letting him know ahead of time, and instead of putting his foot down and telling his family that there's not enough space for these extra people who weren't invited, it was apparently easier to just hurt H and I instead. Oh OK, that explanation makes it MUCH better. Thanks! Hurting your friends > growing a pair

So there's my snark.

redheadbride15 · June 2015

That's weird. I also have an old high school acquaintance who mass-invites people to everything via Facebook. I got an invite to her son's first birthday party a few weeks ago, as did about 200 other people, even though I live on the opposite side of the country and I haven't seen or talked to her outside of social media in over 10 years. My sense is that she was trying to be inclusive and invited everyone she knows, certainly without considering adequate lead-time for out-of-towners who would need to arrange travel. I don't even think she was expecting formal declines - more than half the invitees did not reply. She posted pictures of the event and it looked like there were maybe 20 people there.

Anyway, you are completely justified in declining that invitation.

BouxRadley · June 2015

@novella1186 What a dick move. I can't believe the bride allowed that to happen. I would've put my foot down so fast the ground shook.

southernbelle0915 · June 2015

Another snark - Rodan and Fields, Mary Kay, Pink Zebra, whatever....sellers on Facebook. STOP INVITING ME TO BUY SHIT.

And no, I'm not interested in attending a jewelry or purse party for your sister's friend.

novella1186 · June 2015

BouxRadley said:

@novella1186 What a dick move. I can't believe the bride allowed that to happen. I would've put my foot down so fast the ground shook.

Well she originally wanted a potluck wedding at which her guests all had to work as staff, so I almost feel like it could have been her idea to take us off the guest list. "Just un-invite them so then we have the space! Problem solved!"

BouxRadley · June 2015

novella1186 said: BouxRadley said: @novella1186 What a dick move. I can't believe the bride allowed that to happen. I would've put my foot down so fast the ground shook. Well she originally wanted a potluck wedding at which her guests all had to work as staff, so I almost feel like it could have been her idea to take us off the guest list. "Just un-invite them so then we have the space! Problem solved!"
-----------STUPIDASSBOXES------------
I stand corrected. How classy.

knottie9c5ed33df4bbd226 · June 2015

My snark is from when I went to see Jurassic World this weekend. It was a Saturday night at 10pm and people are coming in with their babies and children like 3-4 years old. Of course these kids were terrified and crying, screaming, etc during the movie. It's one of my biggest pet peeves. I did not pay $12 a ticket to listen to your kid disrupt a movie.

novella1186 · June 2015

hicoco said:

My snark is from when I went to see Jurassic World this weekend. It was a Saturday night at 10pm and people are coming in with their babies and children like 3-4 years old. Of course these kids were terrified and crying, screaming, etc during the movie. It's one of my biggest pet peeves. I did not pay $12 a ticket to listen to your kid disrupt a movie.

Omg that drives me nuts. We went to see a horror movie a while back and there were people bringing toddlers in. It was a REALLY scary movie. Like, I love horror movies but this one was almost too much for me. And I kept thinking "what are you people doing to your children?!!!"

ahyatt87 · June 2015

I also have a mini invite snark. DH and I were invited to his cousin's wedding. There is a gap between the ceremony and reception and the reception is 50 km away from the ceremony location. WTF? It is a crappy thing to do your guests, so just don't do it! I'm especially annoyed because the wedding/reception are out of town for us so I guess we'll be finding a bar to kill the gap.

Chipmunk415 · June 2015

My 10 year high school reunion is at the beginning of august. The folks putting it together were mostly ok people in high school, but never did any of the effort to put together anything, never did fundraising, etc. I'm laughing as I knew this would be a clusterfuck...

They announced the reunion, but you have to buy tix. For 2 people, tix are about 50 bucks. The limit was 150 total tickets for the class of nearly 400 attending, like it's prom again or some bullshit like that. Now they are a few weeks from the ticket buying deadline, and are freaking out -only about half the tickets have sold. If they don't sell more and fast, either a)ticket prices will go up or b) they will lose their reunion venue.

My friend and I prefer to save our money as we are both buying houses....we're getting a bottle of wine and some movies for the reunion night. Neither of us have spoken to the majority of the people going in 10 years

kvruns · June 2015

sort of similar my best friend just got a fb invite to a mutual friend's baby shower. She hasn't talked to this friend in person in at least 3 years or had any interaction other than occasional fb post likes and neither have I (I didn't get invited though). The shower is for her 2nd child, and she had the baby a week ago and then went and registered? She had a registry before but they weren't finding out boy or girl so I guess once the baby was born she updated the registry with a bunch of girl stuff. My friend said the invite says something about not registering for much so people can just go crazy and pick what they want. Ummmm. and btw she did register for a healthy amount of stuff already!!

kvruns · June 2015

Chipmunk415 said:

My 10 year high school reunion is at the beginning of august. The folks putting it together were mostly ok people in high school, but never did any of the effort to put together anything, never did fundraising, etc. I'm laughing as I knew this would be a clusterfuck... They announced the reunion, but you have to buy tix. For 2 people, tix are about 50 bucks. The limit was 150 total tickets for the class of nearly 400 attending, like it's prom again or some bullshit like that. Now they are a few weeks from the ticket buying deadline, and are freaking out -only about half the tickets have sold. If they don't sell more and fast, either a)ticket prices will go up or b) they will lose their reunion venue. My friend and I prefer to save our money as we are both buying houses....we're getting a bottle of wine and some movies for the reunion night. Neither of us have spoken to the majority of the people going in 10 years

For our 10 year they took a poll and no one really wanted to buy tickets and do a banquet thing so they did a family event at a local park and then in the evening all met at a bar with a nice outdoor space to hang. Worked out well. FFW to this year and 15 years they decided to do another reunion and some girl raised hell bc of how unclassy it was to just meet at a bar and not have a fancy sit down meal even though they did another poll and no one was willing to pay for it. It was the same as my wedding weekend so I didn't go but I think they did something similar with a park one day and bar another although this time it was more of a dive bar in the town we went to school instead of a bit more central location to the major city around us.

emmaaa · June 2015

Chipmunk415 said:

My 10 year high school reunion is at the beginning of august. The folks putting it together were mostly ok people in high school, but never did any of the effort to put together anything, never did fundraising, etc. I'm laughing as I knew this would be a clusterfuck... They announced the reunion, but you have to buy tix. For 2 people, tix are about 50 bucks. The limit was 150 total tickets for the class of nearly 400 attending, like it's prom again or some bullshit like that. Now they are a few weeks from the ticket buying deadline, and are freaking out -only about half the tickets have sold. If they don't sell more and fast, either a)ticket prices will go up or b) they will lose their reunion venue. My friend and I prefer to save our money as we are both buying houses....we're getting a bottle of wine and some movies for the reunion night. Neither of us have spoken to the majority of the people going in 10 years

I use to wait staff at reunions and almost all of them required tickets to help pay for it. Otherwise, where does that money come from? I'd definitely pay $50 for two people if it covered my meal and open bar.

I'm on the planning committee for my high school class and our 10 year reunion won't be for 4 more years and we have already started planning. We are cooking to do something pretty laid back and family friendly in the early evening and then go out that night. I think the nice banquet dinners are better suited for 25 year reunions.

novella1186 · June 2015

Chipmunk415 said:

My 10 year high school reunion is at the beginning of august. The folks putting it together were mostly ok people in high school, but never did any of the effort to put together anything, never did fundraising, etc. I'm laughing as I knew this would be a clusterfuck... They announced the reunion, but you have to buy tix. For 2 people, tix are about 50 bucks. The limit was 150 total tickets for the class of nearly 400 attending, like it's prom again or some bullshit like that. Now they are a few weeks from the ticket buying deadline, and are freaking out -only about half the tickets have sold. If they don't sell more and fast, either a)ticket prices will go up or b) they will lose their reunion venue. My friend and I prefer to save our money as we are both buying houses....we're getting a bottle of wine and some movies for the reunion night. Neither of us have spoken to the majority of the people going in 10 years

I recently got a facebook invite for my 10 year reunion. Tickets are $50 PER PERSON (ew) and there is no meal provided.

It's being put together by a girl who was basically Regina George in high school. She had a "fashion police" notebook where she would write down people's "ugly" outfits and make fun of them (among many other horrendously bitchy things) and on the facebook invite she wrote a long paragraph about what is and is not appropriate to wear to this event, and that people need to look their best.

I think I'll spend the $50 (or $100) going out to a nice dinner with just my H and dress however the fuck I want, thanks.

BouxRadley · June 2015

novella1186 said:

I think I'll spend the $50 (or $100) going out to a nice dinner with just my H and dress however the fuck I want, thanks.

You go, Glen Coco!

Maggie0829 · June 2015

I have never been to any of my high school reunions. With FB I can easily see what people are doing. No need to go to a reunion only to hang out with the same people I would hang out with now and be reminded again of the cliques that are still very prevalent.

thespeshulestsnowflake · June 2015

hicoco said:

My snark is from when I went to see Jurassic World this weekend. It was a Saturday night at 10pm and people are coming in with their babies and children like 3-4 years old. Of course these kids were terrified and crying, screaming, etc during the movie. It's one of my biggest pet peeves. I did not pay $12 a ticket to listen to your kid disrupt a movie.

I saw it Sunday at 6:30pm and there were little kids. I was annoyed until I remembered I saw the first one in theaters at age 4, but at the same time I knew how to be quiet. We had season tickets to local theaters, so I learned how to be quiet in a theater (movie or live) quickly. Sadly it seems parents (in general) are not teaching this skill to their kids.

BouxRadley · June 2015

hicoco said:

My snark is from when I went to see Jurassic World this weekend. It was a Saturday night at 10pm and people are coming in with their babies and children like 3-4 years old. Of course these kids were terrified and crying, screaming, etc during the movie. It's one of my biggest pet peeves. I did not pay $12 a ticket to listen to your kid disrupt a movie.

I worked in a movie theatre in high school and on a level it's worse than retail. You lose your faith in humanity and the future of mankind SO QUICKLY.

Maggie0829 · June 2015

hicoco said:

My snark is from when I went to see Jurassic World this weekend. It was a Saturday night at 10pm and people are coming in with their babies and children like 3-4 years old. Of course these kids were terrified and crying, screaming, etc during the movie. It's one of my biggest pet peeves. I did not pay $12 a ticket to listen to your kid disrupt a movie.

When H and I went to see the latest X-Men movie at like 9pm some lady was there with her under one year old kid in a stroller. Of course as soon as the movie started the baby started to cry because hello that movie can be loud and it probably hurt the kids ears. She eventually left, but the whole time I was thinking "Who brings a baby to the movies?" Yeah the parents may want to see the movie but if you can't find a sitter you don't bring the baby instead you just don't go to the movies!

In that same movie a family was sitting behind us with their young kids (8 and under I am guessing) and between the f word and Hugh Jackman's bare ass they finally left. Again you knew that the movie was rated PG-13 so maybe bringing your young kids to see it was not the smartest parenting move.

thisismynickname2 · June 2015

I'll jump on the reunion snark. Our ten year was at a nice bar in the city rather than our hometown. Significant others were welcome to come. It was $30 per person including heavy apps and beer and wine. Pretty good deal. On the Facebook page a few people started commenting, asking about a la carte options, as they wouldn't be drinking (pregnant or recovering alcoholics).

To make a long story short, this one woman, pregnant with her second child, bitched about it being in the city because "some people have real responsibilities." Oooo you better buh-lieve the group blew up after that. I'm so sorry you're so insecure with yourself that you can't leave your husband at home to watch your child while you attend a reunion. I'm so sorry that the vast majority of people moved away from our hometown, actually making a city reunion easier than a hometown reunion when you consider travel convenience. I'm so sorry you can't afford one measly weekend Metra ticket and $30 for food when you're pregnant with a second child. I'm so sorry that at 28 years old, you would put down people for whom careers, volunteer work, and mortgages are "real responsibilities." No one wants to see you anyway, bitch.

knottie9c5ed33df4bbd226 · June 2015

thespeshulestsnowflake, my FI said the same thing. He saw the first movie when he was like 4 or 5 but I'm guessing his parents didn't take him to a 10pm showing on a Saturday night. We go to the movies all the time and I've probably got up a handful of times to complain to a manager about young kids. I love kids, I love movies..but I do not want your children ruining my experience.

thespeshulestsnowflake · June 2015

hicoco said:

thespeshulestsnowflake, my FI said the same thing. He saw the first movie when he was like 4 or 5 but I'm guessing his parents didn't take him to a 10pm showing on a Saturday night. We go to the movies all the time and I've probably got up a handful of times to complain to a manager about young kids. I love kids, I love movies..but I do not want your children ruining my experience.

Yeah I totally agree. I'm pretty sure it was not a late night showing when I was little. Kids in movie theater annoy me. A caveat is when I am seeing a movie intended for kids, like a Disney movie. But there really should be a cut off to when small children can see movies, like no one under 5 after 9 or 10. But parents would bitch.

[Deleted User] · June 2015

thespeshulestsnowflake said:

hicoco said:

thespeshulestsnowflake, my FI said the same thing. He saw the first movie when he was like 4 or 5 but I'm guessing his parents didn't take him to a 10pm showing on a Saturday night. We go to the movies all the time and I've probably got up a handful of times to complain to a manager about young kids. I love kids, I love movies..but I do not want your children ruining my experience.

Yeah I totally agree. I'm pretty sure it was not a late night showing when I was little. Kids in movie theater annoy me. A caveat is when I am seeing a movie intended for kids, like a Disney movie. But there really should be a cut off to when small children can see movies, like no one under 5 after 9 or 10. But parents would bitch.

______

We haven't taken our son (almost 3) to the theater yet, but we have done a drive in movie and let him stay up past his bedtime for the special occasion (was FI's bday). They do double features, and the first movie was a kids movie, but he fell asleep half way though. It worked well for us to get a date night in without having to get a sitter (and was nice since if he was restless or loud, we were outside and had blankets and pillows in the bed of FI's truck for him to move around, and eventually to sleep through the rest of the movies.

That being said, we probably won't take him to the actual theater until he can really sit still and be quiet for an extended period of time, and even then would not be taking him to adult movies or a late show. That's just ridiculous.

thespeshulestsnowflake · June 2015

AlisonM23 said:

thespeshulestsnowflake said:

hicoco said:

thespeshulestsnowflake, my FI said the same thing. He saw the first movie when he was like 4 or 5 but I'm guessing his parents didn't take him to a 10pm showing on a Saturday night. We go to the movies all the time and I've probably got up a handful of times to complain to a manager about young kids. I love kids, I love movies..but I do not want your children ruining my experience.

Yeah I totally agree. I'm pretty sure it was not a late night showing when I was little. Kids in movie theater annoy me. A caveat is when I am seeing a movie intended for kids, like a Disney movie. But there really should be a cut off to when small children can see movies, like no one under 5 after 9 or 10. But parents would bitch.

______

We haven't taken our son (almost 3) to the theater yet, but we have done a drive in movie and let him stay up past his bedtime for the special occasion (was FI's bday). They do double features, and the first movie was a kids movie, but he fell asleep half way though. It worked well for us to get a date night in without having to get a sitter (and was nice since if he was restless or loud, we were outside and had blankets and pillows in the bed of FI's truck for him to move around, and eventually to sleep through the rest of the movies.

That being said, we probably won't take him to the actual theater until he can really sit still and be quiet for an extended period of time, and even then would not be taking him to adult movies or a late show. That's just ridiculous.

See that is an awesome way to do it! I love that idea.

On the adult movies part, I also think that part of the issue is the MPAA's rating system for movies, especially for PG-13 movies. Some could get away with being PG, but there is a connotation with PG being a 'kids' movie. So some people think that PG-13 movies are okay for younger kids. Some could get away with being R, but studios want more people to be able to go see it, so they make a few 'edits' to get it down to a PG-13 rating.

sheknows6 · June 2015

I got a FB notification that I had been added to our class's 10 year reunion group a few months ago. Since then nothing has really been planned and it's been a cluster to watch.
What I don't understand is this:
Why would I spend money to hang out with people that I haven't seen or spoken to since we graduated? Furthermore, why would I want to hang out with people that didn't like me then, and are only inviting me now because I'm a part of the graduating class?

Because we all graduated together 10 years ago or because you just want me to help you throw your clique reunion?

Pass. I'll save my money and do something fun with my fiance, thanks!

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