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rrroxanne
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Unique of Offbeat Unity Ceremony Ideas?
Hey Ladies,
Anyone else have any good ideas?
My FI & I are looking for unique Unity Ceremony Ideas. We are having a "gothic romance" themed wedding, & want to think of something offbeat or different other than the lighting of the candle, or sand in a jar idea.
One brief idea we had was each taking a color of paint (red & black since those are our colors) & each painting a half to a heart (or something different that would be easy to paint in front of everyone) & using the canvas later as a guest book.
Anyone else have any good ideas?
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Re: Unique of Offbeat Unity Ceremony Ideas?
Because you asked for ideas and responses. You're not entitled to have everyone rubber stamp your ideas and jump and down with glee over them. Responses that don't do that are valid as well as ones that do.
I went to a wedding last year where they did something similar and it was the stupidest f***ing thing I've ever seen. Neither of them were artists, so it wasn't even "representative" of them as a couple. Seriously, our friends still talk about dumb it was.
P.S. I'm not hating on this particular unity thing - I hate all "unity ceremonies" of this nature - but the above was the reaction of about 90% of the guests. Your wedding is a unity ceremony.
Second, what do you mean by a Gothic romance theme? Gothic novels are usually filled with secret wives hidden in the attic, murderous husbands, or dastardly villains.
There have been millions of weddings in the past ten years. If you want something "unique" (I hate that word!) then maybe it isn't appropriate?
How about each of you drawing a new branch in a tree? Or 2 trees one for each of your families could be drawn (picturing black on white, bare- branched tees) and you each draw a branch and have the branches entwine. Symbolic and even if you don't have artistic ability, branches are fairly simple.
Best wishes for a beautiful ceremony that represents your uniqueness as a couple and many years of happiness together!
Also, it's not appropriate to "all they are asking for is ideas" here. The very act of posting is indeed a request for our opinions. Neither you nor anyone else has any right to expect us to withhold them regardless of what the OP or any other person posts.
we did something that you might say is unique - we tied together running shoes. Sort of weird, I know. Running is a big part of us as a couple and when we met with the officiant she asked about a unity thing and we both said we didn't really like the idea of a candle or sand and didn't really need one. She said well there are things you can do besides that, and I jokingly said oh can we tie some shoes together. Both the officiant and now-husband jumped all over it. I was like uhhh that's kind of weird tying a shoe? Even as of a week before the wedding I wasn't sure about doing it but I decided since he really wanted it we would do it.
As it turned out the officiant wrote some awesome words around the symbolizing of tying the knot and the knot being loose and not strong but when you pull it together it is strong, etc. H totally loved it and I had many comments afterwards saying how guests liked it because it was different, it had a good meaning, yet also was "us".
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