This is my first day on this site, where I thought would be a great place to speak with other brides-to-be about advice or issues I'm having planning my own wedding, & have received nothing but backlash & negativity. I am shocked that I'm asking for advice, & getting people swearing at me over my simple question. If this is how this site is, I'll remove myself now. I'm just curious as this seemed like a great place to ask questions.
Re: Is this site literally just for people to cause drama?
Formerly martha1818
As for causing drama, it's almost always on the OP's part, not the responders'. Rarely does someone say "I'd like opinions on roses versus hydrangeas" and it instantly goes to
This is a great forum. For logical people with common sense, who don't have their heads up their butts, and don't think that their wedding is going to be the event of the century and oh my gosh, everyone is going to do exactly what I tell them to because it's my special day and they just love me.
This is the forum for people who have questions and want real answers. For people who know that sometimes the people closest to you won't say exactly what they're thinking because they're afraid it'll hurt your feelings. For people who honestly don't know about some parts of wedding planning, and want to know how other people did/do it. For people who make mistakes and aren't afraid to get corrected on it.
For people who don't feel it's necessary to call out a bunch of people on a Snarky Brides board, complaining about getting real answers.
Yup, there's at least as much drama here as at productions by the Royal Shakespeare Company. It's mostly caused by people who come here with either incorrect ideas about the etiquette of weddings or otherwise bad ideas and then get upset when they don't get the validation they were expecting from the posters.
If, on the other hand, you're looking for genuine assistance with a wedding question or issue, and realize that nobody here is going to act like the wedding police but everyone here does care enough to help keep you from being a BSC, self-centered, unspeakably rude [expletive] person to the friends and relatives you are inviting to your event, we're happy to be of help. There are a number of threads from other posters who show appreciation for the fact that even though people here can be blunt, we're trying to help.
My mom's husband is not good, his actions were so bad there was no custody or visitation, I know any answer will cause problems, but how do I not invite him - I got advice saying I could probably not invite him because safety trumps etiquette.
Ugh, I can't stand him! He's so mean, he won't let me be a pretty diva, I'm not inviting him despite the fact he's raised me most of my life - I'm going to get shot down because I'm reverting to toddler mentality of it's only MY way or I throw a tantrum.
Welcome to the Snarky board! First thing, look up what "snark" is and don't bitch about it on a board just for it!