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hetshup · July 2010

Oh goodness, I am FREAKING OUT. I find out tomorrow if I got the job in Annapolis. If I did, then I need to be there by August 10^th. Yes, that’s right, I will be moving 2 months before the wedding. What they heck am I supposed to do?!

Do I pack up the house now? Should I see if they’ll move my stuff after the wedding? That means I need to change the address on the registry stuff too. Crap.
So, thoughts on
1)       Should I reprint invites, my address is the RSVP address and they are send and seals, meaning the whole thing has to be reprinted or just hope the USPS will correctly use the change of address labels.
2)       Should I finish centerpieces and store them at my in-laws or not finish them
3)       I need to finalize the cake while I am here--- mmmm cake!
4)       Should I offer to pay for my MOH hotel if we wind up in a hotel? She was going to stay at my house.

I need a paper bag to breathe in.

notquiteblushing · July 2010

Ok breathe. You can do this. First thing first, wait until tomorrow before you make any decisions. Then the invites - no friggen way should you get new ones. Get some mailing labels and post over the RSVP addresses. I would finish any and all projects you can store before the move lest you get stuck working on stuff at the last minute like yours truly. Good luck!

dwest2201 · July 2010

Deep breathes. Moving 2 months before the wedding would be better than moving 2 weeks before! You can do it all girl, I have faith!

I would suggest moving all of your stuff if possible because finding out you need something that is miles away is no fun. Perhaps you could get a pod or sam or whatever and store the things you don't think you'll need there but still be able to get to them in a timely manner? I'm not the best for this though as I've never moved more than an hour from where I was living prior... but I know that not having your sh!t defintiely sucks!

As for the RSVP's how are they addressed and what would be involved in readdressing them? Are they printed, caligraphied? Is it possible to re-do them without chucking all the hard work and time and money already invested? I think that I would have to readdress just to be able to rest easy personally, but I just don't have faith in USPS... been eff'ed over by them a few times.

loves2shop4shoes · July 2010

Agree with PP. Take a deep breath and wait until tomorrow before running around like a crazy person.

You can always get new labels for the invites--don't spend money redoing them! Also, you could have the post office forward all of your mail to the new address & your guests would be none the wiser.

I would try to get as much done as possible before you move IF you have to move!

hetshup · July 2010

Edit-- Management just informed me that I got the job. Hooooley poo

hetshup · July 2010

double post-- whoopsies

PaigeMcC · July 2010

BREATHE HETSHUP! *shakes you like a Polaroid picture* JUST BREATHE!!

Okay, now I feel better:)

I would say move as much as you can now. It'll be a pain when you get there and realize something you need is back at your old place.

Registry stuff shouldn't be that bad. Hop in your little (or big...I really don't know what you drive) car and go to where you registered. They should be able to change it easily. Maybe even online!

1) Can you use address labels to change the RSVP cards? What about getting some cute ones off vistaprint?

2)Finish the centerpieces if you have time and store them at ILs. It will make life easier in the long run.

3) Mmmmm cake...

4) Talk to MOH and see how she feels about it. I'm sure she'll be understanding and if need be you can pay, or help pay.

5) Mojito, Wine or Margarita STAT!

loves2shop4shoes · July 2010

Hetshup-

First things first, take a deep breath. Congratulate yourself & do your happy dance--you got the job...in this economy!!!!

I say you take five minutes to feel awesome about that, then worry about packing/moving/wedding stuff!

CONGRATS!

PaigeMcC · July 2010

Yay Hetshup!!!! Congrats!

aperitisa · July 2010

Congrats on the job! I agree with PPs. Take a few deep breaths and figure out one thing at a time!

Button5807 · July 2010

Congrats!

Screw all this stuff go buy some shoes!!!!!

PaigeMcC · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_talk-down?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e30cc801-b870-428e-ad08-b985686af616Post:46ee6b69-47ea-43fd-8aff-f6b96c3bd74e">Re: talk me down</a>:
[QUOTE]Congrats! Screw all this stuff go buy some shoes!!!!!
Posted by Button5807[/QUOTE]
This too;)

rickylee244 · July 2010

Stupid Knot didnt post!!

1. CONGRATS!!!!! Now go buy some shoes! buttons is right.

2. Breath. Everything will work out

3. NQB has great advice!

Acrosthec · July 2010

Congrats on the job! Really, that's the most important thing, so take just a minute or two to celebrate and enjoy it.

1) If possible, I would get new labels and put them over the RSVP address. I also don't trust USPS, and they make some cute labels! As long as the labels cover whatever was originally there, your guests will be none the wiser that you didn't get entirely new invitations with your new address. If labels really won't do the job, I would probably reprint them if you don't have that many, but that's because I'm a perfectionist and it would irritate me (and as stated, I don't trust USPS to forward all my mail).

2) I would finish as much as possible. You don't want to be doing that stuff last minute.

3) Mmmm....cake!

4) I would talk to your MOH and tell her your new situation (you'll want to tell her about your job anyway!) Chances are she'll be willing to split the room with you instead of making you pay for the whole thing. Another option is for the two of you to stay at your parents' house the night before the wedding (I'm assuming they live in town here...), and then offer to get her the room for the night of the wedding only. She may still offer to share the cost with you, but that way, the cost is considerably less since it's only for one night.

Again, CONGRATS ON THE JOB! And deep breaths; you'll be fine!

Hazel_B · July 2010

First, Congratulations on the job! That's really exciting! Just enjoy that for a little while...you deserve it!

Second, don't freak out. Write down everything you think you'll need to do in the upcoming months. Set list aside!

Third, go have a celebratory drink.

Last, sometime tomorrow revisit your list of stuff and star the absolute necessities and then begin your plan.

Just remmber you aren't on your own in this...you have FI, friends and family. Lean on them if you need to. Delegate what you can

ekathleen684 · July 2010

GAHH! (That was my exact reaction inside after reading the initial post then the follow up below it) CONGRATS!!

Now to the details-
-Take a deep breath. I think you'll be fine. Take a few to be excited about just getting the job, not all of the things and stresses that will be coming with it
-I'd start packijng stuff, start with the rarely used stuff and then move on with the daily stuff the closer you get to moving
-Do the centerpieces and keep them at IL's.
-In general, I would do as much as you can now rather than later. I think the closer you get and the more stuff you already have done will make you less stressed.
-Could you change your registry/RSVP address to IL's or another address of someone. It might be easier to have them go to an address that isn't changing between now and the wedding day.

You're under too much stress, tell your boss you need a personal day and go buy those shoes. You're awesome and you deserve it!

MARGARITA PARTY TIME!!

catemeg · July 2010

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!

Okay, now I wrote a response and my computer ate it.

First, let me tell you from someone who lost her job and relocated 1,000 miles within a week that you can totally do this! It's overwhelming before you start, but you seem like a very capable person, so I'm sure this will be much easier than you fear.

You can find boxes and packing supplies for cheap on craigslist from people who just moved to your area. I got all my boxes and packing paper for $30.

Second, you have to figure out how you're going to move it all - moving truck, UHaul, or Door-to-Door Storage Pod (usually called just PODS). For me, the truck was prohibitively expensive, and the UHaul became expensive with gas, tolls, hotels, food, and just the hassle of driving it. The Storage Pods can be cost effecitve and much easier - they drop off the box, you fill it, then they transport it, then you unpack it. May I also suggest EMove.com to find reliable hourly movers - you can have people pack up your storage box where you are, and unpack it when you arrive. It will cost approximately $50/hour for 2 movers (varies, but that's average) and I highly doubt it will take more than 2 hours in each location. Then you just pack your car up with a suitcase (I always pack two suitcases like I'm going on a long trip - everything I need for 2 weeks to a month so that I don't have to worry if I don't get to unpack all the boxes right away). Put all valuables and wedding related stuff in your car just for peace of mind, and go!

As for USPS mail forwarding, I've been very happy with their services. You can just fill it out online, and wham! They're good. I've forwarded to one address, and then forwarded from that address on to another (and BF did the same), and all my mail has gotten to me no problem.

As for the hotel, would you want to share a room with her the night before? It might be nice for you to have someone to stay with, but you're under no obligation to offer to pay for her hotel. These things happen, and as your MOH and thus likely good friend, she'll understand (and be happy for you with your new job). If you can afford to and want to, I'm sure she'd appreciate you offering, but if I were her I wouldn't let the bride pay for my room.

Good luck!!!

dwest2201 · July 2010

Wooo Hooo!! Congratulations!!

First things first...

Have a celebratory drink (after work)!
Go buy those well deserved shoes you've been lusting!
Return home to continue have celebratory drinks!
Take lots of deep breaths and try to prioritize what needs to happen first.

Also, I was thinking about the adressing and on second thought I think that it is best to go ahead and change the address however you can that will be the least pain in the arse for you. A lot of people who you may not have kept in close contact with (like on the christmas card list etc.) might not have had your address prior and will use that address to add to their list. Just a thought.

Anywho, Congrats again. If I had the pom pom emoticon I'd insert it here!

desertsun · July 2010

Okay, maybe I'm an idiot, but I don't think moving 2 months before is a GINORMOUS DEAL. It's totally manageable! You already have more done for your wedding at this point than I did a month further on. I didn't pick out a cake until like 3 weeks ago. I really think you're in good shape! You need to just make yourself a timeline with everything left and the moving, and then you need to start with the first thing. Stop freaking out and start planning!

Breathe, take one thing at a time, be organized, and ask for help when you can!

YOU CAN DO THIS!

ekathleen684 · July 2010

Desert- Did you know you're getting married in 9 days?

That's all.

loopy82 · July 2010

Everyone is giving great advice, so I'll say CONGRATS! And go buy a winter coat, you'll need it in a few months.

katanne9 · July 2010

RELAX!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It can all be done long distance.

1)       Labels - cute ones, ditto Acro

2)       Finish them and store asap

3)       I know you can do this long distance!! I've done all mine LD

4)       If you can afford it.

Registries - can you change it to your parents?

I would slowly start packing things like off-season clothes, books, extraneous linens, so on...

oceana919 · July 2010

CALM DOWN. DEEP BREATHS. ::shakes and hugs and all that jazz::

You can do this. You're an intelligent, capable, awesome chicka. You will get all of this done, no prob.

1) Check out catemeg's advice, particularly that about getting boxes/packing supplies from Craig's list. Another thing - put a note out of FB to friends if anyone's got moving supplies. We have a group of friends here that have literally been passing around moving supplies from friend to friend based on whomever needs it (we just passed ours on to rickylee, if I remember correctly).

2) Bribe your friends for help. We offered free beer and pizza to whomever could come help us pack up our U-Haul, people showed up in droves. We were packed and moved in less than 2 hours.

3) Look into the mailing label option for your RSVPs. Honestly, I don't think your guests will care, particularly if you put together some cute mailing labels. If things are too crazy, I'd be happy to make some for you and send them to your new address.

4) Finish your centerpieces. You will feel so much better having that accomplished. Put them in storage containers that will protect them and store them with someone (I'm assuming your inlaws?) who is local to the area where the wedding is so you don't have to worry about transporting them at wedding-time...one less thing to worry about!

5) Take 2-3 days off work and take care of whatever still needs finalizing in terms of the wedding - cake, venue, etc. You will feel loads better leaving town if you know everything's settled and organized.

6) Get yourself a mojito and buy yourself some new shoes.

7) Remember all this good keep-calm advice and rehash it at me in April when I'm wigging out about spending a week and a half in Austria doing research two weeks before our wedding (::vomit::).

notquiteblushing · July 2010

Yay congrats!!!

Ana_2985 · July 2010

Congratulations Hetshup! Definitely take a day to celebrate.

I think everyone already gave great advice. Just follow that and you'll be completely fine! Good luck with everything!

catemeg · July 2010

I know it seems like a short period of time, but if you really look at it - you need 1 day to get all your supplies together for packing, you need 2 days to pack up everything. You need travel time. Then you need 2 solid days to unpack everything - really, you can get it all put away if you put your mind to it! We had to, because BF started school again in 2 days after we moved in. And we moved twice - my stuff from DC to Miami, then his stuff from his apartment to the new place.

So really, 1+2+2+2 = 7 days - you can do this all in a week (plus travel time) and be all settled in!

If you can't find a new place right away, look into storage units and get a sublease until after the wedding.

**Mutley** · July 2010

Congratulations!

*Hands Hetshup a brown paper bag*

Moving 2 months before the wedding is completely doable. We moved 2 weeks before our wedding, and DH started his new job 3 days after our wedding.

PPs have given lots of great advice, so I would just be repetitive.

I'll be here cheering you on.

katanne9 · July 2010

Also, I just moved these last few weeks and that was 2 mo. before my wedding. And look - I'm still standing!!!

Just be organized and prioritize!! You can do it.

**Mutley** · July 2010

Yeah, Kat has already decorated.

katanne9 · July 2010

I sewed 8 curtains last weekend - BOOYAH!

Wedding Schmedding.

**Mutley** · July 2010

So Kat, speaking of sewing... Have you ever made a slipcover?

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