I need to vent! Just got back from a wedding this weekend to which I took a flight, in order to be my long-distance fiances date. He was a groomsman and I don't get to see him that often, and I have spent some time with the bride and groom before.
The entire weekend the wedding party was separated from us dates. It was fine (I was even a good sport about the FOUR HOUR GAP between ceremony and reception for bridal party pictures where I was all alone in the hotel) until I arrived at the reception and learned that the head table would NOT include the dates of the wedding party.
Then the DJ made an announcement after dinner to have myself and another excluded groomsman' date cut the cake, so basically once I could finally hang out with my fiancé whom I rarely get to see and flew here to be with as his date, I was essentially publicly coerced into doing a task that would again separate us. I admit I had agreed in advance to cut the cake, however, the bride and groom had told me the cake cutting would occur before the reception and i figured it would help give me something to do while the wedding party took pictures. Well no, it ended up being during the reception.
Luckily my fiancé made every chance to be with me during dinner and he ended up helping me cut the cake. But I'm still fantasizing about revenge seating charts at our wedding to separate them (the groom will be a groomsman in our). Obviously I won't stoop to that level but it's fun to think about.
Oh and I had to take a vacation day to get to the wedding, give up family 4th of July plans (which I was ok wth when I made the apparently ridiculous assumption I could sit with fiancé at dinner), they had a honey fund, and I (gladly at the time) helped out with reception set up, AND after the reception the mother of the bride was recruiting guests to clean up and fold all their rental items.