My lovely cousins, who are bridesmaids, are reaching out to me with questions about timing for the bachelorette they are hosting. One of them is getting married March 9 and a 3rd bridesmaid is having a baby in March, so although I'd rather not be involved at all (it's so awkward to say YES PLEASE HOLD A PARTY FOR ME ON THIS DATE THAT IS MOST CONVENIENT FOR ME), coordinating the events is important for budgetary and scheduling reasons. So I'm sucking it up over the awkwardness and helping them with the timing as they have requested.
I think I prefer having prewedding events a little bit closer to the day itself as it seems more fun that way, but they are also planning a shower for April, so I want to have enough time between events that no one is tapped out, so to speak. Plus, we may be doing cousin's prewedding events in the January/February timeframe, I'll likely host a baby shower for my pg bridesmaid in the Februaryish area, and then the holidays in late November/December.... so jeez, I don't wanna have it in October, know what I mean? It won't be a big, spendy event or anything - from the questions they've asked me about what I would like, I think they are planning for wine/painting, dinner, and some variation of "drunken sleepover." Even so, with 5-10 busy adult women, at least one of whom will either be pregnant or have a newborn, scheduling is a bitch.
Would it be insane to have the shower 4-5 weeks before the wedding and the bachelorette 1-2 weeks before the wedding? (That would leave 3-4 weeks between events.) Would that be making my wedding party do too much in a short period of time? Is it AWish to have basically an entire month dedicated to being fêted, even though others are choosing to do the fête-ing? What's your experience?