Please help. Wedding is in 15 days - achk!
We're having a destination wedding of 60 people. We're paying for the rehearsal dinner, wedding, and a day after brunch.
The day before the wedding we want to get together with guests for lunch. Super casual- more like a, "hey, bride and groom will be at X around 2 if you want to grab a drink with them before the big day and hang out with other wedding guests". We won't be paying.
Problem is -- the moms are Insisting that we include an invite in the welcome bags with an RSVP. I think this gives the impression we are paying. Also, the restaurant (where we ate before getting engaged) doesn't take reservations but has a large outdoor bar and patio. But fiance's family told guests that "a place will be reserved for our guests" without asking us, because the restaurant won't be doing that. The moms want to move it to another restaurant where they will take reservations, but we want it to be at this place which is sentimental to us. It's getting out of hand and farther from what we've originally wanted.
I'm not sure what to do/how to handle the situation. Or how to word it so that guests get the right idea. HELP, please.
- Stressed out bride.