Hi all, I'm wondering if I'm overthinking but if you and your fiance are paying 100% for the wedding, did you discuss how to split paying for it? I know once married, all finances are pretty much melded if it's a joint account but we will probably have separate accounts.
I'm asking because I've done 95% of the planning (he's really absentee on it) and therefore, I've paid all the costs of hiring vendors, etc thus far. And it's looking like I'll end up paying 90% of the wedding, if not more.
Financially I am ok with it but I guess I haven't grappled with the thought of joint finances yet. To me, unless you pool 100% of your money, it's not joint. And I know he shelled out a lot for the engagement ring, so if I think about it that way, then we'll be even even if I pay for 100% of the wedding. But it seems a bit unfair because I didn't even want a wedding and the majority of the guests are from his side.
And I thinking about it all wrong? I feel a terrible for this selfish-thinking but I can't help it. I'm in my 30s and I've always been financially fair/conscious.
Not just the wedding, but other big items I've been paying for just because I'm on the ball and he dilly-dallies. Should I just sit back and tell him to use his card every now and then? Or should I just forget all this pettiness and consider one for all?