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My wedding regrets. Any advice on how to move on?

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Re: My wedding regrets. Any advice on how to move on?

  • AddieCake said:
    Sometimes it's all about the tone of the OP. This person doesn't give me a "waaaaah, my special day was less than perfect!" vibe. She seems very sad, my heart goes out to her, and I don't think it was helpful of you to ask why she didn't have a backup plan. You can disagree all you like; it won't change how I feel about it.
    We'll have to agree to disagree then. I felt she was all "woe is me" in her post. And I still don't think my question was out of line.
  • We'll have to agree to disagree then. I felt she was all "woe is me" in her post. And I still don't think my question was out of line.

    I totally think it was out of line. Kicking her while she's down. What good does it do by "asking a question" that you already know the answer to, but just want to rub her nose in it that she forgot something?
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  • Fine. OP I'm sorry I asked my questions. You can ignore them. I do feel bad your day wasn't as perfect as you hoped.
  • Wegl13Wegl13 member
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    edited July 2015
    It rained on my wedding day. The plan was for my dad to drive me to the ceremony site in his classic (soft top) car. The roof leaked onto him the entire drive there, and I had to spend 30 minutes sitting in the car by myself while I waited on the rain to stop. There were a lot of instances that day of the rain basically ruining the plans and getting everyone all confused and Kerfluffled.
    I felt like a jerk because we almost forgot to do the in law side of pictures because we weren't able to do them at the first agreed upon time (rain stopped the pre-ceremony pictures).
    But guess what? The day went off with at least one hitch (har dee har). It sucks when you have regrets about things that you shoulda coulda woulda, but sometimes (and perhaps more often than people here would like to admit), people really do have good but maybe misdirected intentions and your family and friends really will forgive you.
  • KatWAGKatWAG member
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    edited August 2015
    AddieCake said:

    I really don't think it is necessary to harp on her for the things she did wrong. She is upset enough as it is.


    I am late to this party but I agree with @thespeshulestsnowflake. OP is complaining about who her day went. When most of the things that went wrong were a result of poor planning.

    Are we seriously pretending to be okay with the fact that OP made her guests sit out on the rain?

    Some examples of the poor planning OP was complaining about: spending triple their budget, not communicating with Fi/ H, the microphone, the pictures, the first dance, etc

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  • KatWAG said:


    I am late to this party but I agree with @thespeshulestsnowflake. OP is complaining about who her day went. When most of the things that went wrong were a result of poor planning.

    Are we seriously pretending to be okay with the fact that OP made her guests sit out on the rain?

    Some examples of the poor planning OP was complaining about: spending triple their budget, not communicating with Fi/ H, the microphone, the pictures, the first dance, etc


    I don't think anyone is pretending to be okay with the ceremony in the rain, but OP is looking for help moving on. Telling her how shitty her wedding was won't help. I know we can - and do - comment on whatever we want, but I don't think focusing on the wrong here is helpful to her. When brides come in here in a panic because their dress is too small we don't respond with, "well why'd you eat so damn much, tubby?". I think this is similar. I do agree, however, that a lot of these issues are self-inflicted and OP isn't really owning that and it does sound like she's playing a bit of a victim.
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  • Perspective. My engagement, my, now, husband got down on one knee and proposed to me.  He ordered a bottle of champagne.  The waiter brought by the champagne, my H took my hand and knocked over BOTH glasses of champagne into my lap (it looked like I peed myself.)  I literally had a puddle in my lap, that the dress wasn't even completely absorbing. I started laughing.  It made our engagement story ours and unique. Sometimes, something you would think would be terrible, would be something to remember for always... how could that ever be a bad thing, when it comes to a love story?
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