My wedding is this month and I feel helpless!
I'm a bit frazzled at the moment. My wedding is in 27 days, and while we have most things squared away I'm having an issue. There's still a bit to do with putting together favors and decorations and programs (I've done nearly everything up to this point by myself.) and I have no help! Don't bridesmaids usually help with those types of things? I'm an artist and a bit of a perfectionist so I was fine with doing everything myself at first, so I could make things exactly the way I wanted them. Not to mention I enjoy crafty things and it gave me something to do in my down time. But now that the date is bearing down and I've made like 80 programs from scratch by myself (a little over half of what I need) I'm kind of over it. I just don't like doing things alone, I thoroughly enjoy the company of my friends and was excited to work on these things with them but they're always either busy or don't want to help. My MOH came over one day to help me but he only stayed for a little while and every small thing I suggested he could do to help was something he didn't want to do. He cut a few things out for me and then just sat and talked to me while I worked. I enjoyed the company and I don't want to be pushy if they don't want to help, I'm just tired of trying to do it all alone. It's a lot for one person to do! I don't want to tarnish my excitement over something so seemingly trivial, but I just feel so...ugh, about it. Help please! Any advice?
Re: My wedding is this month and I feel helpless!
Some bridesmaids do help, and if they offer, that's great. But it is not required of them, nor should you expect it. Your fiancé should be helping you. Why isn't he?
Thank you for your input though! I wasn't aware and I think I let my nervousness get the best of me, thanks for setting me straight!
That said, the only two people responsible for throwing your wedding ceremony and reception (whether that be paying, crafting, organizing, what have you) are you and your FI. If other people offer to assist in any capacity, that's fantastic, but no one is obligated to do so. It's up to you to plan responsibly as if only you and your FI will be undertaking these projects and that means knowing exactly what your limits are and what you can reasonably produce, especially since you know you don't like doing these things alone. They aren't responsible for your lack of planning or foresight on this one. Sorry.
Find some things to cut or things that you can delegate (and by delegate I mean either to your FI since he's the only other person responsible for pulling this party off, a paid professional, or using a store-bought version of something you originally intended to create yourself).
You decided to take on these projects. Your bridal party members (and other friends and relatives) are not your little worker bees.
PPs have it right, sometimes your BP will offer to help you but it shouldn't be expected. Some may offer as it gets closer as well but if they don't, you & your fi will manage. Believe me, when it gets down to the wire, just let go of the nonessentials and spend a little time slowing down and focusing on getting married. That is, after all, what is most important. Good luck, you can do this.
I would take your aunt up on her offer and enlist your fiance's help. He might surprise you.
He managed to help with all of the nit-picky wedding crafts without his dick falling off. In fact he'd have been pretty disappointed with me had I not expected, and asked for, his help because I thought that he was too manly to help with his own wedding.
Get your FI to help you.