What's pissing you off today?

Maggie0829 · August 2015

jenna8984 said:

pinupbride6189 said:

My FMIL. Apparently FI's brother's senior prom is going to fall smack dab on our wedding day. She says that she or FFIL will probably have to stay home instead of coming down for the wedding so that FBIL can go to his prom. No, I'm not shitting you.

Needless to say, FI is pretty crushed, which has made me very, very angry.

Is this for real? Someone's own dad and brother are going to miss his wedding for a stupid prom?? That is so fucked up.

Well I mean I kind of get it. When you are a senior in high school prom is a big deal. It is the last hurrah before graduation. So yeah, a prom is probably more important to FBIL then his bros wedding. Does it suck that he and one of the parents is going to miss it? Sure, but just like the wedding is a huge thing for you this prom is probably a huge thing for FBIL and something that he may have been looking forward to for awhile.

jenna8984 · August 2015

Maggie0829 said:

jenna8984 said:

pinupbride6189 said:

My FMIL. Apparently FI's brother's senior prom is going to fall smack dab on our wedding day. She says that she or FFIL will probably have to stay home instead of coming down for the wedding so that FBIL can go to his prom. No, I'm not shitting you.

Needless to say, FI is pretty crushed, which has made me very, very angry.

Is this for real? Someone's own dad and brother are going to miss his wedding for a stupid prom?? That is so fucked up.

Well I mean I kind of get it. When you are a senior in high school prom is a big deal. It is the last hurrah before graduation. So yeah, a prom is probably more important to FBIL then his bros wedding. Does it suck that he and one of the parents is going to miss it? Sure, but just like the wedding is a huge thing for you this prom is probably a huge thing for FBIL and something that he may have been looking forward to for awhile.

Yea I guess...I just figue that most people get 2-3 proms. Like you said I guess being the high school kid it's like the "end of the world" to not go so I could give that a pass for the kid, but the parent should be able to trust their kid enough to not need to be there.

Maggie0829 · August 2015

jenna8984 said:

Maggie0829 said:

jenna8984 said:

pinupbride6189 said:

My FMIL. Apparently FI's brother's senior prom is going to fall smack dab on our wedding day. She says that she or FFIL will probably have to stay home instead of coming down for the wedding so that FBIL can go to his prom. No, I'm not shitting you.

Needless to say, FI is pretty crushed, which has made me very, very angry.

Is this for real? Someone's own dad and brother are going to miss his wedding for a stupid prom?? That is so fucked up.

Well I mean I kind of get it. When you are a senior in high school prom is a big deal. It is the last hurrah before graduation. So yeah, a prom is probably more important to FBIL then his bros wedding. Does it suck that he and one of the parents is going to miss it? Sure, but just like the wedding is a huge thing for you this prom is probably a huge thing for FBIL and something that he may have been looking forward to for awhile.

Yea I guess...I just figue that most people get 2-3 proms. Like you said I guess being the high school kid it's like the "end of the world" to not go so I could give that a pass for the kid, but the parent should be able to trust their kid enough to not need to be there.

Only one prom here. Not all schools have Junior Prom and Senior Prom or whatever else. So from my perspective, my prom was a big deal and a "must go" event.

But maybe one of the parents wants to be there. You know, to see their kid go to prom? It sucks when things fall on the same date but these are both their sons and they both have big life events going on at the same time, so it probably kills them that they can't be at both so the best course of action is to split up.

wandajune6 · August 2015

jenna8984 said:

Maggie0829 said:

jenna8984 said:

pinupbride6189 said:

My FMIL. Apparently FI's brother's senior prom is going to fall smack dab on our wedding day. She says that she or FFIL will probably have to stay home instead of coming down for the wedding so that FBIL can go to his prom. No, I'm not shitting you.

Needless to say, FI is pretty crushed, which has made me very, very angry.

Is this for real? Someone's own dad and brother are going to miss his wedding for a stupid prom?? That is so fucked up.

Well I mean I kind of get it. When you are a senior in high school prom is a big deal. It is the last hurrah before graduation. So yeah, a prom is probably more important to FBIL then his bros wedding. Does it suck that he and one of the parents is going to miss it? Sure, but just like the wedding is a huge thing for you this prom is probably a huge thing for FBIL and something that he may have been looking forward to for awhile.

Yea I guess...I just figue that most people get 2-3 proms. Like you said I guess being the high school kid it's like the "end of the world" to not go so I could give that a pass for the kid, but the parent should be able to trust their kid enough to not need to be there.

Or, if you don't trust the kid enough, you find someone that you trust to fill in. I could easily see my parents bringing in someone as an "enforcer" - maybe the parents of another friend, etc. You don't miss one kid's wedding for another's prom.

*spoken by someone who never bothered with a prom*

ShesSoCold · August 2015

wandajune6 said:

jenna8984 said:

Maggie0829 said:

jenna8984 said:

pinupbride6189 said:

My FMIL. Apparently FI's brother's senior prom is going to fall smack dab on our wedding day. She says that she or FFIL will probably have to stay home instead of coming down for the wedding so that FBIL can go to his prom. No, I'm not shitting you.

Needless to say, FI is pretty crushed, which has made me very, very angry.

Is this for real? Someone's own dad and brother are going to miss his wedding for a stupid prom?? That is so fucked up.

Well I mean I kind of get it. When you are a senior in high school prom is a big deal. It is the last hurrah before graduation. So yeah, a prom is probably more important to FBIL then his bros wedding. Does it suck that he and one of the parents is going to miss it? Sure, but just like the wedding is a huge thing for you this prom is probably a huge thing for FBIL and something that he may have been looking forward to for awhile.

Yea I guess...I just figue that most people get 2-3 proms. Like you said I guess being the high school kid it's like the "end of the world" to not go so I could give that a pass for the kid, but the parent should be able to trust their kid enough to not need to be there.

Or, if you don't trust the kid enough, you find someone that you trust to fill in. I could easily see my parents bringing in someone as an "enforcer" - maybe the parents of another friend, etc. You don't miss one kid's wedding for another's prom.

*spoken by someone who never bothered with a prom*

That's what I was thinking. Find someone to make sure the kid gets home and everything. That's gotta be really tough on the parents, though.

beachyone15 · August 2015

This might be an UO here, but I think your child's wedding trumps prom. I mean, I just can't compare the two. It is the brother's decision if he wants to go to prom, but as a parent I'd be at my son's wedding.

[Deleted User] · August 2015

I shared in another thread about how my FMIL wanted to send a STD to her aunt (not invited to the wedding)- I think because it had our picture on it. I told my fiance I thought it was rude and silly to send someone a STD card to an event they weren't invited to, especially since this request came 2 days after we'd sent out actual invites. I suggest printing 1-2 of the 900 images we have from our e-shoot and sending those, and he says okay and tells his mom.

Last night, as we're laying in bed falling asleep, he tells me he printed two pictures for great aunt and passed along a wedding INVITATION. I was pretty pissed. And then he said, "I wish I hadn't said anything." Wut?

I tried to explain that I was 5% upset about the fact that he sent someone an invite to an even they weren't invited to (not filled out- just a "blank" one), but that I was 95% pissed because he said he was going to do xyz and did abc instead. That kind of thing really irks me.

We just didn't talk after that and I won't see him until 8 or 9 tonight so we'll see how that goes when we're both more coherent and not half way to dream land.

Maggie0829 · August 2015

beachyone15 said:

This might be an UO here, but I think your child's wedding trumps prom. I mean, I just can't compare the two. It is the brother's decision if he wants to go to prom, but as a parent I'd be at my son's wedding.

For some parents I am sure missing either would be very hard on them and having to pick one would be very hard if not impossible.

I guess this is why checking the dates with your VIPs is extremely important.

jenna8984 · August 2015

Maggie0829 said:

beachyone15 said:

This might be an UO here, but I think your child's wedding trumps prom. I mean, I just can't compare the two. It is the brother's decision if he wants to go to prom, but as a parent I'd be at my son's wedding.

For some parents I am sure missing either would be very hard on them and having to pick one would be very hard if not impossible.

I guess this is why checking the dates with your VIPs is extremely important.

I don't think proms get booked until like 4 months out (I was on our committee) so they probably planned the wedding first and the date was available for everyone at the time. I mean high school graduation is a big deal that family should be there for- my brother was class president and spoke at his and I wasn't able to go because the SAT was that day. Different scenario yes but I still think something that affects the rest of your life (like a new family member, or in my case getting into college) is a little more important than something "high schooly" that affects you for one day.

santiago2615 · August 2015

FI was in Florida for work, so we saved our money and bought me a ticket to see him (he would have been gone a month) and the day I was supposed to fly down, he was sent back home. I guess the suits that run his department decided the class he was in was too small and want him and the rest of the class to go back so the class size can be bigger. Ugh, I needed a tan

I also had my yearly pap and apparently the doctor didn't get enough cells so I have to go back for another one. Great, since I already took off of work, can I please get a Saturday appointment? Hahaha, yea, no, I was shot down by his office for a Saturday appointment AND he's out of town until September 1st.

I picked the wrong month to give up booze....

Maggie0829 · August 2015

jenna8984 said:

Maggie0829 said:

beachyone15 said:

This might be an UO here, but I think your child's wedding trumps prom. I mean, I just can't compare the two. It is the brother's decision if he wants to go to prom, but as a parent I'd be at my son's wedding.

For some parents I am sure missing either would be very hard on them and having to pick one would be very hard if not impossible.

I guess this is why checking the dates with your VIPs is extremely important.

I don't think proms get booked until like 4 months out (I was on our committee) so they probably planned the wedding first and the date was available for everyone at the time. I mean high school graduation is a big deal that family should be there for- my brother was class president and spoke at his and I wasn't able to go because the SAT was that day. Different scenario yes but I still think something that affects the rest of your life (like a new family member, or in my case getting into college) is a little more important than something "high schooly" that affects you for one day.

Yeah but proms are typically held around the same time every year so it would be something that they could have guessed at or given a heads up about.

cupcait927 · August 2015

jenna8984 said:

Maggie0829 said:

beachyone15 said:

This might be an UO here, but I think your child's wedding trumps prom. I mean, I just can't compare the two. It is the brother's decision if he wants to go to prom, but as a parent I'd be at my son's wedding.

For some parents I am sure missing either would be very hard on them and having to pick one would be very hard if not impossible.

I guess this is why checking the dates with your VIPs is extremely important.

I don't think proms get booked until like 4 months out (I was on our committee) so they probably planned the wedding first and the date was available for everyone at the time. I mean high school graduation is a big deal that family should be there for- my brother was class president and spoke at his and I wasn't able to go because the SAT was that day. Different scenario yes but I still think something that affects the rest of your life (like a new family member, or in my case getting into college) is a little more important than something "high schooly" that affects you for one day.

Just to play devil's advocate here - when you're in high school, things that don't seem important to adults ARE important to the kids. It might seem silly years later, but things like prom are a big deal. I would've been so bummed out to miss a night with all of my friends, one of the last big events in high school, to go to my sibling's wedding. I would be happy for my sibling and welcoming to the new family member but really sad to miss out on memories with my friends. It can be a big deal for mom and dad as well, one more reminder that in a few short months, their kid will be an adult and possibly going off to college or moving away. I get why it's hard for these parents to decide who's going to which event and maybe are trying to make it as fair as possible.

anjemon · August 2015

Pissed off is probably a bit strong, but today it's H working from home. We used to get up at the same time. He always showered faster than me, but I didn't mind having him sleep while I was getting ready. Now that he's working from home he has started not getting up all-together. He'll shower at lunchtime or roll out of bed when I'm leaving and shower then. Today he decided he was going to sleep an extra hour and start at 9:00 because I don't get home until after 5:00 anyways.

It just sucks to have to be the only one to get up and get ready. It also sucks to have him sleeping when I have to leave. It's totally selfish but now one of my (much smaller) hopes for him getting another job is him having to get a normal schedule and having to suffer with me again.

Maggie0829 · August 2015

cupcait927 said:

Just to play devil's advocate here - when you're in high school, things that don't seem important to adults ARE important to the kids. It might seem silly years later, but things like prom are a big deal. I would've been so bummed out to miss a night with all of my friends, one of the last big events in high school, to go to my sibling's wedding. I would be happy for my sibling and welcoming to the new family member but really sad to miss out on memories with my friends. It can be a big deal for mom and dad as well, one more reminder that in a few short months, their kid will be an adult and possibly going off to college or moving away. I get why it's hard for these parents to decide who's going to which event and maybe are trying to make it as fair as possible.

QFT.

ETA: And said so much better then I could ever do.

cupcait927 · August 2015

anjemon said:

Pissed off is probably a bit strong, but today it's H working from home. We used to get up at the same time. He always showered faster than me, but I didn't mind having him sleep while I was getting ready. Now that he's working from home he has started not getting up all-together. He'll shower at lunchtime or roll out of bed when I'm leaving and shower then. Today he decided he was going to sleep an extra hour and start at 9:00 because I don't get home until after 5:00 anyways.

It just sucks to have to be the only one to get up and get ready. It also sucks to have him sleeping when I have to leave. It's totally selfish but now one of my (much smaller) hopes for him getting another job is him having to get a normal schedule and having to suffer with me again.

Right there with ya. H's job now is all based on appointment, with some office hours thrown in there. He usually has a few days a week where he doesn't have to be in until 9 or 10 am, so he'll snooze on the couch with the dog while I'm rushing around like crazy trying to get ready for work and out the door by 7:30. He's also usually home earlier than me, sometimes by 1 or 2 in the afternoon. I leave at 7:30 and don't get home until 5:40. I'd been okay with but it's starting to irritate me and I know it's irrational and selfish.

anjemon · August 2015

cupcait927 said:

anjemon said:

Pissed off is probably a bit strong, but today it's H working from home. We used to get up at the same time. He always showered faster than me, but I didn't mind having him sleep while I was getting ready. Now that he's working from home he has started not getting up all-together. He'll shower at lunchtime or roll out of bed when I'm leaving and shower then. Today he decided he was going to sleep an extra hour and start at 9:00 because I don't get home until after 5:00 anyways.

It just sucks to have to be the only one to get up and get ready. It also sucks to have him sleeping when I have to leave. It's totally selfish but now one of my (much smaller) hopes for him getting another job is him having to get a normal schedule and having to suffer with me again.

Right there with ya. H's job now is all based on appointment, with some office hours thrown in there. He usually has a few days a week where he doesn't have to be in until 9 or 10 am, so he'll snooze on the couch with the dog while I'm rushing around like crazy trying to get ready for work and out the door by 7:30. He's also usually home earlier than me, sometimes by 1 or 2 in the afternoon. I leave at 7:30 and don't get home until 5:40. I'd been okay with but it's starting to irritate me and I know it's irrational and selfish.

Exactly. And it's hard because I know H works a lot harder than I do during the day. I Knot quite a bit and bum around on the internet. He works in a job where he has to log all his time down to the 15 minutes and feels bad about the amount of chatting that happens sometimes. So he deserves some easy time and getting to be laid back. But it sucks to have him sleeping away while I have to drag myself out of bed.

lyndausvi · August 2015

I had a full blown meltdown yesterday. I was in tears. DH's work schedule finally got the best of me. Some of it was him just ignoring the household stuff. I don't mind taking on most of the stuff this time of year, but he took it to a new level. He hasn't helped with ANYTHING in the last week. He hadn't even taken the dogs out. I have felt so unapprecative lately.

The other issue is his health. He hasn't have a day off since MAY. Not one. He has taken 2-3 half days. Half days are going in at 8 and leaving at 3pm. No one is productive working that much. He complains about his body hurting. Well duh, working 12-15 hour days on your feet for 2+ months will do that.

Him working everyday is 100% self-induced. DH makes his own schedule. His boss takes 2 days off most weeks. Actually all of the other managers take off at least once a week, most take 2. I'm only asking for 1-2 days of a MONTH. Sure once a week would be better, but got to start somewhere.

Well I just lost it yesterday. DH felt so bad he LEFT WORK after only being there 2 hours. He took me and the bulldog to Aspen. We had lunch, went to the park, had a few drinks. Then we went to a friend's house for dinner. It was so nice.

He just left for work and said he might take the night off. Apparnetly his staff was pretty happy that DH took the day off yesterday.

Maggie0829 said:

jenna8984 said:

Maggie0829 said:

beachyone15 said:

This might be an UO here, but I think your child's wedding trumps prom. I mean, I just can't compare the two. It is the brother's decision if he wants to go to prom, but as a parent I'd be at my son's wedding.

For some parents I am sure missing either would be very hard on them and having to pick one would be very hard if not impossible.

I guess this is why checking the dates with your VIPs is extremely important.

I don't think proms get booked until like 4 months out (I was on our committee) so they probably planned the wedding first and the date was available for everyone at the time. I mean high school graduation is a big deal that family should be there for- my brother was class president and spoke at his and I wasn't able to go because the SAT was that day. Different scenario yes but I still think something that affects the rest of your life (like a new family member, or in my case getting into college) is a little more important than something "high schooly" that affects you for one day.

Yeah but proms are typically held around the same time every year so it would be something that they could have guessed at or given a heads up about.

exactly Maggie.

It's all great Jenna was on prom commitee, but what you did doens't mean that is what all schools do. Considering they seem to already know the prom is on the same day as the wedding already, THIS school picks out the date more than 4 months out. I think ours did too. Proms are often help in the same types of locations as weddings (i.e. a banquet hall). Just like weddings you sometimes need to book way in advance.

julieanne912 · August 2015

Today I'm PO'd at how hard it is to find dark brown non-tuxedo-looking vests for the guys to wear for the wedding. I just need 2, a size medium and a size XL for the best man, who is in Germany and won't be here til 2 days before the wedding. I find the ones I like and they aren't available in the right sizes.

A side note too, I started bugging FI 2 months ago about figuring out his outfit. He kept putting it off. Now we're a month out and still no vests.

ShesSoCold · August 2015

Hugs @Lyndausvi. I had a meltdown on Friday after someone was an ass to me in traffic. It was just everything weighing down on me. Good for DH to do something about it - I hope he realizes how hard this is on himself and you and adjusts his schedule.

NowIamMrsKlein · August 2015

julieanne912 said:

Today I'm PO'd at how hard it is to find dark brown non-tuxedo-looking vests for the guys to wear for the wedding. I just need 2, a size medium and a size XL for the best man, who is in Germany and won't be here til 2 days before the wedding. I find the ones I like and they aren't available in the right sizes.

A side note too, I started bugging FI 2 months ago about figuring out his outfit. He kept putting it off. Now we're a month out and still no vests.

We had a hard time with that too! We ended up going with an ivory vest with our brown suits because dark brown vests pretty much dont exist and I have no idea why!

lyndausvi · August 2015

ShesSoCold said:

Hugs @Lyndausvi. I had a meltdown on Friday after someone was an ass to me in traffic. It was just everything weighing down on me. Good for DH to do something about it - I hope he realizes how hard this is on himself and you and adjusts his schedule.

Thanks for the hugs. It was really great he left work. It just shows he does care.

You know when a toddler needs a nap, but refused to take one. Yeah, that was DH. He needed a break, everyone could see it but him. He looked so much more relaxed this morning.

jenna8984 · August 2015

@lyndausvi That really sucks about his schedule. I don't know how anyone can work that much without going insane. Glad you had a nice day yesterday, hopefully you get more soon!! And not just on your NY vacation.

julieanne912 · August 2015

SoontobeMrsKlein said:

julieanne912 said:

Today I'm PO'd at how hard it is to find dark brown non-tuxedo-looking vests for the guys to wear for the wedding. I just need 2, a size medium and a size XL for the best man, who is in Germany and won't be here til 2 days before the wedding. I find the ones I like and they aren't available in the right sizes.

A side note too, I started bugging FI 2 months ago about figuring out his outfit. He kept putting it off. Now we're a month out and still no vests.

We had a hard time with that too! We ended up going with an ivory vest with our brown suits because dark brown vests pretty much dont exist and I have no idea why!

Yeah we aren't doing suits at all so that's why the vest was so important. Even a lighter brown/tan tweed vest would be fine but not having much luck there either. I thought it would be easy with fall coming up. This is the look we're going for

NowIamMrsKlein · August 2015

julieanne912 said:

SoontobeMrsKlein said:

julieanne912 said:

Today I'm PO'd at how hard it is to find dark brown non-tuxedo-looking vests for the guys to wear for the wedding. I just need 2, a size medium and a size XL for the best man, who is in Germany and won't be here til 2 days before the wedding. I find the ones I like and they aren't available in the right sizes.

A side note too, I started bugging FI 2 months ago about figuring out his outfit. He kept putting it off. Now we're a month out and still no vests.

We had a hard time with that too! We ended up going with an ivory vest with our brown suits because dark brown vests pretty much dont exist and I have no idea why!

Yeah we aren't doing suits at all so that's why the vest was so important. Even a lighter brown/tan tweed vest would be fine but not having much luck there either. I thought it would be easy with fall coming up. This is the look we're going for

Are you in canada or the US? Canada has Moores Men's clothes and I know they had 1 tweedy dark brown vest like those. 1. haha Great selection eh?

julieanne912 · August 2015

SoontobeMrsKlein said:

julieanne912 said:

SoontobeMrsKlein said:

julieanne912 said:

Today I'm PO'd at how hard it is to find dark brown non-tuxedo-looking vests for the guys to wear for the wedding. I just need 2, a size medium and a size XL for the best man, who is in Germany and won't be here til 2 days before the wedding. I find the ones I like and they aren't available in the right sizes.

A side note too, I started bugging FI 2 months ago about figuring out his outfit. He kept putting it off. Now we're a month out and still no vests.

We had a hard time with that too! We ended up going with an ivory vest with our brown suits because dark brown vests pretty much dont exist and I have no idea why!

Yeah we aren't doing suits at all so that's why the vest was so important. Even a lighter brown/tan tweed vest would be fine but not having much luck there either. I thought it would be easy with fall coming up. This is the look we're going for

Are you in canada or the US? Canada has Moores Men's clothes and I know they had 1 tweedy dark brown vest like those. 1. haha Great selection eh?

US. I'm finding a few places with them but they're all sold out of the sizes we need. Guess we aren't the only ones wanting them.

lyndausvi · August 2015

jenna8984 said:

@lyndausvi That really sucks about his schedule. I don't know how anyone can work that much without going insane. Glad you had a nice day yesterday, hopefully you get more soon!! And not just on your NY vacation.

Thank you. Some times you need to have a meltdown.

Another point I made to DH was to remind him some of is end of the year bonus requires him to take time off. His bosses wanted him to take at least one day off a week in the summer (he already has 3 days off a week in the winter) so they put it in his bonus plan. I'm like dude, what is the point of pissing of your wife and putting your health in danger if the end result means you are going to lose out on some of your bonus? It makes no sense.

pinupbride6189 · August 2015

I do completely understand that this prom could be very important to FBIL and ultimately it's his choice as to which event he wants to attend, and FI understands that it's one brother's life event vs. the other's. I think part of what's getting to me is that FMIL hasn't even told FBIL that the dates coincide. She doesn't want to ruin his good mood, is what she said. I think I'm also a little sore about it because I won't get to see my sister get married (she's having a PPD), so from my perspective, it'd be a no-brainer, but that's just my personal feeling. To address some of the points that have been brought up, FBIL did attend prom this past year (not saying that that means he shouldn't want to go this year, just saw that someone brought up that there was usually more than one opportunity to go to prom), and we did consult VIPs, we actuall moved our prospective date from the beginning of April to the end of April because two of FI's grandparents are tax accountants and we were trying to squeeze the wedding in where it was most likely FI's dad would be in between deployments (he's a contractor and in the USAF reserves), and leaving room for FBIL's HS graduation, as well as accomodating for the fact that I'm due to get orders in May. If FI's mom had her way, we'd either be getting married next month (FI's dad would be gone, and it would totally wreck our current work situation, but FBIL wouldn't have hockey, so we're good to go!) or NEXT fall, which was a lot longer than we wanted to wait, for multiple reasons. Like I said, I completely understand the dilemma, but I was venting a little I guess, because it's a bit frustrating.

princessleia22 · August 2015

santiago2615 said:

FI was in Florida for work, so we saved our money and bought me a ticket to see him (he would have been gone a month) and the day I was supposed to fly down, he was sent back home. I guess the suits that run his department decided the class he was in was too small and want him and the rest of the class to go back so the class size can be bigger. Ugh, I needed a tan
I also had my yearly pap and apparently the doctor didn't get enough cells so I have to go back for another one. Great, since I already took off of work, can I please get a Saturday appointment? Hahaha, yea, no, I was shot down by his office for a Saturday appointment AND he's out of town until September 1st.
I picked the wrong month to give up booze....

My doc did that to me the last two years (not getting enough cells and having to repeat pap). It's super frustrating. Having one exam a year is enough, plus it's not fair of them to waste our time like that. This year I found a new OBGYN and no problems.

kimmiinthemitten · August 2015

pinupbride6189 said:

I do completely understand that this prom could be very important to FBIL and ultimately it's his choice as to which event he wants to attend, and FI understands that it's one brother's life event vs. the other's. I think part of what's getting to me is that FMIL hasn't even told FBIL that the dates coincide. She doesn't want to ruin his good mood, is what she said. I think I'm also a little sore about it because I won't get to see my sister get married (she's having a PPD), so from my perspective, it'd be a no-brainer, but that's just my personal feeling. To address some of the points that have been brought up, FBIL did attend prom this past year (not saying that that means he shouldn't want to go this year, just saw that someone brought up that there was usually more than one opportunity to go to prom), and we did consult VIPs, we actuall moved our prospective date from the beginning of April to the end of April because two of FI's grandparents are tax accountants and we were trying to squeeze the wedding in where it was most likely FI's dad would be in between deployments (he's a contractor and in the USAF reserves), and leaving room for FBIL's HS graduation, as well as accomodating for the fact that I'm due to get orders in May. If FI's mom had her way, we'd either be getting married next month (FI's dad would be gone, and it would totally wreck our current work situation, but FBIL wouldn't have hockey, so we're good to go!) or NEXT fall, which was a lot longer than we wanted to wait, for multiple reasons. Like I said, I completely understand the dilemma, but I was venting a little I guess, because it's a bit frustrating.

I'd be frustrated too. I understand FBIL choosing to attend prom instead, but what exactly are they trying to accomplish by not telling him? Isn't a 17 year old old enough to choose which event he'd rather attend? I'd say he's also old enough to be under the supervision of a friends parent, since most kids end up having sleep overs after Prom afterwards.

It sounds to me like you have bent over backwards to accommodate their schedule and no matter what happens, they're going to complain or find a conflict. That sucks.

lyndausvi · August 2015

Poor DH. He just text me to say it's a no go for coming home early. They (not sure who "they" are) setup a couples cooking class for today. 20 couples signed up. THEY DIDN'T TELL DH UNTIL THIS MORNING. I mean, why would you let the chef know he was doing a cooking class? It's not like he doesn't need to make a meal plan, order food or anything like that. Nope, not at all. ::rolls eyes::

Then yesterday a 100 person pop-up cocktail reception for tonight was booked. Who books a 100 reception last minute? And the restaurant is almost booked.

That boy is just too damn popular

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