The urge to out this person would be strong, but blocking is the best option.
Dear Prudence,
I was raised by liberal parents in a small conservative city. One of my good friends from high school, “Wendy,” is a deeply religious evangelical Christian who spent several years after high school without much direction. During that time, she got pregnant and terminated the pregnancy. I was the only person she told because she knew I wouldn’t judge her. Wendy has subsequently figured out her life and become a mother and works in a respected career. We are in touch only on social media. She is rabidly pro-life, and with the recent news involving Planned Parenthood, she is posting a lot of vile pro-life literature: Women who have abortions are murderers, they are going to hell, Planned Parenthood is run by the devil, etc. I am bothered not only because I disagree with the content of the posts, but also because I know that this friend had an abortion. My husband thinks I should call Wendy out for her hypocrisy. He thinks I should privately message her and politely remind her that she herself was once in a desperate spot. I think that such a message would be seen as a threat. She may fear that I will tell other people about her abortion, and as much as I would love to air a conservative’s dirty laundry, I made a promise not to blab. But there is a part of me that really wants to call her out. What do you think?
—Liberal in Middle America
Re: The urge to out this person would be strong, but blocking is the best option.
I might be in the minority, but I don't take what people post on FB seriously. I just don't get my blood pressure up about it. With that said, what is calling her out going to do? Maybe she thinks she has to be militant about it because it's a choice that she regrets. Who knows?
Plus, that was info that should be kept in the friend vault, even if you don't agree with her current views.