My mother's family lives in CA and we live in OH. She has a sister who is is currently upset because my mother has possession of my grandparents wedding picture (not even the original). In fact, she is so upset she showed up at my mother's house unannounced to feud about it. In response my mother made her a copy. However, the story is never ending. Now she wants more copies and the frame. In my opinion my aunt is not just upset about the picture, but unhappy with life in general. My aunt does not have a close relationship with any of her siblings. She swears like a sailor, is a bully and constantly belittling.
Yesterday I received a phone call from my mother. My Aunt is telling my family in CA she is not coming to my wedding because someone on her husband's side is getting married the week prior in CLE. You would think this would be a no brainer. I should be thinking--without her, there won't be any drama. I have a deep suspicion she won't become because "of the picture," although it goes deeper than that. I think she is trying to hurt my mom through me.
Initially, I wanted to call my aunt and ask why she's re-acting this way. If you can't come to my wedding, why not reach out to me? I already know the answer: she wants a reaction. Does anyone have a similar story? Advice to handle this situation, if say/do anything at all?
Being the bigger person means only responding from a place of love in kindness. But honestly, I'm tired of being the bigger person.