What's an appropriate cash wedding gift

Re: What's an appropriate cash wedding gift

• Maggie0829 Ravens & Bohs & Crabs & O's member

  

  August 2015

  The appropriate amount is whatever you can afford and want to give.  There is no specific amount that is deemed more appropriate then another.  So give what you would like but that doesn't break the bank.

  
  

  

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• Knottie80779227 member

  

  August 2015

  Maggie0829 said:

  The appropriate amount is whatever you can afford and want to give.  There is no specific amount that is deemed more appropriate then another.  So give what you would like but that doesn't break the bank.

  Truly what I can afford right now is $50, but it's tough knowing that probably doesn't cover much for the couple. Better than nothing at least, my heart is in the right place.
  

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• Maggie0829 Ravens & Bohs & Crabs & O's member

  

  August 2015

  Knottie80779227 said:

  Maggie0829 said:

  The appropriate amount is whatever you can afford and want to give.  There is no specific amount that is deemed more appropriate then another.  So give what you would like but that doesn't break the bank.

  Truly what I can afford right now is $50, but it's tough knowing that probably doesn't cover much for the couple. Better than nothing at least, my heart is in the right place.
  

  But your gift doesn't have to cover anything for the couple.  So please stop thinking that way. It is a gift not a reimbursement check.  And if the couple is expecting to get a large return to cover the money they spent on a wedding, well then they had the wedding for all the wrong reasons and are crappy planners.

  
  

  

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• Knottie80779227 member

  

  August 2015

  <--- Exhibits classic Type A and overthinking details. It's not as easy to wake up and change that as one would like it to be.
  

  

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• ShesSoCold bend over and I'll show ya mod

  

  August 2015

  Knottie80779227 said:

  <--- Exhibits classic Type A and overthinking details. It's not as easy to wake up and change that as one would like it to be.
  

  I get it. Just keep reminding yourself that it is a GIFT.  Not an admission payment. 

  
  

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  August 2015

  Knottie80779227 said:

  I am attending a wedding this weekend and usually I give the gift of cash at a wedding. The last wedding I gave a cash gift at though was my cousins in 2012 (and I gave her $50). The groom is a childhood friend of my FH and I have met them once in the four years we've been together, so choosing out a specific gift to fit their taste seems out of the question. I found their registries on-line by using Google, and they've pretty much been picked over by now too. We are also planning our own wedding which is in 2 months, so we are definitely on a budget. I had a friend recently give someone a $75 check because he went with the "pay for the plate" plus a little extra, but that sounds like such a random amount to me. I know from my own experience that when you invite a guest, it's so much more than just the cost of a plate to have them there, but I'm also not made of money right now (or ever). It's 2015, what really is the appropriate cash gift for a couple? $50, $100, $200?

  Give what you can afford.  This year it's $50, next year you might attend attend a wedding and be able to give $100, the year after that you find yourself in a great place financially and can give more.  Just give what you can with a lovely note of congratulations.

  

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• chloe97 member

  

  August 2015

  Before I got married, I worried if I was giving enough or if the gift recipient thought that I was being cheap. After getting married, I realized any gift is appreciated and the size is not as important to the couple as you would think.  If it makes you feel better, we had quite a few couples who gave us $50 and the cost per plate was twice that per person at our venue. I was just happy that they made it! 

  
  

  Give what you can afford. Unless they are complete jerks, your gift will be appreciated!

  

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• banana468 member

  

  September 2015

  Give what you can afford.

  
  

  FWIW, if you feel like the amount you can spend seems less, then get creative.   Do something fun with wine or food for the couple.   

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  September 2015

  banana468 said:

  Give what you can afford.

  
  

  FWIW, if you feel like the amount you can spend seems less, then get creative.   Do something fun with wine or food for the couple.   

  Exactly this.  Sometimes $50 can seem a lot bigger if you've made a foodie basket with coupons and discounts and maybe groupons or other online deals.  I'd like a basket of cheese and summer sausage and wine and chocolate.  If they're gourmet-type home cooks, maybe something homemade-ish like glass jars of various infused olive oils; garlic, rosemary, etc.

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• csuave member

  

  September 2015

  Cash is a great gift and probably what most people find to be most useful starting their new life together.

  Any amount you want to give is fine and will be appreciated I'm sure. 

  We had almost all cash gifts at our wedding and they were for a range of amounts including several gifts of $50.

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• Jen4948 Houston member

  

  September 2015 edited September 2015

  Wedding invitations are not invoices.  You do not owe your hosts "cover" or reimbursement for whatever expenses they incur to feed and entertain you at the wedding. As PPs state, give what you can afford.
  

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• Knottie2006454 member

  

  December 2015

  Give what you can. I've been able to give as much as $150, and the least $60. The couple shouldn't be trying to make a profit or return on cost. I would hate to think a couple is at home snickering at the amount people didn't spend on them 

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• GlamQueenBride member

  

  December 2015

  Honestly, I'd be incredibly touched if someone gave me a gift of $10 because I'd know that $10 could have been used toward something for them or their family. It's not the amount you give. It's that you gave anything at all that would be touching to me. Gifts aren't required and certainly, $50 isn't required. It's a generous gift.
  

  

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• charlotte989875 member

  

  December 2015

  I had a couple, old friends I grew up with but hadn't seen in years come to the wedding. They gave us a lovely card and $25. Neither make much money, and they had a baby on the way at that point. It just meant so much to me there were able to come all the way to the wedding and celebrate and I was touched they did. The gift they gave meant a lot more than friends that have many more times that. Give what you can (if you can) and have a great time.

  

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• labro Hotlanta member

  

  December 2015

  
  
  No, for real, just give what you can afford....even if that's just a card.

  
  

  
  

  

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• BB8 member

  

  December 2015

  anything is nice 

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