Got an invite to a friend's (?) GNO Bachelorette party.
I say friend "question mark" because when we each started dating our now fiancés we didn't have much contact thereafter- weren't super close to begin with. I've invited them out with us and they always decline so I just stopped making the effort. It's fine, I'm not really upset- people drift apart.
I was surprised to receive an STD to her wedding. Even more surprised to get the GNO invite from her sister (who I'm guessing is MOH because they're pretty close).
I guess I shouldn't be surprised after all the stuff I've read on TK, but this is a pretty bad invite.
Dinner and Lou Malnati's in the City- it's a pizza place. One I like, but not fancy (this matters later). Two stops for drinks, one is a club; transportation is provided so that's good.
Pot luck booze request for the party bus.
We've been told to "dress to impress." (So I'm going to a pizza place in a cocktail dress? Not my style I guess. Hell, I don't own a cocktail dress. I KNOW I would be the MOST under-dressed person there...)
Gifts are not required but appreciated. Her lingerie sizes were provided.
I think this is a no. Even if I had something to wear, still kind of a no.
Considering we've spoken about 3 times in the last year and I haven't laid eyes on her in almost two, this whole thing feels gift Granby to me.
*end minor rant*
Re: GNO Invite
Even if it was as you described; I don't own that shit either. I'm a basic bitch.
99% of my clothing comes from Target; think plain t-shirts and/or shirts with my sports teams on them. Work wear? A pair of dress pants, a plain t-shirt and a cardigan. I have a few dresses I wear but they are not "dress to impress" dresses, they are work dresses.
Also, you can buy online. I do most of my clothes shopping online these days because with promo codes, it's so much easier and sometimes cheaper.
I'm talking about tops like these:
http://www.nyandcompany.com/nyco/prod/apparel/tops/shirts-blouses/soho-soft-tunic-lace-gingham-/A-prod4570001/#N-102782
http://www.nyandcompany.com/nyco/prod/apparel/tops/knits-tees/lace-inset-shell-/A-prod4820007/#N-102590
http://www.nyandcompany.com/nyco/prod/apparel/tops/knits-tees/triple-keyhole-knit-tee/A-prod4540011/#N-102590
http://www.nyandcompany.com/nyco/prod/apparel/tops/knits-tees/pleated-v-neck-top-paisley-print-/A-prod4920012/#N-102590
http://www.nyandcompany.com/nyco/prod/apparel/tops/shirts-blouses/soho-soft-shirt-floral/A-prod4880006/#N-102782
http://www.nyandcompany.com/nyco/prod/apparel/tops/shirts-blouses/v-neck-shell-dot-print-/A-prod4590005/#N-102782
I don't go to church. We don't have date nights- when we go out we usually go to the public house across the street- jeans and a tee are totally acceptable. I don't have GNOs because I don't have many friends and the few I do are far away or we just see each other for lunch once every 6 months. I could wear one of those tops to any of those places, or I can save the $20 and wear one of my plain colored t-shirts since they are also acceptable attire for those situations.
I guess living in a studio apartment with a tiny closet that I have to share with my SO has also made me maximize on space. I'm not using that hanger or drawer space for a top I'll wear once.
StarMoon44, my lifestyle doesn't support the need for going out tops and nice jeans. And I prefer to spend my money on other things, not clothing. I'd rather be able to afford my organic food from local vendors (which can cost more than going to the chain stores), or donate to causes I care about with my extra money; because a fancy top would come out of my surplus- not my normal wardrobe budget.
My fiance and I "go out" but it's a meal usually. I am gone from 6:30am - 6:30pm every weekday for work. His schedule varies and the earliest he is home on a weeknight is 8pm; usually it's 9pm and at least once a week; it's 10pm. He also works at least 1 day every weekend and sometimes two. Not to mention that he only gets a schedule on Friday for the upcoming week. So we don't plan excursions and events- we have very little time together and we usually only know a week in advance what his schedule is; it makes it a bit more difficult to plan things given these factors. We walk across the street and have a meal or watch a movie in the winter if it's cold and we don't want to go out.
Fiance's best friends live in IA; about a 6 hour drive away from where we are in northern IL. My friends all live at minimum 40 minutes south; several have are newer parent and want to spend their time with their kids. Those who don't have kids aren't usually willing to drive up to see me and I'm tired of being the one to always drive down to see them- that doesn't seem "fair" to me. So no, I don't have a lot of close friends- and that's okay.
Just because we're not doing what you and your SO do or what a lot of couples do, doesn't mean that we can't be or aren't happy, and it isn't "sad" unless you think having a plethora of friends, fancy tops, and date nights are needed to be happy. This works for us.
Honestly since I do have to dress up for so many work events, I spend most of "our time" in jeans and a (usually one of his) t-shirt. It's just comfy and happy for us. Our big Tuesday night "date night" (MW is off on Tuesdays) last night was grilling on the back porch followed by some beer & cigars by the chiminea. You don't have to tear up the town together to have a great time. You don't even have to be particularly sociable. Some people just like to live in their comfy zone during their personal time.
Edited because I have fat fingers.