Soo, I had a friend that I have known since 6th grade, she is a close friend, and although I knew she would be busy, and not have time to help, I never expected her to help.. all I ever expected was her to buy a dress (not a picked dress had 4 requirements, Davids bridal, long, Color, and since the others all picked satin, satin.. actually I even told her that if she liked another fabric let me know we can figure it out..), and show up as my longest closest friend. I sent her over the last 6 months dresses that were on sale for 39.99 -99.99. I even offered to buy her dress, but have her pay me back out of $ that I am helping her get (selling horse stuff, she is not longer needing) she actually told me "I was planning on using that to build up my savings".
I never put ANY pressure on her to even attend the extra events, she does her own hair I was OK with that, I am paying for their makeup, all she had to do was buy a dress. my other bridesmaid (who has overly happily stepped up to be my MOH now) has been helping with out me asking, she has stepped up and is super excited about it..
Now I am left with 3 bridesmaids, and he has 4 Groomsman,I am not too stressed about the numbers, but I am OCD, and the uneven numbers are annoying.. I have a friend that I met after I had asked the bridesmaids, and feel like I could ask her if she would want to be a bridesmaid. is it too short of notice? I don't want to make her feel like "well she bailed so would you?". I plan on saying something like, we became such good friends so quickly, and I had thought at one point I wish she was around before I had picked my bridesmaids, because the girl that bailed was for sure a bad choice from the beginning, I see that now, hindsight 20/20 right..
I am feeling like this is a chance to have a less stressful "lineup" the only real stress I have had so far is the girl that removed her self, she wasn't married, no kids, living with her parents. she for sure made all of it all about her, and she made me see why people pick a dress, and become this demanding bridezilla.. which so far I am being told (hope its true) that I am "the most relaxed bride anyone has dealt with" some have even admitted they wouldn't have handled this as I have.. She is who she is, I never expected her to change just for me and my wedding, that's why I never put the pressure on or asked for more than her to stand there that day as my MOH..
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