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Since when did weddings need themes? I literally just sat and had someone explain their football themed wedding. It took everything I had to not have my mouth drop open.
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  • futurecptkirkfuturecptkirk member
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    What is a football themed wedding? Vows like "I promise to not let you get sacked"? Do you have to wear your team's jersey to the wedding? Are all tables named after teams/players? 
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  • lerowebleroweb member
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    Like green tables with white to look like the field. A jersey to go over Her dress.
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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    leroweb said:
    Like green tables with white to look like the field. A jersey to go over Her dress.
    First of all.......ew, no.  Secondly, and sadly, this is not even an original thought.  Why would you want your wedding day to mimic a super bowl party? 
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  • hellohkbhellohkb mod
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    Personally I don't give a fuck if weddings have a theme like a kids birthday party, but I hate when vendors automatically start grilling me about my "theme". Ugh. I'm getting married, not having a themed house party


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  • redwoodoriginalredwoodoriginal member
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    My theme was... Getting married. I had no colors.

    My invitations had mostly purple and one of my bffs freaked out and asked if she could wear a purple dress bc she didn't want to steal my colors. I looked at her and said "what colors?"
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  • michellew54michellew54 member
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    Love your answers to the "what is your vision?" question! I have responded with, "um, have you been to a wedding? That's what we're going for." We want to incorporate the season (winter) in a non-cheesy way, but that's about as far as we are getting on a theme.
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  • julieanne912julieanne912 member
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    My entire wedding color scheme came from the color of the chairs at the venue.  When people asked me what my theme was, I was like well, um, it's in a barn?  So I guess that?  I drove my florist aunt nuts because I really had no specific theme... I just showed her the color palette I liked and said she could do whatever she wanted as I trusted her to do something beautiful.  I think that weirded her out haha!
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    I have to say, I cannot stand brides putting a jersey over their dress.

    You spent a shit-ton of money on a beautiful gown you will wear once and you cover it!?!?!?

    Clutching my pearls hard-core over here. 

    But I don't mind a theme; luckily no one asked me for one. If you want to decorate in the colors of your favorite team and have your place cards be little pictures of jerseys with your favorite players, hey, you do you. 
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  • MegEn1MegEn1 member
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    We have a lot of themes.

    Art deco -- centerpeices have pearls and crystals and we'll be playing big band during the cocktail hour (I'M SO ORIGINAL RITE).

    Historical -- Taking place at the home of a founding father, all table names are after little-known signers of the Declaration of Independence with little blurbs on the back about the people. Here be nerds.

    Fall -- All the food is fall-inspired, like pumpkin soup, caramel apple spice cake and a coffee/cider bar at the end. 

    If we're going by pinterest standards my wedding will be a hot mess. 

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    MegEn1 said:
    We have a lot of themes.

    Art deco -- centerpeices have pearls and crystals and we'll be playing big band during the cocktail hour (I'M SO ORIGINAL RITE).

    Historical -- Taking place at the home of a founding father, all table names are after little-known signers of the Declaration of Independence with little blurbs on the back about the people. Here be nerds.

    Fall -- All the food is fall-inspired, like pumpkin soup, caramel apple spice cake and a coffee/cider bar at the end. 

    If we're going by pinterest standards my wedding will be a hot mess. 
    ROFL to the bolded. I kind of had the same thing-- our venue was art deco; so was my dress. I made my programs and menus in art deco fonts. But, we love to travel. So instead of table numbers we did "gate" numbers, and the card box was a vintage suitcase. Our invites were modern boarding passes. Did anyone care? Nope! We actually got a lot of compliments on the invites and who really cares about the card box?
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    thisismynickname said:
    I have to say, I cannot stand brides putting a jersey over their dress.

    You spent a shit-ton of money on a beautiful gown you will wear once and you cover it!?!?!?

    Clutching my pearls hard-core over here. 

    But I don't mind a theme; luckily no one asked me for one. If you want to decorate in the colors of your favorite team and have your place cards be little pictures of jerseys with your favorite players, hey, you do you. 
    I 100% agree, my FI LOVES sports, but our "theme" isn't sports.. and we used gray and blue's not specific colors..

    but I did let him incorporate sports in to the wedding with 4 things..

    1. our songs we are being announce with are our colleges fight song, and the bridal party with the song the football team enters to (he gets season tickets to their football games every year)

    2. football garter toss it was his why not..

    3. when we enter he wants to carry me in on piggy back while wearing a football helmet, it looks fun and like something we would to.. example below:
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    4. his groomsman are getting their favorite sports cuff-links

    but this is a day that represents us, these were all fun ways to incorporate what he loves.. but we also have things that represent me like the glasses for our centerpieces are chemical glasses. ect ect..
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    Pulling a jersey over a wedding dress is a thing?   Like, this is a repeat thing?

    Our wedding was loosly 'beach' themed.   We used white, blue and green hydrangeas, our favors were white glass sailboat tealight holders and.....I think that's it.   The reception was on an inland golf course and just basic w/ white linens.

    I feel like the theme is ridiculous when you forget that you're at a wedding.   But seeing some personal touches is not a big deal IMO.   
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  • fyrchkfyrchk member
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    We are doing a 1950's rock and roll theme. Using records in place of chargers. Our tables will be named after bands and our reception cards will look like concert tickets. Stuff like that...
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  • WriterBrideUKWriterBrideUK member
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    I think a theme is fine if that's what the couple wants. I'm not sure it's my bag though. Possibly, a lot of weddings end up having a theme by accident, just because what the couple likes is incorporated into it! I'd like my colour scheme to be green and fuschia. And the reception will be in a barn with beams, and I imagine that all of the little touches that I have in mind at the moment would be classed as 'rustic' or 'country'. I'm not sure I'd call that a theme though because I'm not deliberately aiming for rustic - that's just the kind of stuff I happen to like! Throw it altogether, and yes, it looks like a rustic themed wedding, but it's not deliberate.

    Oh crap, I have a theme, don't I?! :/ Don't care - it only counts if you refer to it as a theme!!! LOL!

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  • futurecptkirkfuturecptkirk member
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    It literally just hit me that my wedding has a theme... whoops. Our food, table "numbers," and guest book are all travel themed. Our food is Texas, French, and Asian, table numbers are places we've been/lived/planning to go in the next year, and guest book is a map of the world. 
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    thisismynickname said:


    MegEn1 said:

    We have a lot of themes.

    Art deco -- centerpeices have pearls and crystals and we'll be playing big band during the cocktail hour (I'M SO ORIGINAL RITE).

    Historical -- Taking place at the home of a founding father, all table names are after little-known signers of the Declaration of Independence with little blurbs on the back about the people. Here be nerds.

    Fall -- All the food is fall-inspired, like pumpkin soup, caramel apple spice cake and a coffee/cider bar at the end. 

    If we're going by pinterest standards my wedding will be a hot mess. 

    ROFL to the bolded. I kind of had the same thing-- our venue was art deco; so was my dress. I made my programs and menus in art deco fonts. But, we love to travel. So instead of table numbers we did "gate" numbers, and the card box was a vintage suitcase. Our invites were modern boarding passes. Did anyone care? Nope! We actually got a lot of compliments on the invites and who really cares about the card box?

    ***bring back the boxes TK***

    Throw mine in here too. Beer bottle centerpices, an autumn color pallet and autumn inspired invites, birds for cake topper...

    Who gives a fuck?
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  • snowywintersnowywinter member
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    I don't think there's anything wrong with themed weddings. If you don't want one, don't have one. But who cares what others do if it doesn't affect their guests?

    Personally, I'm getting married in December and having a Christmas theme. Yes, there will be Christmas trees, the wedding colors will be gold, silver, and red. I'll have a bouquet of white and red poinsettias, the cake will be tiered silver and gold gift boxes, and centerpieces will likely be ornaments.

    Oh, and I'll also have no gap, a full open bar, and I'll be following all the rules of etiquette. Can't see the problem.
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  • spockforprezspockforprez member
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    I feel like decor is the least important part of the wedding and has almost nothing to do with guest comfort unless your wedding is a big inside joke that makes people feel excluded. 

    My wedding is going to be generic rustic pinterest shit like burlap and lace table runners (free from MOH), mason jars (free from our own houses), mason jars WITH burlap and lace and twine (free from MOH), beer/cider bottle centerpieces ("free" as in we bought them to drink then kept the bottles), twinkle and bistro lights, lanterns or bunting to try and make the hideous tent less hideous, typewriter guestbook (my never-been-on-pinterest-in-his-life FH's idea), flower crown (an Oktoberfest tradition I wanted from a child), outdoor BBQ, and it goes on. Other than cutesy signs and a photobooth with fake mustaches I'm pretty sure it's a classic hipster rustic farm wedding. It wasn't intentional; that's just the way it's been shaking out. But even if it was intentional, it doesn't affect my guests in the slightest. 

    I really couldn't give a crap if people (let's be honest, mostly women in their 20's and 30's) get to my wedding venue and think, "Christ, pinterest barfed all over this place." Just like I couldn't give a crap if I get to a wedding and it's Doctor Who-ified or Games of Thrones-ified. 

    Let your guests sit down and enjoy a meal and beverages. There you go, you had an excellent wedding reception.
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    Personally, I think themes have become so common because weddings have gotten so big and extravagant and "planned" and a them is essentially a cheat sheet for people who don't understand the basics of design or party planning. They can't wrap their head around picking a bunch of stuff to go together without forcing a theme on it. The strict two colors for a wedding I think was just an early prelude to this...If you have strict wedding colors of "cinnamon and champagne" for example, it's easy to just go pick everything in those two colors and not have to worry about an eye for design. 

    Then there's the peer pressure aspect--people think they have to do it because "everyone else does". I don't understand the need to use your wedding to represent "stuff you like". Just because you like football, what does that have to do with your wedding? I just don't get it. Did you also put bleachers in your house instead of a couch? Probably not. 

    Any good designer knows that something needs some kind of theme or motif, like rustic or industrial, or modern, etc., or a combination of things. This doesn't mean there's a theme. I also don't think doing something seasonally appropriate is a theme. Having a Christmas wedding during the Christmas season isn't a theme to me, it's just a seasonal wedding. The same as someone using earth tones and pumpkins at a fall wedding. However, a Christmas wedding any month other than December? That's a theme. 
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    MandyMost said:
    Personally, I think themes have become so common because weddings have gotten so big and extravagant and "planned" and a them is essentially a cheat sheet for people who don't understand the basics of design or party planning. They can't wrap their head around picking a bunch of stuff to go together without forcing a theme on it. The strict two colors for a wedding I think was just an early prelude to this...If you have strict wedding colors of "cinnamon and champagne" for example, it's easy to just go pick everything in those two colors and not have to worry about an eye for design. 

    Then there's the peer pressure aspect--people think they have to do it because "everyone else does". I don't understand the need to use your wedding to represent "stuff you like". Just because you like football, what does that have to do with your wedding? I just don't get it. Did you also put bleachers in your house instead of a couch? Probably not. 

    Any good designer knows that something needs some kind of theme or motif, like rustic or industrial, or modern, etc., or a combination of things. This doesn't mean there's a theme. I also don't think doing something seasonally appropriate is a theme. Having a Christmas wedding during the Christmas season isn't a theme to me, it's just a seasonal wedding. The same as someone using earth tones and pumpkins at a fall wedding. However, a Christmas wedding any month other than December? That's a theme. 
    Exactly.  H and I are HUUUUUGE hockey fans... NHL season ticket holders, we travel to watch our team, etc etc.  There was no mention or anything hockey related at our wedding because it just made no sense to do that.  Everyone knows we're hockey fans, we didn't need a themed wedding to tell them that.  Instead I focused on making sure the whole thing looked nice (my education is in interior design), and that our guests were well-hosted.  
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    MandyMost said:
    Personally, I think themes have become so common because weddings have gotten so big and extravagant and "planned" and a them is essentially a cheat sheet for people who don't understand the basics of design or party planning. They can't wrap their head around picking a bunch of stuff to go together without forcing a theme on it. The strict two colors for a wedding I think was just an early prelude to this...If you have strict wedding colors of "cinnamon and champagne" for example, it's easy to just go pick everything in those two colors and not have to worry about an eye for design. 

    Then there's the peer pressure aspect--people think they have to do it because "everyone else does". I don't understand the need to use your wedding to represent "stuff you like". Just because you like football, what does that have to do with your wedding? I just don't get it. Did you also put bleachers in your house instead of a couch? Probably not. 

    Any good designer knows that something needs some kind of theme or motif, like rustic or industrial, or modern, etc., or a combination of things. This doesn't mean there's a theme. I also don't think doing something seasonally appropriate is a theme. Having a Christmas wedding during the Christmas season isn't a theme to me, it's just a seasonal wedding. The same as someone using earth tones and pumpkins at a fall wedding. However, a Christmas wedding any month other than December? That's a theme. 

    I think a lot of people conflate "stuff I like" with "who I am" - and not without reason. For a lot of people with thematic weddings, they're showing what they consider to be their subculture - such as "geek culture" or certain musical genre/subcultures - or cornerstones of their relationship. I was at a lovely ceremony a few years ago, where the bride and groom had a lot of Battlestar Gallactica stuff because they started their relationship by watching the reboot of it together. The BM mentioned it in his speech, which contextualized it for me (I was a guest who didn't know them well), and I found it very sweet.

    We're having a geeky theme in our wedding, and I'm actually finding it harder to design. I don't want it to look like a sci-fi/fantasy convention, so we're keeping things subtle, but still thematic. For example: Han & Leia cake toppers, but with just black silhouettes instead of, say, action figures or something. But, as I said before, I would be bored to death looking for cake toppers that were just "wedding-y" because classic wedding stuff bores me, and says nothing about me, my FI, or our lives. I'd probably never settle on something because I wouldn't see the point in spending the money on something I didn't love.

    That said, I think when things DO start to look like a convention (or a football field, or a renaissance festival) it takes a turn for pageantry, which I would feel undermines the solemness and realness of the vows we're taking. But that's me - I certainly wouldn't judge if someone else felt different about their theme, as long as they take their actual vows as seriously as they should be. 
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    julieanne912 said:
    MandyMost said:
    Personally, I think themes have become so common because weddings have gotten so big and extravagant and "planned" and a them is essentially a cheat sheet for people who don't understand the basics of design or party planning. They can't wrap their head around picking a bunch of stuff to go together without forcing a theme on it. The strict two colors for a wedding I think was just an early prelude to this...If you have strict wedding colors of "cinnamon and champagne" for example, it's easy to just go pick everything in those two colors and not have to worry about an eye for design. 

    Then there's the peer pressure aspect--people think they have to do it because "everyone else does". I don't understand the need to use your wedding to represent "stuff you like". Just because you like football, what does that have to do with your wedding? I just don't get it. Did you also put bleachers in your house instead of a couch? Probably not. 

    Any good designer knows that something needs some kind of theme or motif, like rustic or industrial, or modern, etc., or a combination of things. This doesn't mean there's a theme. I also don't think doing something seasonally appropriate is a theme. Having a Christmas wedding during the Christmas season isn't a theme to me, it's just a seasonal wedding. The same as someone using earth tones and pumpkins at a fall wedding. However, a Christmas wedding any month other than December? That's a theme. 
    Exactly.  H and I are HUUUUUGE hockey fans... NHL season ticket holders, we travel to watch our team, etc etc.  There was no mention or anything hockey related at our wedding because it just made no sense to do that.  Everyone knows we're hockey fans, we didn't need a themed wedding to tell them that.  Instead I focused on making sure the whole thing looked nice (my education is in interior design), and that our guests were well-hosted.  
    Totally agree, the sport things we are doing in our wedding, is because those are the only things that my FI really wanted, I had to rein him in a lot with only doing a few things, and not EVERYTHING sports related.. Actually with the DJ last night he made a last minute change to our entrance song, no more fight song!

    The few chemistry things are because the jars were free from work, and worked into what I originally wanted to do anyways, and I had the larger beakers and they go with the jars in the centerpieces. I don't have anything that is horse related because exactly what you said everyone knows I love horses, but I only want it to look nice and that everyone is comfortable.
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    @MegEn1 Your wedding sounds like it will be lovely. I do enjoy art deco and anything historical. 

    @fyrchk I love your theme. FH is in a band and we wanted to add some records to the decor somehow. I love anything historical and would love it to have a 50s theme. We're trying to go for a 1960s mid century modern feel in the decor.


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    I enjoyed @MandyMost's comment. Especially with the current trend of DIY venues rather than all-inclusives that have your generic linens, centerpieces, etc. available, the B&G having to design and plan the event can be intimidating.

    I remember the decor from the wedding I was in this past January, and one that I attended where the centerpieces were old books (cause I loved that), but other than that, it's not memorable for me as a guest or even as a bridesmaid. 

    I think I've mentioned this before, but the rustic trend is also great for lazy and budget brides. Even if you don't have mason jars laying around your house like we do, they're like $10 for 12 at Walmart. Throw some grocery store flowers or baby's breath in there and there's all your centerpieces/aisle decor/whatever you're using it for done, for $50, and "on trend." Not deserving of any design awards, but definitely not deserving of hate or snark IMO.
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    hellohkb said:
     

    @fyrchk I love your theme. FH is in a band and we wanted to add some records to the decor somehow. I love anything historical and would love it to have a 50s theme. We're trying to go for a 1960s mid century modern feel in the decor.


    We've been able to get a ton of records from the local Goodwill. Usually they are 99cents but if you go by the color-coded dots, you can get them for 50cents. I am also going to use one as a cake plate and make some cupcake stands out of them. (Cake plate record will be attached to a black metal candle holder. Cupcake stands, I was able to get the hardware and different sized records.)

    I know people hate on theme weddings and I can understand that. I've also been to weddings where the bride and groom just got anything "wedding related" and used it. It was a hodge-podge of random stuff that made no sense. (Think daisies on her apron, rabbit bride and groom on the cake, celtic knots in random places, centerpieces with miniature roses glued to them and colored rocks inside, and sunflowers and roses for bouquets.) I think there are benefits to both. Just the preference of the B&G.

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