I recently found out a distant cousin is planning her wedding for the same timeframe as I am, October 2016. Although we aren't close, we share quite a few family members (including grandparents) who would need and want to attend both events. The current problem is that I don't know what date she has picked, if any. FI and I have booked our venue and have a solid date of October 15th, 2016. I want to prevent making family members choose between weddings, but I'm not sure how/if I should bring it up to her, especially considering she isn't on my guest list. Like I'll be telling her about my wedding even though she isn't invited...
Should I bring up the fact that we've chosen our date and booked our venue? If so, how do I approach her without sounding like a jerk. I probably already do.