I know bridal showers after wedding are tacky because you're not a bride anymore.
What about baby shower after baby is born?
The sitch:
I'm due beginning of January.
My dad's family all lives about three hours away from me, in the country.
A shower with that side of the family would need to be where they are (grandmother is in poor health, cousins have small children, etc).
My step-mother (who has no children) wants to throw a shower.
I've pretty much decided I won't be traveling more than an hour from my house come November.
I have told my step-mother that timing/travel just might not work out for a shower.
Just heard from my cousin that step-mother was talking to her about throwing a shower for me after baby is born (I guess this would need to be in the early spring?). It would probably also serve as "meet the new baby!"
What are people's opinions on this?
I don't have a strong need for a shower at this point (by spring we'll have already had to buy the big stuff she needs ourselves).
But apparently it's something she wants to do, so I'm ok with it assuming it's not some huge etiquette nightmare.
If she brings it up to me, do I graciously accept or decline?