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RSVP Cards

alhaley88alhaley88 member
100 Comments Second Anniversary 5 Love Its Name Dropper
edited October 2015 in Invites and Paper
Question about the RSVP cards.Is it rude to put on the RSVP cards "We have reserved ___ seats for you"? Or is there a better way to phrase it? We are on a budget and don't want a free for all for the number of people someone brings. I'm not sure if this actually happens, but I don't want people to think they can bring just anyone. If this is not acceptable ettiquette, what can I do to ensure we stay within our budget and guest count? (as this affects the #of tables, seating arrangements, etc.)

Edit: Can't type or spell today...TGIF


Re: RSVP Cards

  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston member
    10000 Comments Sixth Anniversary 500 Love Its 25 Answers
    Fill in the number of reserved seats on the card for each guest.  If someone adds guests to that number, you need to contact them and let them know that you can't accommodate their additional guests.
  • well that's what I meant. haha sorry. the blank seemed to make more sense in my head....i meant putting the actual number where the blank is. So we can limit the number of guests on the RSVP card? Perfect.
  • labrolabro Hotlanta member
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    Also make sure to address your invitations to each specific person invited like - Bob and Jane Doe. Not The Doe Family since that's a little more vague about who is actually invited. Adding the number of seats reserved definitely adds an extra level of clarity.

  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 Exit 21 (Jersey!) member
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    I don't know, I'm not a fan of that phrase on the RSVPs, especially when it says "in your honor".  Can't you just address the invitations to the people who are invited?  That's what we did, and we didn't have any problems with people trying to invite others.  Not one person.  And for the most part, we had no kids invited.

  • MobKazMobKaz Chicago suburbs member
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    I personally don't think any RSVP card is failsafe.  If someone is clueless or tactless enough to add uninvited guests, they will do it regardless of RSVP format.

    I had a nephew add his toddler to DD's invitation.  He asterisked the entree selection and noted that toddler would not require food as they would bring their own and/or share their entree.  Toddler was not addressed on the invitation.

    Nephew's mother, at a different family wedding years ago, knew FOR A FACT that children were not invited.  It was an OOT wedding and she was aware we had already made child care arrangements with my folks.  It was crystal clear.  She brought them anyway.

    RSVP cards do not prevent idiots/ego-centric adults from following your protocol.  I would not reinvent the wheel trying to do so.
  • AddieCakeAddieCake Beyond the Wall member
    10000 Comments 500 Love Its Fourth Anniversary 25 Answers
    We wrote in the people's names on the M________________ line.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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