One of my bridesmaids has caused many problems for me over the last month. I got married last week, and while my wedding was beautiful, there were some issues. (This bridesmaid is going through a bad break up with her fiance, yet still wanted to be in the wedding.)
My now husband is a pastor, as are most of his colleagues who were invited. His family is also deeply religious (all 75 cousins.) Because of this and because we don't drink, we decided to have no alcohol at our wedding or bachelor/bachelorette parties. Well I guess this didn't sit well with the grieving maid.
At my bachelorette party she left at 11 because she "was tired" and had "work at 7 am". I found out the following day that she lied and went to a bar with other friends and was out all night. Then, on my wedding day, she showed up tipsy, 2 hours late. She left pictures to take shots at a bar (we thought she ran in to use the restroom.) And she snuck alcohol into the actual wedding, sharing with enough people that other people saw and notified me. Before the ceremony, we were having our bridal party pray over us. My husband was crying as was I. My maid of honor noticed she was missing and found her in the bridal suite taking selfies. After being told we were waiting for her, she snapped and said she will be down in a minute and continued taking photos of herself.
I feel like I have every right to be angry. But another friend is telling me to be patient and that she is hurting which is causing her to act out. She says that it is "petty" to confront her. What do you guys think?