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MOG WANTS TO WEAR SNEAKERS!!!!

Help! My future mother in law wants to wear sneakers to our formal evening wedding... I'm dying inside. She does have blance issues but how do i suggest clogs or flats to her without sounding like a bitch?!
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Re: MOG WANTS TO WEAR SNEAKERS!!!!

  • So what is the problem?  Because I don't see one.

    charcoalandblushlc07YogaSandyInLoveInQueens
  • Help! My future mother in law wants to wear sneakers to our formal evening wedding... I'm dying inside. She does have blance issues but how do i suggest clogs or flats to her without sounding like a bitch?!
    You don't.  You don't get to dictate to your guests what they wear on their feet or bodies, formal wedding or not.  No one will notice or give a flying rat's ass what you as the bride are wearing on your feet, least of all what the MOG is wearing on her feet.

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  • Seriously. For all I know my MIL could have worn bunny slippers. Which, actually, would have been awesome.

    Regardless, your FMIL's footwear should not be your concern. Especially given her balance issues, her comfort should be your concern.
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    edited October 2015
    LET IT GO !!!!!



    Geez, my mom has balance issues.  Now she is in a boot, with a shoe lift on the other side to help even her out.  Sneakers are the best option for her.   If that is what it takes for her to be comfortable and not fall then that is what it takes.     

    It's so not a big deal.  Really, not a big deal.  If anyone dares judges her then fuck them.   

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  • edited October 2015
    Yeah, I agree with others.  Nobody will notice her shoes (they will be looking at you, not her, anyway). She's not even in the wedding party or standing up. Her shoes will not ruin your wedding. Just let her wear her sneakers. Especially if she has health issues to justify it.  I have back problems and wearing the wrong shoes can leave me bedridden for days.  Even many flats won't work for me. I would be offended if someone tried to force me to wear shoes that I knew would leave me uncomfortable.

    ETA: Plus, if she has balance issues and you force her to wear unfamiliar shoes, you will feel absolutely horrible if she falls down dancing and breaks her hip.  Now, that would put a damper on your wedding... a lot more than her wearing sneakers would.

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  • edited October 2015
    Let her wear whatever she wants, unless she wants to wear those shoes with built in wheels...those should be illegal in all 50 states.
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    charcoalandblushsouthernbelle0915
  • Let the woman wear her sneaks!

    My FMIL has scoliosis, and working as an OR Nurse for 35 years has done a number on her hips, so on bad days she uses a HC parking permit and a cane.  She's going to tell us during the cocktail hour/reception if she feels comfortable doing the Mother/Son dance because she's so self conscious of her posture that she may not want to do it.

    And she's BSC so I'm not even sure if I like her yet, but with all that said I hope she wears sneakers because our wedding should be the last thing she puts ahead of her own discomfort. 
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    OliveOilsMom
  • my mom wore her awful-to-me SAS shoes that are basically sneakers. She kept saying she would wear some sandals, and she did for a bit, but her feet were hurting and she has enough issues walking that I was like dude just put on the SAS shoes, no one cares what you are wearing.


    redoryx
  • My mom has a lot of foot problems and I told her she can wear whatever she wants and will feel comfortable in, as she is in near-constant pain normally. She actually found a very supportive small heel, but honestly, had she decided to wear her Crocs (the most comfy shoe for her), I would not care.

  • My mother is disabled and spent most of our wedding in a wheelchair (if she wasn't seated at dinner or in the pew at the church).  She wore black, Isotoner style slippers and had a knee length dress.  I didn't care.  She was there.  We lost her a year later, she could have worn a gunny sack and I wouldn't have cared.

     

  • I wore sneakers to my wedding. White Chuck Taylors.

    Guess I need a do-over.
    Me too! Except mine weren't even white. They were teal.  Sigh, I don't know if i can afford a do-over...
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  • My MIL changed into silk pajamas and slippers when there was still about 2 hours left of our reception. I didn't notice. My Mamam rolled her eyes and told me about it later but other than, I didn't hear a word about it.  If anything, people will judge her, not you.


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  • My H's dad wore crocs, jeans, and a polo shirt untucked to our wedding.  That's pretty much what he wears every day, except swap the polo for a tshirt.  I did not give two shits, because it didn't affect me or any other guests' enjoyment.  At least he was being himself.  
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    spockforprezMairePoppyInLoveInQueens
  • I wore sneakers to my wedding. White Chuck Taylors.

    Guess I need a do-over.
    Me too! Except mine weren't even white. They were teal.  Sigh, I don't know if i can afford a do-over...
    Just take out a loan or two and make it work! You need everything to be perfect.
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  • My H's dad wore crocs, jeans, and a polo shirt untucked to our wedding.  That's pretty much what he wears every day, except swap the polo for a tshirt.  I did not give two shits, because it didn't affect me or any other guests' enjoyment.  At least he was being himself.  
    I saw a guy on the cruise last week in jeans, purple polo, and purple crocks, the only thought I had was does he have a matching pair of crocks for every color polo he has.. please tell me this was your FIL on the cruise with me, and if so does he have crocks to match every color polo!?
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  • This can't be real life. Why do you care what other people wear to your wedding? 
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  • My H's dad wore crocs, jeans, and a polo shirt untucked to our wedding.  That's pretty much what he wears every day, except swap the polo for a tshirt.  I did not give two shits, because it didn't affect me or any other guests' enjoyment.  At least he was being himself.  
    I saw a guy on the cruise last week in jeans, purple polo, and purple crocks, the only thought I had was does he have a matching pair of crocks for every color polo he has.. please tell me this was your FIL on the cruise with me, and if so does he have crocks to match every color polo!?
    Haha no he only has black crocs, and only ever wears white or light grey Carrhart shirts.  
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  • drunkenwitchdrunkenwitch member
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    edited October 2015
    Oh you should totally fire that bitch and hire a new MIL who understands that your VISION is waayyy more important than her comfort.

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  • Who cares? Let her wear the damn sneakers.

    Also, is she wearing a long gown? Chances are people will not even be able to SEE them under the gown. And if they do, let's go back to my original question... Who cares??


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    PrettyGirlLost
  • Like PPs, I have no clue what type of shoes most people wore at our wedding. Except H's grandma, who rocked a purple crushed velvet track suit (with matching crushed velvet shirt!) and old lady sneakers. She looked awesome.

    You don't get to dictate what ANYONE wears to your wedding, and the fact that FMIL has balance issues means you should especially not care. Did you also put a dress code on your wedding website? If so, you should take it down immediately, because unless you're having a true black tie event, or your venue dictates a dress code (like country club requiring jackets on male guests), then it is wholly inappropriate.
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