Engagement Party?

Re: Engagement Party?

• Maggie0829 member

  

  April 2015

  An engagement party should be something that someone offers to throw for you, not something hosted by you and your FI.

  
  

  And engagement parties should happen relatively close to the actual engagement.  Just because your wedding may not be for another two years doesn't mean you should wait until it gets closer. The excitement of your engagement is happening right now.  If you wait till next year, sorry to say, people are just not going to care as much.

  
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  April 2015

  Maggie1683 said:

  I just got engaged last Month, but we aren't going to have the wedding until 2017. Would having an engagement party next month be too soon or should we wait until closer to the wedding date? Any advice thanks!!!

  You can have an engagement party now if someone is willing to host one for you now.  BUT... anyone invited to a pre-wedding party MUST be invited to the wedding, so you better be damn sure about that guest list.

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• lovegood90 member

  

  April 2015

  Don't worry about this unless someone offers to throw you an engagement party.

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• KatWAG member

  

  April 2015

  This is not an issue until someone wants to host one for you.

  And I would be very careful, because everyone invited to the engagement party MUST be invited to the wedding. If your wedding is on 2017 a lot could change regarding your guest list.

  

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• flantastic member

  

  April 2015

  Engagement parties are pretty unnecessary. If no one offers to throw one, or you decide it's better not to risk inviting someone you might not be close to in 2 years, you're not really missing out.

  The only conceivable purpose I've heard of for e-parties is as an opportunity for your families to meet and get to know each other, if they haven't already. If the families really want to do that, anyone can throw a party for that reason at any time. It doesn't have to have the wedding-related label of "engagement party" affixed to it.

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  April 2015

  If someone offers to  throw you an engagement party, it's better to have it sooner rather than later. 

  
  

  Keep in mind that everyone invited to the engagement party must be invited to the wedding. With two years to go, your guest list and budget are probably not set yet. For that reason, it's probably best to keep the guest list to a small number of VIPs that will certainly be invited to the wedding. You don't want to find yourself in a position where you're stuck inviting 25 former co-workers or neighbors, or where you decide you'd rather have an intimate ceremony with only 50, but you invited 75 to the e-party. 

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• AddieCake member

  

  May 2015

  I'm one who doesn't care if a couple hosts their own engagement party. I think engagement parties are stupid, but no matter who hosts it, it should happen close to the engagement date, not the wedding date.

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• 17forme member

  

  November 2015

  i got engaged around the same time as you (4/29/15) and we are getting married 4/28/17. my parents offered to throw us an engagement party and we just had it this past weekend. they aren't paying for my wedding, so figured this was a way they would contribute since we would get gifts. i felt like it shouldnt be more than 6 months after engagement, but at least a year before wedding. with winter coming up, thought not was perfect. lol.

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• JediElizabeth member

  

  November 2015

  Knottie1432653523 said:

  i got engaged around the same time as you (4/29/15) and we are getting married 4/28/17. my parents offered to throw us an engagement party and we just had it this past weekend. they aren't paying for my wedding, so figured this was a way they would contribute since we would get gifts. i felt like it shouldnt be more than 6 months after engagement, but at least a year before wedding. with winter coming up, thought not was perfect. lol.

  Gross. You just bumped up a zombie thread to give awful, tacky advice.

  
  

  Engagement parties should be within about 3 months of getting engaged. Not 6 months later. And if you plan to get married within a year of your engagement, you can definitely have an engagement party - there's no rule saying it should be at least a year prior to the wedding.

  
  

  Even worse, you expected gifts? People should not expect to bring gifts to an engagement party, especially not cash.

  
  

  My FILs offered to throw us an engagement party in May 2016 (we got engaged in May 2015 and will be married April 2017 - the day after you, actually). They thought the same thing - that we would get gifts to supplement the wedding budget. We politely declined, both because I don't like that kind of thinking, and because it was too far after our engagement to throw a celebration.

  
  

  Lurkers, please take note of that. Don't do what Knottie#'s did.

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• levioosa member

  

  November 2015

  Knottie1432653523 said:

  i got engaged around the same time as you (4/29/15) and we are getting married 4/28/17. my parents offered to throw us an engagement party and we just had it this past weekend. they aren't paying for my wedding, so figured this was a way they would contribute since we would get gifts. i felt like it shouldnt be more than 6 months after engagement, but at least a year before wedding. with winter coming up, thought not was perfect. lol.

  Please stop giving bad advice.  No one is expected to pay for a wedding except you and your FI. Your parents didn't give you any money?  Boo hoo, part of being an adult is paying for your own shit.  I can't even with the bolded. You sound like an awfully entitled person.  

  
  

  
  

  

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