So this past Thursday, my mom and I took my 2 cousins (both of whom are bridesmaids), some of my aunts, and grandmas to see my wedding dress. We had planned to make a whole night out of it- brought a bottle of wine and some snacks, and we were all supposed to go out to dinner after to celebrate. Our appointment was at 7:00 pm, and because the bridal salon is about an hour away and I had to pick people up and deal with rush hour traffic I left my house at 4:30, which should have been more than enough time. By the time I finally got to my mom's office to pick her up it was already 6:30. At this point I was beyond stressed out, I had been sitting in traffic for 2 hours already and I hate being late. As soon as I pulled up to my mom's office cousin A sends me a text telling me to avoid one of the highways because it was all backed up. I immediately texted her back thanking her and letting her know that we were running late because traffic was unusually horrible (which it was). As soon as my mom got in the car, I called the bridal salon, apologized profusely and let them know that we were stuck in horrible traffic. They told me not to worry about it and they would see us when we got there.
We were about 10 minutes away and I get a text message from my "aunt" asking where we were and asking if they would pass us. I responded with our location and asked why would they pass us, my "aunt" responded with if we left now. I told them that if they wanted to leave then they should leave, that we had been sitting in traffic for 3 hours and were doing the best we could, that I was extremely stressed out, that this is supposed to be a really happy and exciting day for me and if they couldn't respect that then they should leave. To which my "aunt" responded with "this is really rude to the staff" and "we all had to get there". At this point I lost it and just started to cry and my mom just told me to ignore it. My "aunt" was actually cousin B texting from my aunts phone.
We finally pull into the store parking lot at 7:30 (3 hours later), I walked up to the front desk and profusely apologized, the woman who sold me my dress came out, I profusely apologized again, and she looked at me with a huge smile and told me that it was really no big deal she was just happy that I got there. She took me back to the dressing room, told me to get undressed and that she would be right back she was just going to move everybody to the big mirror. She came back to the dressing room looked at me and said I can not believe your cousin (cousin B ) and how she is carrying on and complaining and that she just got right in your moms face to tell her off. A couple minutes later, my mom comes back to the dressing room and profusely apologizes for not only being late but also for cousin B's behavior. The saleswoman was in shock that cousin B would not only disrespect my mom, like that, but would have to nerve to ruin a special day for me. Apparently before we had arrived cousin B was sitting there and throwing a tantrum because we were running late, then while I was getting undressed my mom asked her to please stop, and cousin B went off on my mom and threw another tantrum telling my mom off and said things to my mom like you are not that important, and declared that she didn't even want to come and see my dress in the first place. Nobody could believe her behavior (did I mention she is 24).
Unfortunately this is not the first time she has done this to me, she has told me that if I ask one of my friends to stand up for me that she refuses to be sat with her at the wedding (she doesn't like my friend because she says she talks to much) saying "especially if you don't want any drama", and has sent me other kinds of mean and snotty texts. My mom keeps telling me to just ignore it, but its beginning to get really hard to ignore. I don't know what to do, I have some people telling me that I should tell her she can no longer stand up, and others telling me to wait it out. I am torn, she is my cousin, I love her and am really close to both her and her sister, but I don't even want to chance behavior like this coming out closer to the wedding or on our actual wedding day.
While I do understand the frustration with us being late, it was out of our control, we did the best we could and they sat in the same traffic that we did just not for nearly as long, and in the end we only ended up only being a half and hour late. I am well aware that while my wedding will be one of, if not, the biggest day in my life as well my fiancees and our parents, I do understand that it will not be so important for other people, nor do I expect it to be. I do hope however that people can join in our excitement and happiness, as I would in theirs.
I just don't know what to do about cousin B.....HELP!