I am currently 26 and will be turning 27 in a few months. Since graduating college, I have had one of THE worst (self-proclaimed) quarter-life crises and it’s really affecting my just-engaged mood L
For the past half a year, I felt ready to move on to the next stage in life with my boyfriend of 8 years. We’ve been together long enough to where we have hashed out and compromised over most, if not all, of our individual differences; we both graduated and have settled into stable, growing careers; and we’ve bought a house together earlier this year (although it is currently being used as a rental property). So when my friends asked, I would tell them that I felt ready, and I truly did! My boyfriend and I even went and picked out an engagement ring setting together at the beginning of the year. Everything seemed to be in place for the next phase in our lives.
He recently proposed to me and although I was happy while in the moment, the quarter life crisis has kicked into full gear and I’m more than a little nervous. It’s not that I’m unsure of being with him for the rest of my life or that I want to seek out better options. But coming from a traditional family, I have moved back and still live at home with my parents after college. That being said, the boyfriend/fiancé and I have never lived together.
As childish as it sounds, I’m afraid of moving out and leaving my comfort zone. What really scares me is the dreadful reality that time doesn’t stop. Being engaged feels like a real step forward into adulthood. While I have demonstrated myself to be a dedicated worker and commit to my projects, this is a major life changing event that requires permanent commitment! It just sucks to think that my “girl years” (in my culture/family, you’re not a woman until you get married) are over and it’s a time I will never get back…
Has anyone else felt these jitters so early on
in their engagement? L