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Jack & Jill Theme Ideas
Hello All!
FI & I are wanting to have a Jack & Jill style shower before our wedding. Yes, the kind where people buy tickets, and enter raffles, and spend money. They're very popular where we live so there's tons of places to host them, and people are generally more than willing to come (whether they're attending the wedding or not).
We have quite a bit of time between then and now, but I'm wondering if anyone has any fun ideas for themes?
He is from NC and I'm from CT/MA, so we played around with the "House Divided" theme for our favorite football teams (NFL and NCAA). I know casino theme is also really popular. And I saw these awesome centerpieces for a wedding that were goldfish bowls that I LOVED but they don't match our wedding theme. Do people generally have their J&J match the wedding theme or do something different? So many fun ideas to choose from, just wondering what other people have done that they enjoyed OR J&J they went to that had an awesome theme!
Side note: **Please don't comment if you're going to tell me that Jack & Jill's are tacky. Again, they're very common here so it's happening.... I'm just looking for theme ideas!**
Thanks!
FI & I are wanting to have a Jack & Jill style shower before our wedding. Yes, the kind where people buy tickets, and enter raffles, and spend money. They're very popular where we live so there's tons of places to host them, and people are generally more than willing to come (whether they're attending the wedding or not).
We have quite a bit of time between then and now, but I'm wondering if anyone has any fun ideas for themes?
He is from NC and I'm from CT/MA, so we played around with the "House Divided" theme for our favorite football teams (NFL and NCAA). I know casino theme is also really popular. And I saw these awesome centerpieces for a wedding that were goldfish bowls that I LOVED but they don't match our wedding theme. Do people generally have their J&J match the wedding theme or do something different? So many fun ideas to choose from, just wondering what other people have done that they enjoyed OR J&J they went to that had an awesome theme!
Side note: **Please don't comment if you're going to tell me that Jack & Jill's are tacky. Again, they're very common here so it's happening.... I'm just looking for theme ideas!**
Thanks!
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Re: Jack & Jill Theme Ideas
Pay for your own wedding. Don't ask anyone else to pay for it - especially your guests.
OP - I don't respond well to being told what to do, so Jack and Jill's are rude and tacky. But you already seem to know that. I didn't have a J&J, nor a wedding theme, so I can't help you
Fundraising for your wedding is tacky and rude as hell! Just bc something is common, didn't mean it it's appropriate...look at how many women go out in opaque leggings and a short shirt. A j&j is way more offensive
Already a DD in E.
Just so you know, people will side-eye this and talk about it behind your back. I hear about how tacky these things are all the time from people.
If you cannot afford to pay for your own wedding, scale back.
For realz, though. You posted on a public forum. We are allowed to comment and you don't get to dictate the terms of said comments.
If you want theme ideas for a fundraiser for your wedding, you're going to have to ask the people who approve of it, like your friends and family and these other people in your area who have done it. Here, the majority of us think it's an awful practice, so you are not going to get ideas from us. If you get any, it will be from some one random lurker who pops out of the woodwork to support your idea and agree that everyone is being mean, and then we will likely never hear from her again. And neither of you will change anyone's minds.
Seriously, let it sink in that you're sticking your hand out and asking people to pay for your party; do you do that in other areas of your life? Do you hit your friends and family and strangers up for lunch money? No? Then why now?
I don't consider a wedding to EVER be something that gets a fundraiser. Your desire to get married is not charity worthy.
That said, fundraising events for or at your wedding are tacky. And fish bowls, while pretty to look at, don't make good centerpieces.
I'm sorry if that isn't what you wanted to hear. But we're not here to validate bad ideas.
Who cares?
I mean, right? The type of people who would use goldfish for a party prop sure don't give a crap. Don't care that fish have to live in exact environments with water at proper PH balances. That they are living beings that get distressed being moved around, having the glass tapped on, subjected to loud pounding music, potentially having things spilled in their bowls or the tables shaken. Or that someone has to care for them after - just flush the f***ers. They're just fish designed for our amusement.
There is just so much NOPE in this OP. Grow up, pay for your own wedding, don't use living creatures as props. Throwing a nice wedding where you don't treat your friends and family like crap and your own personal ATM isn't that hard. Head on over to the budget board and we'll give you plenty of ideas on how to make that happen.
I know there are disgusting, selfish, greedy people in the world, but this one is trying too hard to be as gross as possible.
Goldfish wedding favors! I can cross that off my list now. Thanks!
I'm from MA and CT. This isn't commone practice where I live. I've been solicted only once for one of these J and J fundraisers. The bride was my boss at the time. When I declined, the solitor explained to me that it was customary to purchase a ticket whether or not I planned on attending. When I brought a wrapped shower gift to work for the ticket seller to bring to the 'shower' for me, she told me they weren't wrapping the raffle prizes.
I'm surprised no one has mentioned that the Bride and Groom shoud never, ever plan their own shower.
Goldfish in bowls are so passe. Kittens in fishbowls are tres chic.