So I had a perfectly even bridal party (4 and 4) and wanted to add one more woman but my fiance only has four close male friends. Well, after making fun of huge wedding parties, I saw a woman whom I adore that was on my short list at one point as a bridesmaid but was decided as a non-contender because it would cause possible drama with my soon - to -be family in law because I would have asked one of the groomsmen's wives that I became close to and not my fiance's brother's wife, who I am not so close with. I asked her to stand up feeling awkward but it now makes the wedding party uneven even though my fiance was on board at the time when I decided to spontaneously ask her, but now it throws everything off. I feel she'll be totally okay if I ask her to humbly not be part of it, however, she'd be such a great fun addition and a cheerleader for my happiness and willingness to make the engagement a fun one! Everyone says it's tacky to take pack the invitation which I agree, but is it okay to do if it could possibly cause fiance family drama?At the end of the day, it's really my decision I feel. But I don't want to be THAT bride :-)
I can't get passed "a cheerleader for my happiness" without throwing up a little.
If you kick her out of your WP, you will probably not only impact your relationship with this BM, but you will also impact your FI's relationship with this GM.
Put up with the family drama. All you need to say is that you picked your nearest and dearest to be in the WP. This is your FI's family, so if he really wanted his SIL to stand up in the WP, he can ask her to stand on his side!
ShesSoCold said:I can't get passed "a cheerleader for my happiness" without throwing up a little.