If my mother in law says they hadn't thought about rehearsal dinner when we asked her, acted defensive about it, and then a week later said it wasn't part of Cuban Tradition, is there anything I can say to help her think differently? I don't want to sound shallow but it is unfair that my mom and I are paying for everything else for the wedding (even bouquet, alcohol, marriage license). I think it is a poor excuse. I know they are tight on money, but I am totally flexible and willing to have it in a casual setting with affordable food served. I think she is intimidated to commit because we would want to invite all family, out of town guests, and bridal party (8 extra people outside the family) Please help me be tactful to keep this drama free!