So, my sis will have had a baby 6 weeks out from my wedding. Since we first started talking about my wedding, she makes comments about how she can wear something different since she's matron of honor. Totally fine. I originally wanted everyone to wear something different. Feel comfortable, buy something you think you'd actually wear twice. The color scheme is neutral, pick a winner! I was told I needed to give them more direction than that, so I picked 4 or 5 dresses from a line and said "go forth, try on, find something you like!" I should mention that I'm overseas and can't be with my girls to try on dresses, which is difficult. One of the girls helped narrow down the colors in the dress brand to a light, soft peachy/blush color, a "mocha" color and a light creamy/bronze color. Everyone went separately and wound up picking the same dress style, so I cut out the color no one wanted, and have 4 girls, 2 in one color, 2 in the other. My sister makes 5, so I said wear whatever. My sister looked at that designer online and was like "they're all open back, I'll have too much back fat, I won't be able to wear a bra " and I said, fine, pick something else, just keep it a neutral tone. You don't even have to pick the same brand. She says, "that's just not as easy as you think it is. Why don't you have the girls wear the same things and I'll wear something different." And I'm like," go find something different, you don't have to pick this brand!" So she goes, tries on lacy dresses of that brand (my dress is all over lace), which doesn't even come in the same colors as the rest of the dresses anyway (which i informed of both before her shopping trip and during) - and her options are ballet slipper pink, white, turquoise blue, and dark grey. Apparently she's about to cry over how post pregnancy fat she's gonna be and nothing fits and on and on and this is the only dress that works. My mom is sending me texts the next day trying to convince me to let her wear the pink dress. I'm like, she could literally have picked any damn dress in the store she didn't feel ugly in, and she chose only to try on the designer that she knew she didn't like the backs of dresses of, and then wants to wear the only dress that either a) isn't even close to anyone else's or b) looks like mine. Then, she sends me an email (which is very uncharacteristic of her) explaining that she understands that I gave her a choice, but it's just not that easy and someday I'll understand and we'll all just have to agree to disagree and she'll just pick one of the dresses from the same line that matches the other girls. I'm just confused. Am I being bitchy here? I don't feel like I'm being bitchy. I've told her like 4 times to go try on literally anything and find a color somewhere between cream and mocha, any brand, I don't care, whatever she feels comfortable in. I've suggested having back panels sewn into the dresses that show her back, on me, and she says that won't work. She says "it's not that easy" but I know exactly what store she's shopping in. Another bridesmaid sent me a picture when I said, "pick a neutral color" of about 50 dresses in blush/cream/ivory neutral tones (she was making me narrow the playing field!). I know my sister only tried on the one brand I continuously told her not to try on. And the only thing she comes up with is a lacy dress that looks like my wedding dress that comes in white pink and blue. I don't like pink, and it was the color of her bridesmaid dresses. It almost feels like she's creating difficulty where there doesn't need to be. Help! She just sent me this email, and I don't know what to do with it. Sympathetic? Just move on and chalk it up to pregnancy brain on her part? I'm getting angry with the situation so I don't want to respond. Can someone unbiased shed some light here? Please tell me if I'm being the asshole. Our relationship tends to be that I'm the pushover little sister and she is often the bossy Let-me-tell-you-what-to-do type, so I feel like I'm letter our dynamic influence this situation. ok, I'm down now. Looking forward to your thoughts.