My F and I met while our circle of friends was developing, us all being transplants to a foreign place. Now there's about 15 of us that hang out together consistently, some of us with closer personal relationships than others. The thing is, before he and I were dating, he had a casual relationship with one of the other girls, which turned into a year of her pretty much ignoring my existence until she realized our relationship was for real. Furthermore, one of the guys in the group tried to pursue me and when I didn't reciprocate the interest got really weird around the two of us, leading to a variety of really awkward encounters and some undo drama in our relationship. All is water under the bridge now and everyone is civil adults, but I'm not too keen on the idea of inviting them to celebrate our big day considering neither of them have exactly been supportive of our relationship. The problem is, if we invite everyone else, which I'd like to, it looks like we're specifically not inviting them, which seems rude to specifically exclude the two of them. Thoughts? I have held up sending save the dates to this whole group of people. One of the guys is in the wedding and others are excited since it'll be a destination/vacation for them to attend, so it gets talked about (I know, slightly presumptuous they're all invited). I feel so uncomfortable whenever it's brought up in a group setting. I don't want to feel like I can't talk about our wedding for the next 6 months because we don't invite these two people. But I also feel like they've been kind of shitty to us so why invite them. Furthermore, we're really tight on numbers, and I hate the idea of picking these two over my bridesmaids parents. What do you ladies think? All opinions on both sides of the argument welcome! Help! I need to inform these people stat so they can start making travel arrangements.