We are paying for 50% of our wedding expenses, with 25% coming from my parents and 25% coming from FI's father and stepmother. The money from FI's family definitely came from both FFIL and FSMIL both; it was a check from their joint account. His mother has not contributed financially.
With that in mind, we're confused about how to word the invitations. Should it be:
FFIL and FSMIL
invite you to celebrate
or do only the people who are hosting go on the invite? Can we use the "celebrate the marriage of their children" if one is a stepparent or shoudl we just use "invite you to celebrate the marriage of myname and hisname"?
If it matters, FSMIL did raise my husband; he lived with her and FFIL from the age of 6 until he left home. They're pretty close. He does have a relationship with his mother, although it's somewhat strained. FMIL had a lot of problems with me when we first got engaged because of her racist views, but she's working through that with therapy and I'd rather not alienate her so long as she's being polite and trying to change...