I got engaged a year ago and started planning for my May 2016 wedding. I asked my MOH to be my MOH a year ago and her daughter is my flower girl. I picked out a dress back in October and gave my friend the details. She has been having a lot of financial trouble and I have offered countless times since October to buy her dress and the flower girls. I offered to pay for hair and makeup as well but she refuses to accept my help. I called her yesterday to ask about ordering her dress as we have to order by the 25th to get it 2 weeks before the wedding at this point. She told me her identity was stolen and her bank accounts hacked and couldn't even begin to think about her dress. I apologized and we began to talk about the bridal shower which she wants me to plan and pay for but doesn't want any of my family or my FI's family to help. I am so stressed at this point that she won't have her dress and she won't let me help that I am considering asking her to be a guest instead of my MOH. Is this the right move? What are my other options?