We are in our 40's and have been together 10 years and are planning wedding for 2017. His parents are in their 70's and cannot travel due to medical issues; my parents are younger and are willing and able.
Our thoughts are private ceremony here with only parents and siblings (about 12 of us total), followed by JUST a dinner. No bridal party; semi-casual dress (me: white informal dress with cowboy boots; him: nice jeans, dress shirt, vest), no dancing.
A week later we would like to go north and have the main reception/celebration with my family (about 50-70 guests), immediately followed by honeymoon.
I have read over and over about the etiquette of this, but there is no way with his parents' restrictions to do it all together. We want the first dance, the father/daughter dance, the cake cutting, etc.
I guess what I'm most unsure about is: do we do a vow renewal to help segue into the reception? It won't be a secret that we were officially married the week before; but my family LOVES the ceremonial aspect/traditions and especially loves the parties, so we want to make it the most enjoyable for all involved.