So it's a long story but I'll try to keep it condensed lol. I'm a bridesmaid in an upcoming wedding. The bride is my FI's future aunt (his uncle is the one getting married) and I was flattered when she asked me to be a BM but I was under the impression FI was going to be a GM for his uncle, well that's not the case he was never asked (which is fine I've I was just surprised since he is actually blood related). She never asked about a budget and she said she knows everyone has financial restrictions so she picked the dresses of eBay (it's a prom dress) now I had no problem with this but other maids did. Well we all bought the dresses and now she wants us to have matching heels. I do have an issue with this because the shoes are quite tacky and tasteless not to mention they are 5 inch heels. The dresses are floor length and I don't really understand why we need to have matching shoes when no one will see them. But my biggest issue is, I can't wear 5 inch heels. I have sprained my ankles a lot and when I wear heels higher than 2 or 3 inches my ankles will roll and I will ulitmately sprain them again. I brought this up to her and she seems to not care, she told me that I need to buy the shoes and I can just wear them for the ceremony and the pictures and that after that "I'm free to whatever the hell i want". Normally I would say okay fine, but in all honesty she has been a less than accommodating bride. She's been very demanding and not willing to help out other maids. With all the things she's done I'm thinking about withdrawing myself from the WP. I don't really know her, and I don't feel like I should have to injure myself and spend the money on these shoes that I will never wear again. She wants me to buy the shoes and other accessories and I have a feeling she's going to want me to pay for professional hair and make up. I guess my whole thing is, does anyone have any advice?? If I decide to withdraw how should I tell her? Or am I being totally out of place and should just suck it up?