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Did your FI see/help choose your dress?
It's official. I hate wedding dress shopping. I find the whole process to be stressful and teeming with imaginary expectations. Even last night, I had another engaged friend and a newly married friend promise me there's a "moment." I call bullshit!
So I asked FI last night if he wants to have a vote. Since I can't decide I thought maybe if he chose it could be special for that reason. Plus, it's weird not showing him, I tell him everything. I accidentally tell him what his present is almost everytime! He's thinking about it, so of course I came here for more expert opinions.
So I asked FI last night if he wants to have a vote. Since I can't decide I thought maybe if he chose it could be special for that reason. Plus, it's weird not showing him, I tell him everything. I accidentally tell him what his present is almost everytime! He's thinking about it, so of course I came here for more expert opinions.
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Re: Did your FI see/help choose your dress?
All 3 are nice, but the middle one makes you look smallest in the waist if that's a factor.
For your dresses I like what the shape of 2 does for you but don't care for the lace overlay. I'd pick 3 if we were voting on those 3.
I never had "the moment" and lots of people don't. I picked the one I felt most comfortable in and also factored in price. Figured if I was stuck between more than one then price would play in
My husband didn't want a say. He's old fashioned, I guess.
My dress shopping experience was also frustrating and less-than-magical. I'm plus sized, so that made it even more frustrating. I went to a bridal boutique in Austin that was suggested in a bridal magazine, and they didn't have anything over a 10. So, the consultant said she'd hold the dress up in front of me so I'd "get an idea". Yeah.
When I got engaged, I was on a project with the Mayo Clinic, so I was in Minnesota every Monday-Friday. My mom lives in Austin,and I wanted her there, so we had a weekend shopping trip in Austin that sucked.
That week, I didn't go to MN because of 4 th of July, but I was working from home. I found a store with evening hours and confirmed they had dresses in my size range in the styles I knew I liked based on the dresses in did try on. As I was driving there, I called a friend who lived in the area to see if she could meet me there. The store was basically empty (it was in the middle of the week), and I got a dress off-the-rack. I felt a smidge of "magic", but part of it was likely me just wanting to be done with that part of planning.
Sorry for the long story. If your FI is open to giving input and you rock that'd help, go for it.
Two was the only one in my size but its technically a strapless under the lace jacket which I'm leery of, but love what the corset back did for my waist! One is more of what I always thought I would buy. I'm not really a lace or floral girl and the color is beautiful. Three was my friends favorite but I don't know.
Yesterdays experience sounds like yours @holyguacamole79I had an appointment but no one to really help me so the dresses on 1 and 3 were clipped on by friends. My cousin actually walked behind the counter to get the veil because I requested one and the lady just walked away. My best friend is going to see if she can get a half day in the next couple weeks so we can go during the week. Not that I'm happy that other people had unpleasant experiences, but it is a relief that not everyone finds it magical. Thanks for understanding my pain!!
I know what you mean, I really didn't like dress shopping at all! When I found the dress I bought I was so happy, but it was more because I genuinely thought I wouldn't be able to find one I really liked. Definitely not a huge 'moment'. Whats really wrong with wearing a dress that you like and look nice in, it's annoying that everyone has to be like 'oh when you find the one you'll just know'. Like theres something wrong with me if I dont? Its just a dress! (Albeit the most expensive dress I'll ever purchase!).
I would really have liked it if my FI had either come with me or at least wanted to see the dress now that its in our house. He doesn't at all, I think he's trying to be traditional whilst I'm terrible with keeping a secret from him. If he wants to, go for it!
I majorly lucked out with the place in Houston where I finally got my dress. I was the only person there (it was like 6:30 pm on a Thursday during the week of 4 th of July).
But yeah, minimal magic in that department. I'd say the only fun part about dress shopping was my sister trying on some of the crazy bridesmaids / prom dresses in the store to make me laugh. One was neon green and wasn't much more than a tube top. And it had feathers at the bottom. Another one was red with leopard print trim that had a slit up to there on the leg.
But it all worked out ....
thats a lovely dress! I really like the lace at the top. You look beautiful...and happy:)
My H didn't want to go dress shopping...partly because he was traditional, but mainly because he HATES any kind of shopping trip...
My dress wasn't a super magical moment, just the one I liked the best in price range. In my wedding photos I'm smiling from ear to ear, not because of some silly white dress, but because it was the day that I got married to my wonderful Husband and best friend!
For me one of the biggest factors in my dress (after price) was if it made me look like a marshmallow or not (plus sized girl here). I found a dress that went well on my body type and wasn't too crazy or too plain and was perfectly happy with it.
I was so worried about it that I actually told him, "When we do our first look, please just fake it if you don't like my dress." I think he thinks I was joking, but I wasn't.
Ultimately at the first look he said, "That dress is very you." Thank God.
Moral of story? If you (or any lurkers) have a FI who would like some input to the dress, I think it would be really helpful to have the opinion than nothing at all.
A PP said she showed her man a few pictures but not the final choice. I'd go that route.
I actually didn't have that "moment" until the second time I went to try on my dress. I had an appointment at David's and tried on a whole bunch of different styles but didn't love anything. Then I went to a smaller boutique and was between two dresses. One was the style that I had been picturing and the other was totally different. Went to a third salon but didn't love anything there. I went back to the second store a few weeks later and tried on both dresses again and then I had the moment. Ended up getting a dress completely different from what I pictured, but I love it! (Bonus is that, totally coincidentally, it matches my mom's veil, so I'll be wearing it for my wedding!)
OP- if you're looking for opinions I think the second one flatters you very nicely, but I'm not crazy about the lace overlay. The third one is beautiful and also looks great on you!
My FI has been nagging me since I bought my dress to know what it looks like. However, I always spill the beans, and I for once would like to surprise him.
I actually preferred to keep the outside opinions on my dress pretty minimal. I did two shopping trips by myself, took two of my bridesmaids on one, and did the last two (at the first two stores I went to alone) with my mom and my sister and that was the one I bought my dress at. I don't like the idea of giving everyone a "vote" I guess. My opinion is the only one that matters here and while I trusted my mom and my sister and my friends to be supportive in my decision and honest about what was flattering and what wasn't, it was ultimately 100% up to me.
FWIW, I love #3 on you. I agree with PP's that #2 does amazing things with your waistline but I'm not crazy about the lace coverup.
I had H watch an episode or 2 of Say Yes to the Dress with me. I'd say I love stuff like that, I hate stuff like that. And he'd say yea me, yea me too. So he had an idea of the style I was into but didn't actually see the one.
I also love #3 on you.
You look gorgeous in all three options, but #3 is my favorite!
I like the middle dress best on you if that counts for anything.
I think you look absolutely bangin in #2, but I LOVE #3.
I went back to pick up a dress for one of my bridesmaids and tried dress #3 back on (Sybil by Maggie Sotterro). I think it's my "if I can't find anything I like better I'll buy it dress." It's at least 2 sizes too small in this photo, but I think if altered correctly, could be beautiful even on my umpa lumpa frame haha.
*Insert local Detroit talk here*
@MandTFebruary62011 Thanks! I went to I Do Too Bridal in Plymouth (small dress selection, great customer service) and Allure Bridal in Livonia (better dress selection, horrible customer service). I am likely making my next appointment at The White Dress in Brighton when my sister is home, and am going to try to catch The Brides Project at the next Whimsical Show at St Johns/Plymouth since it's just down the street.
(FYI Detroit Brides: I Do Too is getting out of the bridesmaid business so if you're doing a color instead of a dress, send your maids there. Short dresses are $50 and long are $70!)
ETA: @pinupbride6189 , thanks for saying I look banging! I love that word and compliment;)/
I love #2 on you!
That said... I am dying to show FH my dress. I beg and plead and he refuses. Mostly because he takes delight in torturing me about things like this. I also wanted to get dressed together on the day of (we are spending the night before together) and he wouldn't do that either. He's so funny about certain things he's very traditional on while being very un-traditional in almost all other ways!
As for my fiance, we are doing first look photos but beyond that, he doesn't have much of an idea of what my dress looks like. I'm not sure he cares, but I'd rather him not see it before the wedding day. Pretty much all he said going in was "I really hope you don't get a big poofy dress," which wasn't my taste anyway, so that worked out fine.
Good luck! Personally, I like #2 the best, but #3 is my second choice of the ones you posted.
The top of #1 looks best/most flattering up there... The bottom of dress 2 is the most flattering to your figure... Now combine those two with some lace accents - and wha-la <Fairy God Mesmr Wand Waving> you have THE DRESS! LOL...
Odd as it sounds this is why I am disgruntled with the live-shopping experience and have gone to taking accurate measurements and ordering the dress I know I want online... Only rarely at this point am I disappointed (and why I choose a place that has easy returns!)...