Irrational/rational annoyances 02-03-16

lyndausvi · February 2016

The world doesn't revolve around me, but wish it would just once in a while it would.

back story - DH is in a family wedding at the end of April. It's a Friday night. They still haven't decided when the RD is going to be. Might be Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday.

DH's sister had a baby. The christening could be the weekend before, of or weekend after the wedding.

I'm irrationally irritated that they do not have the foresight to think how their plans may effect us. We would love to make plane reservations, but are waiting on them to firm up plans. Note - we are the only OOT family members. Most of them live within 10 miles of each other. That includes the in-law side also. Basically the fact that we have to fly in is often off their radars.

Rationally I know it's not about us.

What is your rational or irrational annoyances this hump day?

ShesSoCold · February 2016

My coworker's BIL died suddenly on Friday. My grandma died on Sunday. On Monday when I told my boss, he said "well bad things happen in threes so we should be done - with your grandma and Guy's BIL and I got into a car accident last week".

He got into a very minor fender-bender in a parking lot. And it was his fault. But yes, please, compare that to the deaths of two people. Fuckface.

lyndausvi · February 2016

ShesSoCold said:

My coworker's BIL died suddenly on Friday. My grandma died on Sunday. On Monday when I told my boss, he said "well bad things happen in threes so we should be done - with your grandma and Guy's BIL and I got into a car accident last week".
He got into a very minor fender-bender in a parking lot. And it was his fault. But yes, please, compare that to the deaths of two people. Fuckface.

WTF?

ShesSoCold · February 2016

lyndausvi said:

ShesSoCold said:

My coworker's BIL died suddenly on Friday. My grandma died on Sunday. On Monday when I told my boss, he said "well bad things happen in threes so we should be done - with your grandma and Guy's BIL and I got into a car accident last week".
He got into a very minor fender-bender in a parking lot. And it was his fault. But yes, please, compare that to the deaths of two people. Fuckface.

WTF?

RIGHT?! He's the type of guy who has never had a good day and everything is always terrible and woe is me blah blah blah. But this was beyond insensitive. And I've actually already had three deaths this year - within like three weeks of each other. So fuck off.

lyndausvi · February 2016

ShesSoCold said:

lyndausvi said:

ShesSoCold said:

My coworker's BIL died suddenly on Friday. My grandma died on Sunday. On Monday when I told my boss, he said "well bad things happen in threes so we should be done - with your grandma and Guy's BIL and I got into a car accident last week".
He got into a very minor fender-bender in a parking lot. And it was his fault. But yes, please, compare that to the deaths of two people. Fuckface.

WTF?

RIGHT?! He's the type of guy who has never had a good day and everything is always terrible and woe is me blah blah blah. But this was beyond insensitive. And I've actually already had three deaths this year - within like three weeks of each other. So fuck off.

sounds like a real winner.

scrunchythief · February 2016

ShesSoCold said:

My coworker's BIL died suddenly on Friday. My grandma died on Sunday. On Monday when I told my boss, he said "well bad things happen in threes so we should be done - with your grandma and Guy's BIL and I got into a car accident last week".
He got into a very minor fender-bender in a parking lot. And it was his fault. But yes, please, compare that to the deaths of two people. Fuckface.

Oh goodness, when I started reading that sentence I thought it was going to end with someone the boss knows dying. What is wrong with your boss?

And @lyndausvi for the wedding, could you just buy tickets based on the wedding itself and skip the rehearsal?

banana468 · February 2016

My complaint is with a family event at my parents' house later this month.

I mentioned that I lost a family member in the fall to suicide. On that side of the family we celebrate our Christmas somewhere around the second week of January because it's easier to get the fam together. Our gathering was a few weeks ago and the family member's son was on a cruise with his mom and her BF, his GF and her parents. No harm no foul - we said we'd get together later and we'd love to make plans to see him.

The son is 17, is into cars, and into some of the same interests as DH. We commented that we should get together more often than we have and the latest family news is pushing us to do that.

Flash forward to an email I get on Monday night that my parents are having a get together on the 21st at 1 and hopefully we can make it. I immediately wrote back, "Mom - that's the Daytona 500. It's the Superbowl of racing. DH has plans to watch the race and I think (the son) wants to see DH. Is there any way we can change it?" Mom writes back, "It would be difficult to reschedule."

Now she didn't ask me about the plans, we're the ones driving in from an hour away (as opposed to in town or even on the SAME STREET) and she didn't ask me if we were available before she made the plans.

So now it's lose-lose. I go with the kids without DH and let down the 17 yo or drag DH who will be pissed that he's missing the biggest NASCAR race of the year.

And all of this could have been prevented if my mom said, "Hey, I am making plans to get together - are there any days you can't make it?"

This is not the first time that my family has done this:
-in late summer, my grandmother passed. The day she passed I was told that funeral would be scheduled weeks away at a time that was convenient for everyone. I said, "OK - here are the two big schedule conflicts - days that I'm actually booked because I have events at my home: DS's birthday and my FIL's birthday." So what did they do? They scheduled it for the same damn day as FIL's birthday. No one on my FIL's offered to pick up the slack and move it to MIL's house or to shift it by a day (it would have adjusted my BIL and SIL's travel plans slightly). So instead, we drove the hour to the funeral, DH left with my IL's to host a party at my house without me and I stuck around for an hour. THEN because it was the Friday of Labor Day weekend, I had to get stuck in traffic and my one hour drive was an hour and 45 minutes in bumper to bumper beach goers.

-In the fall, my uncle (brother to my mom and her siblings - son of my grandmother) died after a long battle with terminal cancer. They said, "Hey, we are going to schedule the funeral a few weeks out. Are there any dates that you can't make it?" To which I told them the ONE Saturday that DH and I were having over 40 people including kids over to our house. What day did they schedule it? THE SAME FUCKING DAY. I told my family that time that I loved all of them but I would be paying my respects from my house.

I'm tired of being the one to shift my schedule while others are playing the inflexible card.

kimmiinthemitten · February 2016

@lyndausvi My grandmother died (years ago) and the funeral was being scheduled the week of my sisters Grad School Graduation. I had already had plane tickets to Florida to attend, and she had to buy a ticket home for the funeral. But my Aunt, who was planning it all, made sure first her kids (all 10+ years our senior) were able to fly home before telling my sister the date so she could make arrangements. People suck sometimes.

And @ShesSoCold that is insane! What a self involved person!

I'm annoyed with myself. I'm so far behind at work but I have zero motivation and I know I need to get going. But I don't, so the last two nights I've still been working because I can't focus. I'm currently online shopping for a dress for our banquet instead of quoting customers. It's so bad and I'm going to work from home tonight again.

holyguacamole79 · February 2016

I'm annoyed with myself for drinking too much wine last night at our anniversary dinner.

thefanciestbeckler · February 2016

ShesSoCold said:

My coworker's BIL died suddenly on Friday. My grandma died on Sunday. On Monday when I told my boss, he said "well bad things happen in threes so we should be done - with your grandma and Guy's BIL and I got into a car accident last week".
He got into a very minor fender-bender in a parking lot. And it was his fault. But yes, please, compare that to the deaths of two people. Fuckface.

That pisses me off. It wouldn't kill the guy to show a little sympathy. Besides that, a fender bender IN NO WAY compares to death. Good Lord.

My IO for the day is the fact that I can't lose weight by sitting on the couch all night when I get home from work, because that's all I feel like doing these days.

lyndausvi · February 2016

scrunchythief said:

ShesSoCold said:

My coworker's BIL died suddenly on Friday. My grandma died on Sunday. On Monday when I told my boss, he said "well bad things happen in threes so we should be done - with your grandma and Guy's BIL and I got into a car accident last week".
He got into a very minor fender-bender in a parking lot. And it was his fault. But yes, please, compare that to the deaths of two people. Fuckface.

Oh goodness, when I started reading that sentence I thought it was going to end with someone the boss knows dying. What is wrong with your boss?

And @lyndausvi for the wedding, could you just buy tickets based on the wedding itself and skip the rehearsal?

It's complicated. DH has the entire month of April off. I can take off anytime I want, but it's all unpaid. We have 2 dogs. So that means a dog sitter. Most of the time we fly out of Denver (4 hours away) because the fares can be less than half (and sometimes even less than a 3rd) of the airport closest to us.

If the christening is the weekend before or of the wedding. It's all good. We would fly in for a 6-8 days and hit up everything.

If the christening is the weekend after, well then it gets to be too long away from home and my work.

This is DH's first niece/nephew so he would really like to go to the christening if we are able. DH also thinks it's his duty to attend the rehearsal. Since he has the entire month off there really isn't much of an excuse of not attending either.

emmaaa · February 2016

I keep getting annoyed every time people announce they're pregnant. I know I should be happy for them but DH and I have been trying (only for 5 months so I shouldn't feel this way at all) and aren't pregnant. One of my best friends had her son in January and DH's best friend's wife is due in July and both were "accidents." I'm just here like, "I'm trying on purpose, can I catch a break?" Again, I am happy for my friends and seeing other people expecting but I am very irrationally annoyed that it's not me.

emmaaa · February 2016

@ShesSoCold I'm so sorry about your Grandma!

kvruns · February 2016

emmaaa said:

I keep getting annoyed every time people announce they're pregnant. I know I should be happy for them but DH and I have been trying (only for 5 months so I shouldn't feel this way at all) and aren't pregnant. One of my best friends had her son in January and DH's best friend's wife is due in July and both were "accidents." I'm just here like, "I'm trying on purpose, can I catch a break?" Again, I am happy for my friends and seeing other people expecting but I am very irrationally annoyed that it's not me.

preach it sista! my work has about 60 people and currently there are 5 women who are pregnant and 2 guys who's wives recently had multiples. H's StepSIL just had a baby and his StepSis just announced pregnancy not to mention H's 2 friends who's gfs who got pregnant. So I feel like we're surrounded by it but it hasn't happened. That being said I know that most of these people were trying longer than us so I can't be "mad" but I still get bummed when I see or hear about it.

emmaaa · February 2016

kvruns said:

emmaaa said:

I keep getting annoyed every time people announce they're pregnant. I know I should be happy for them but DH and I have been trying (only for 5 months so I shouldn't feel this way at all) and aren't pregnant. One of my best friends had her son in January and DH's best friend's wife is due in July and both were "accidents." I'm just here like, "I'm trying on purpose, can I catch a break?" Again, I am happy for my friends and seeing other people expecting but I am very irrationally annoyed that it's not me.

preach it sista! my work has about 60 people and currently there are 5 women who are pregnant and 2 guys who's wives recently had multiples. H's StepSIL just had a baby and his StepSis just announced pregnancy not to mention H's 2 friends who's gfs who got pregnant. So I feel like we're surrounded by it but it hasn't happened. That being said I know that most of these people were trying longer than us so I can't be "mad" but I still get bummed when I see or hear about it.

That's how I feel. I also feel so guilty complaining that it hasn't happened to us yet when we've only been trying for about 5 months (and 2 months really seriously) and there are people who have tried for years and years.

lembaslover · February 2016

thefanciestbeckler said:

My IO for the day is the fact that I can't lose weight by sitting on the couch all night when I get home from work, because that's all I feel like doing these days.

Me too! And that I just don't like the food that is good for me...

Also I hate how cold my workplace is kept! I shouldn't have to wear several layers just to not sit freezing all day. I realize it's mostly men and they like it at a colder temperature but there should be a happy medium... DH keeps our apartment cold too but at least there I can just cuddle up under a blanket. I'm going to have to start bringing a blanket to work I guess.

Finally sometimes I hate that DH and I are responsible. It sucks to see friends with puppies and kids and houses when we really want that but are paying off loans first so we can feel more comfortable affording all of those things. I'm sure I'll feel better in the future but it sucks waiting.

kvruns · February 2016

I'm annoyed that whenever I wear a pony tail to work it looks like I'm about to go workout but when others do it it looks stylish and cute.

lyndausvi · February 2016

I'm annoyed that DH took all the clean dishes out of the drying rack and put them right next to the drying rack. Like, how hard is it to....IDK? PUT THEM AWAY!

Then he washed his cereal bowl and spoon, yet he left "my" baking sheet unwashed. I guess since I made homemade bread on the baking sheet it's "mine". Dude, I cooked all but the pasta from scratch. Is it too much for you to clean the baking sheet? It only needed to be rinsed off anyway.

for the record, when he cooks dinner I do all the clean up. Seems fair to me.

thisismynickname2 · February 2016

Ever go to a restaurant with double doors to protect against weather? I hate when people open the outer door, and then open the inner door before closing the other. Ugh! And when a whole party of 4 or 6 takes their sweet ass time getting into the place while the diners nearest to the door freeze.... Yuck. That's my IA today.

sparklepants41 · February 2016

I have several IOs but probably mostly because I am PMSing.

I'm annoyed that I always ask H if he needs me to pick up anything on my way home from work, but he never asks me if I need anything. So it always ends up that I have an extra stop on my hour commute home. Arrrrggghhhh.

I get annoyed when people say "all the sudden" instead of the grammatically correct "all of a sudden."

I get annoyed that any conversation with SIL and/or BIL involves them talking about their children's bowel movements. We don't tell you about ours - so please refrain from telling us about theirs. So gross.

I also get annoyed that any convo with same SIL/BIL means that I have to listen to them referring to each other as Mom and Dad and FIL/MIL as Nana and Papa. I am not calling my BIL & SIL Dad or Mom. And I am most certainly not calling my MIL and FIL Nana or Papa. This is not Little House on the Freaking Prairie.

emmaaa · February 2016

sparklepants41 said:

I have several IOs but probably mostly because I am PMSing.

I'm annoyed that I always ask H if he needs me to pick up anything on my way home from work, but he never asks me if I need anything. So it always ends up that I have an extra stop on my hour commute home. Arrrrggghhhh.

I get annoyed when people say "all the sudden" instead of the grammatically correct "all of a sudden."

I get annoyed that any conversation with SIL and/or BIL involves them talking about their children's bowel movements. We don't tell you about ours - so please refrain from telling us about theirs. So gross.

I also get annoyed that any convo with same SIL/BIL means that I have to listen to them referring to each other as Mom and Dad and FIL/MIL as Nana and Papa. I am not calling my BIL & SIL Dad or Mom. And I am most certainly not calling my MIL and FIL Nana or Papa. This is not Little House on the Freaking Prairie.

I am so guilty of this! I never noticed I said it like that until DH pointed it out. He gives me a hard time about it every time I say it wrong.

lembaslover · February 2016

sparklepants41 said:

I also get annoyed that any convo with same SIL/BIL means that I have to listen to them referring to each other as Mom and Dad and FIL/MIL as Nana and Papa. I am not calling my BIL & SIL Dad or Mom. And I am most certainly not calling my MIL and FIL Nana or Papa. This is not Little House on the Freaking Prairie.

This one made me think of another one. I hate how my cousin's kids call my grandma GG. She is Nana to me and all of the other cousins (including him before he had kids) but since his MIL wants to be called Nana they changed my Nana to GG. Everyone seems to play along when they are around the kids but I won't, she's my Nana and if his kids are too dumb to understand the difference between Nanas that's not my problem!

CharmedPam · February 2016

lyndausvi said:

The world doesn't revolve around me, but wish it would just once in a while it would.

back story - DH is in a family wedding at the end of April. It's a Friday night. They still haven't decided when the RD is going to be. Might be Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday.

DH's sister had a baby. The christening could be the weekend before, of or weekend after the wedding.

I'm irrationally irritated that they do not have the foresight to think how their plans may effect us. We would love to make plane reservations, but are waiting on them to firm up plans. Note - we are the only OOT family members. Most of them live within 10 miles of each other. That includes the in-law side also. Basically the fact that we have to fly in is often off their radars.

Rationally I know it's not about us.

What is your rational or irrational annoyances this hump day?

Nope, I agree with you. I fly Southwest usually and I know the sooner the better. their rates go up the longer you wait, so yeah, I'd want to book those flights now too. And rooms, too I'm taking it?

sparklepants41 · February 2016

emmaaa said:

sparklepants41 said:

I have several IOs but probably mostly because I am PMSing.

I'm annoyed that I always ask H if he needs me to pick up anything on my way home from work, but he never asks me if I need anything. So it always ends up that I have an extra stop on my hour commute home. Arrrrggghhhh.

I get annoyed when people say "all the sudden" instead of the grammatically correct "all of a sudden."

I get annoyed that any conversation with SIL and/or BIL involves them talking about their children's bowel movements. We don't tell you about ours - so please refrain from telling us about theirs. So gross.

I also get annoyed that any convo with same SIL/BIL means that I have to listen to them referring to each other as Mom and Dad and FIL/MIL as Nana and Papa. I am not calling my BIL & SIL Dad or Mom. And I am most certainly not calling my MIL and FIL Nana or Papa. This is not Little House on the Freaking Prairie.

I am so guilty of this! I never noticed I said it like that until DH pointed it out. He gives me a hard time about it every time I say it wrong.

I have friends who say it that way too. It really shouldn't bother me, but it does.

banana468 · February 2016

My other irrational annoyance. DH has a name that is commonly shortened. Think: Christopher vs. Chris.

He never ever goes by the long version. The last time was probably when I stood in front of an altar and exchanged vows - 8.5 years ago.

My BIL has his kids calling him Uncle long version. It's sounds so contrived and stupid - especially when he doesn't go by the long version of his own.

kimmiinthemitten · February 2016

kvruns said:

I'm annoyed that whenever I wear a pony tail to work it looks like I'm about to go workout but when others do it it looks stylish and cute.

The struggle is real!

kimmiinthemitten · February 2016

New IA: I just changed some of my work passwords yesterday and used 2015 instead of 2016. No wonder it took me multiple tries to log in today!

CharmedPam · February 2016

for me, mine would be irrational. FI and I moved his dog into my house over the weekend since FI is over at my house more (due to work, we still have to live apart), I immediately fell in love with him (and if you remember my "loving an animal over your SO" post, I'm really not an animal person!). However, he's a shih Tzu and my bed is really really tall and he can't get up on his own, which is adorable if you think about it. He starts off on the bed, but in the middle of the night gets down and wanders. then expects to get back up again and wont stop until someone pulls him up.

So my annoyance is FI bought him stairs and it was a groupon deal. Which could be 8-10 days before shipping they said. I went to amazon prime and found the SAME stairs for $5 less and 2 day shipping, so we could have had the stairs by now. FI keeps on forgetting about amazon prime. Guess I'm waking up in the middle of the night to let him on the bed, his face is to cute not to!

[Deleted User] · February 2016

My I/R Annoyances are usually grammatical also. The Dunkin Donuts near me always has a deal on bananas. But they usually spell it "banana's," so that's fun. Today they had a new hand-written sign that said they apologize for the "inconvenienced" with the D at the end, and also used the word "are" when they meant to use "our." Kids today. Damn. A couple weeks ago a young co-worker was telling me a story about how a friend broke a table at her apartment. She "was living! Absolutely living!" She meant "livid" but I couldn't correct her because retelling the story was making her "living" again.

CharmedPam · February 2016

adk19 said:

My I/R Annoyances are usually grammatical also. The Dunkin Donuts near me always has a deal on bananas. But they usually spell it "banana's," so that's fun. Today they had a new hand-written sign that said they apologize for the "inconvenienced" with the D at the end, and also used the word "are" when they meant to use "our." Kids today. Damn. A couple weeks ago a young co-worker was telling me a story about how a friend broke a table at her apartment. She "was living! Absolutely living!" She meant "livid" but I couldn't correct her because retelling the story was making her "living" again.

That reminds me of a story my brother told me. He's a student teacher, and went to Starbucks to get a coffee one day. One of his students worked there and thought it would be cute to write "Professor last name" on the cup. But he wrote it Professer last name instead.

Funny except my brother teaches college kids. And English.

lyndausvi · February 2016

Y'all have heard of Mardi Gras right? The biggest few days in New Orleans?

Well it's next Tuesday (Feb 9th). Between tomorrow and Tuesday there are a bunch of parades. Shit ton of people. It's simply crazy.

One of my properties is on a few of the parade routes. I JUST got a call looking for 2 rooms for Friday and Saturday nights. I said "thank you for thinking of us, but we are sold out for those dates."

Then she started getting annoyed and pissy with me. Because clearly being on a parade route we would have openings so close to the weekend. Seriously? Then she asked about other hotels. Where could she stay, blah, blah. I don't fucking know? It's MARDI GRAS. 2 days before the biggest weekend of the year. How about booking.com?

Look, I'm all about nothing ventured gained. We get cancellations. I'm just saying do not get pissy with me that I'm sold out when you are looking for a room 2 days from the biggest weekend of the year. Fair enough, no?

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