I have started looking into gifts for our parents as I have always been under the impression that etiquette suggests to do so.
However, I have been reading into it and it seems to be more so if the parents are involved in the planning. My mother and mother in law are both being a big help, and I'm pretty sure already what I want to get them. My father is helping financially, so I think it only fair to include him as well.
My issue is my father in law. He is not involved in the wedding whatsoever, nor does he want to be. Of course he is attending, but he won't be helping in any way, he will not be making a speech, he just wants to be there. Are we still to include him in the gifting? FI doesn't think it's necessary, but I feel like excluding only 1 of the 4 would come off as insulting. He's a bit of a hermit and we only see him on holidays and for his birthday, I don't really see him caring either way.
Maybe just a smaller gift? Not sure how to proceed with this one.