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It's tragically dead husband day on Prudie

mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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Dear Prudence,
My husband and I had two lovely girls. His ex-girlfriend (they had a son together) has always been in our lives. She met her husband at our wedding. Last year my husband was killed by a drunk driver. I collapsed in every way possible. My husband’s ex and her partner took care of my girls and me. My in-laws were a joke (they showed up drunk to the memorial), and my family lives far away. Because of the insurance money, I paid off our home and will be financially stable. I want to ask them to permanently move in. The ex and her partner both have keys and are already here most days of the week. Rent keeps going up, she is looking for a new job, and it seems stupid to have them struggle when I have a huge house. They are family to my girls and me. I just have a nagging voice in that back of my head. I trust your judgment. Should I offer?

–Full House

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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    Wait. What does the nagging voice say? 

    I mean, I think it sounds like a great idea, but I need to know what she's having reservations about specifically. Also, she should definitely charge rent of some sort, even if it's "you buy groceries half the month" or "I don't ever want to have to clean a bathroom again". 
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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    and put the plans in writing.
    I can love somene and have them visit 47 times a day happily but still might want to smother them with the dog's bed if they LIVE with me, KWIM?
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  • artbyallieartbyallie mod
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    As long as there's a contract of some sort, I don't see the problem. People get weird about ex stuff. It is possible for adults to remain/become friends again with their ex and/or their spouse's ex. For that matter, H's last ex-gf and her husband are coming to stay with us next weekend. He had almost proposed to her and true, things were not amicable immediately after the break-up. But that was 10 years ago and we still have a lot in common so we are all good friends. Her H was my H's roommate back then, and we're all cat people so theoretically we could possibly live together if circumstances made it the best option.
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